What’s acceptable

Comms69

calleyw said:

Comms69 said:

bungalow123 said:

thank you ❤️ He told over text he was moving out, after 24 years 😭 I’ll stay in the house until it is sold. I’ll only end up with about 100k, even if I got a job here in the Midlands I could only afford to rent ☹️ But in Lincolnshire where my parents live I can afford to buy something. I don’t want to leave my kids and friends but the positives, buying a house and not ever meeting his new girlfriend once he’s moved on, I suppose is a plus xx

Im confused, why would you ever need to meet her anyway?

Live in the same town, go to the same places to shop, socialise etc that they did when they were couple.

Just because you are no longer couple does not mean you still don't have the same routine. 

Yours

Calley x

Oh you mean like run into, i see. 

meet suggests a more formal introduction to me, my mistake

calleyw

Comms69 said:

calleyw said:

Live in the same town, go to the same places to shop, socialise etc that they did when they were couple.

Just because you are no longer couple does not mean you still don't have the same routine. 

Yours

Calley x

Oh you mean like run into, i see. 

meet suggests a more formal introduction to me, my mistake

Well Comms thats how I read it.  Not that he was going to invite the OP out to dinner and bring his new gf along!!!!

Yours

Calley x

Comms69

calleyw said:

Comms69 said:

calleyw said:

Live in the same town, go to the same places to shop, socialise etc that they did when they were couple.

Just because you are no longer couple does not mean you still don't have the same routine. 

Yours

Calley x

Oh you mean like run into, i see. 

meet suggests a more formal introduction to me, my mistake

Well Comms thats how I read it.  Not that he was going to invite the OP out to dinner and bring his new gf along!!!!

Yours

Calley x

No no, think you're right. I was prob being to literal

bungalow123

calleyw said:

Comms69 said:

calleyw said:

Live in the same town, go to the same places to shop, socialise etc that they did when they were couple.

Just because you are no longer couple does not mean you still don't have the same routine. 

Yours

Calley x

Oh you mean like run into, i see. 

meet suggests a more formal introduction to me, my mistake

Well Comms thats how I read it.  Not that he was going to invite the OP out to dinner and bring his new gf along!!!!

Yours

Calley x

You read it right x 😂

onwards&upwards

If you have children together and your ex has a new partner you will have to meet them at some point for your kid’s sakes, so that weddings, christenings, graduations, birthdays etc. are pleasant and civil.  The same will go for him if and when you meet a new partner.  

Don’t make any hasty decisions to run away that you may regret.  You are a bit old to go running back to your mum and dad, sorry if that sounds harsh!  You may well be entitled to more than 50% too as you stayed at home to support your husband to earn more. 

bungalow123

onwards&upwards said:

If you have children together and your ex has a new partner you will have to meet them at some point for your kid’s sakes, so that weddings, christenings, graduations, birthdays etc. are pleasant and civil.  The same will go for him if and when you meet a new partner.  

Don’t make any hasty decisions to run away that you may regret.  You are a bit old to go running back to your mum and dad, sorry if that sounds harsh!  You may well be entitled to more than 50% too as you stayed at home to support your husband to earn more. 

I appreciate I will meet them at some stage possibly but my husband will be in a new relationship within days, as for me it will take a long time. I don’t have a choice than to move back in with my parents, I don’t work and don’t want to waste money from the sale of the house on rent and living. Yeah I’m old 😂 47 but needs must.

jackieblack

bungalow123 said:

onwards&upwards said:

If you have children together and your ex has a new partner you will have to meet them at some point for your kid’s sakes, so that weddings, christenings, graduations, birthdays etc. are pleasant and civil.  The same will go for him if and when you meet a new partner.  

Don’t make any hasty decisions to run away that you may regret.  You are a bit old to go running back to your mum and dad, sorry if that sounds harsh!  You may well be entitled to more than 50% too as you stayed at home to support your husband to earn more. 

I appreciate I will meet them at some stage possibly but my husband will be in a new relationship within days, as for me it will take a long time. I don’t have a choice than to move back in with my parents, I don’t work and don’t want to waste money from the sale of the house on rent and living. Yeah I’m old 😂 47 but needs must.

