Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my girlfriend to repay me or let it go?

edited 12 January at 2:00PM in Marriage, Relationships & Families
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  • Traveller321Traveller321 Forumite
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    She's a scrounger who sounds like she has a sense of entitlement. 

    Face it, you're never getting the money back, but that's not really important. What matters is that you get out of that relationship. The longer you stay the worse it gets. 
  • Medic994Medic994 Forumite
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    This is going to sound blunt, but if the two of you can't have an open and honest conversation about it (because you're too worried about causing a breakup, or she won't own up to owing the money) then eventually something else will come along and end the relationship. I'd say the money is actually secondary to the communication issues here.

    But - regarding the money - it's pretty unlikely she just thought you were treating her all of those times, especially if she hasn't verbalised that when you've brought it up. Sounds like she won't own up to it and just wants you to write it off, which is unfair.
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  • CapeTownCapeTown Forumite
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    Sorry but she is using you. You have paid for things and she has not contributed. Look in the mirror. See the letters TAMROOD  on your forehead?
  • MnoeeMnoee Forumite
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    This is another thread where its impossible to answer without more info. If she has specifically asked to borrow money over the last year or two and hasn't repaid it then just stop lending it. If she hasn't, and you're counting every penny that hasn't been split precisely in half for the past ten years then I'd just let it go. 
  • keithyno.1keithyno.1 Forumite
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    You’re being used as a cash cow, pure and simple. You might feel like you love her now, but it will all end in tears - and they’ll be yours. Time to get rid I’m afraid, because otherwise you’ll face a miserable future where money issues will always come between you.
  • sas3860sas3860 Forumite
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    If she gets upset when you try to discuss it with her, why not ask her to pay for a few things; even up the expenditure a little. That way you are, sort of, getting your money back. 
  • MiddlestitchMiddlestitch Forumite
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    Certainly not a partnership, are you?
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