I don't trust my family. Am I being paranoid?

hb2

I'm so sorry that the situation is getting worse I hope that the funeral today goes as well as these things can.

HampshireH

Why are you so fixated on the car and getting it back? What was it and what is it worth?

I understand the legal and moral stance but I'm not sure I understand the emotional attachment to it 

Wouldn't it make things easier if you forgot about the car and allowed yourself to grieve, be supported and sort the other stuff out?

Hope the funeral went ok.

Manxman_in_exile

HampshireH said:

Why are you so fixated on the car and getting it back? What was it and what is it worth?

I understand the legal and moral stance but I'm not sure I understand the emotional attachment to it 

Wouldn't it make things easier if you forgot about the car and allowed yourself to grieve, be supported and sort the other stuff out?

Hope the funeral went ok.

I think if I knew somebody whose mother had just died and their uncle took their mother's car and sold it* without asking anybody's consent, then I'd like to think I could understand it if they felt particularly upset and were even so irrational as to feel an emotional attachment to it.  And my wife says I have no empathy with other people at all.

*And IIRC did he sell it to one of the OP's cousins?!  Appalling.

thorsoak

Forgive me for asking a question that may well have been asked before - but how old are you?   Is it possible that your uncle "took over" because he felt that you were too young to be able to deal with your mother's estate?    

HampshireH

Manxman_in_exile said:

HampshireH said:

Why are you so fixated on the car and getting it back? What was it and what is it worth?

I understand the legal and moral stance but I'm not sure I understand the emotional attachment to it 

Wouldn't it make things easier if you forgot about the car and allowed yourself to grieve, be supported and sort the other stuff out?

Hope the funeral went ok.

I think if I knew somebody whose mother had just died and their uncle took their mother's car and sold it* without asking anybody's consent, then I'd like to think I could understand it if they felt particularly upset and were even so irrational as to feel an emotional attachment to it.  And my wife says I have no empathy with other people at all.

*And IIRC did he sell it to one of the OP's cousins?!  Appalling.

I understand the feeling upset and angry. But it's causing the OP further distress and breakdown of family relations at a time she needs support.

I'd send the letter stating it's stolen, expect it back, file the police complaint if that's the route to go down (but i may have missed if that's been done) etc and then bank it for now. Take time to grieve and sort everything else out. 

Which is why I asked its value etc as that would potentially put a different spin on it.

What I find a little odd is that nobody else in the family seems to take issue. Not the sister, the deceaseds mother or he helpful aunt.