I would second the comment about hasty decisions.
If it comes to it, you would be entitled to a minimum of 50% (possibly more as your earning potential is probably far lower than his after years out of the workplace) of all assets, that’s not just the house, it also includes his pension and any savings.  You may be able to negotiate, for example, a bigger share of the equity in the family home in return for relinquishing any claim on his pension. 

I was able to take over the remaining (modest, as only a few years remaining at the time) mortgage and stay in the family home - I would not have been able to afford to buy anything in my area, nor earn enough to afford to rent,  although I did have to extend the term for the lenders affordability assessment.

onwards&upwards

bungalow123 said:

onwards&upwards said:

If you have children together and your ex has a new partner you will have to meet them at some point for your kid’s sakes, so that weddings, christenings, graduations, birthdays etc. are pleasant and civil.  The same will go for him if and when you meet a new partner.  

Don’t make any hasty decisions to run away that you may regret.  You are a bit old to go running back to your mum and dad, sorry if that sounds harsh!  You may well be entitled to more than 50% too as you stayed at home to support your husband to earn more. 

I appreciate I will meet them at some stage possibly but my husband will be in a new relationship within days, as for me it will take a long time. I don’t have a choice than to move back in with my parents, I don’t work and don’t want to waste money from the sale of the house on rent and living. Yeah I’m old 😂 47 but needs must.

47 isn’t old, you’ve got 20 years left before retirement and many more years to enjoy after that!  You are definitely too old to move back in with your parents though! 

bungalow123

jackieblack said:

bungalow123 said:

onwards&upwards said:

If you have children together and your ex has a new partner you will have to meet them at some point for your kid’s sakes, so that weddings, christenings, graduations, birthdays etc. are pleasant and civil.  The same will go for him if and when you meet a new partner.  

Don’t make any hasty decisions to run away that you may regret.  You are a bit old to go running back to your mum and dad, sorry if that sounds harsh!  You may well be entitled to more than 50% too as you stayed at home to support your husband to earn more. 

I appreciate I will meet them at some stage possibly but my husband will be in a new relationship within days, as for me it will take a long time. I don’t have a choice than to move back in with my parents, I don’t work and don’t want to waste money from the sale of the house on rent and living. Yeah I’m old 😂 47 but needs must.

I would second the comment about hasty decisions.
If it comes to it, you would be entitled to a minimum of 50% (possibly more as your earning potential is probably far lower than his after years out of the workplace) of all assets, that’s not just the house, it also includes his pension and any savings.  You may be able to negotiate, for example, a bigger share of the equity in the family home in return for relinquishing any claim on his pension. 

I was able to take over the remaining (modest, as only a few years remaining at the time) mortgage and stay in the family home - I would not have been able to afford to buy anything in my area, nor earn enough to afford to rent,  although I did have to extend the term for the lenders affordability assessment.

Going to seek legal advice next week, any idea how much it’ll cost?

bungalow123

onwards&upwards said:

bungalow123 said:

onwards&upwards said:

If you have children together and your ex has a new partner you will have to meet them at some point for your kid’s sakes, so that weddings, christenings, graduations, birthdays etc. are pleasant and civil.  The same will go for him if and when you meet a new partner.  

Don’t make any hasty decisions to run away that you may regret.  You are a bit old to go running back to your mum and dad, sorry if that sounds harsh!  You may well be entitled to more than 50% too as you stayed at home to support your husband to earn more. 

I appreciate I will meet them at some stage possibly but my husband will be in a new relationship within days, as for me it will take a long time. I don’t have a choice than to move back in with my parents, I don’t work and don’t want to waste money from the sale of the house on rent and living. Yeah I’m old 😂 47 but needs must.

47 isn’t old, you’ve got 20 years left before retirement and many more years to enjoy after that!  You are definitely too old to move back in with your parents though! 

I don’t want to move back it with my parents I’m dreading it but what other choice do I have, the job market isn’t booming right now ☹️