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Comms69 said:Accountant_Kerry said:onwards&upwards said:Accountant_Kerry said:onwards&upwards said:Comms69 said:onwards&upwards said:Is 50/50 best for the kids? How will it work in practice? Will they not feel as though they are being constantly shunted from pillar to post with no place that is truly ‘home’?I know a few people who felt like they were guests in both homes, they never felt it was ‘my house’ always either ‘mum’s house’ or ‘dad’s house’ and never enough time to fully relax and settle in either one as they were only ever a few nights from packing up and swapping again. That seems a shame to me.
I’m sure there are families making it work as well as possible, just throwing it out there not to assume it’s the best way forward. I wonder if some parents want it to avoid paying support sometimes (not directed at you but there are definitely some!
I find it strange.
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Accountant_Kerry said:Comms69 said:Accountant_Kerry said:onwards&upwards said:Accountant_Kerry said:onwards&upwards said:Comms69 said:onwards&upwards said:Is 50/50 best for the kids? How will it work in practice? Will they not feel as though they are being constantly shunted from pillar to post with no place that is truly ‘home’?I know a few people who felt like they were guests in both homes, they never felt it was ‘my house’ always either ‘mum’s house’ or ‘dad’s house’ and never enough time to fully relax and settle in either one as they were only ever a few nights from packing up and swapping again. That seems a shame to me.
I’m sure there are families making it work as well as possible, just throwing it out there not to assume it’s the best way forward. I wonder if some parents want it to avoid paying support sometimes (not directed at you but there are definitely some!
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Thanks for everyones reply so far. Been told the usual split for spouse maintenance is 1/3 of my income by my Lawyer. Because or difference in income is so great, I will have to give her spouse maintenance.0
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Surely that can be for a limited time? There is a difference between not being willing to work, and needing a bit of time to update skills and get back into the employment market.0
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LonMan said:Thanks for everyones reply so far. Been told the usual split for spouse maintenance is 1/3 of my income by my Lawyer. Because or difference in income is so great, I will have to give her spouse maintenance.0
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LonMan said:Thanks for everyones reply so far. Been told the usual split for spouse maintenance is 1/3 of my income by my Lawyer. Because or difference in income is so great, I will have to give her spouse maintenance.12; maybe 18 months0
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Is your solicitor family law accredited? I’d have thought maybe up to 3 years at most to allow for some sort of training. Both of you really do need to sign up with wikivorce to get advice about the latest thinking on splitting finances.She would have a better case if she fought for being main carer rather than accepting 50/50 care and asked for child maintenance. I think you need to be prepared for that as a tactic. But she needs to be persuaded to think long term. If she gets what she wants until youngest is 18 (or 21 if uni is involved) then she is simply postponing the inevitable. She will be that much older, and suddenly looking for a job. That is going to be far more disastrous than taking steps to get back into the job market now.1
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Had an update from my Lawyer. Seems to think that 50/50 split of the house and £1900 for the next thirteen years is a good deal as apparently she could get a lot more. It's difficult because my income can vary considerably from year to year. Shes now also asking for 70% of the house plus £1900.0
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LonMan said:Had an update from my Lawyer. Seems to think that 50/50 split of the house and £1900 for the next thirteen years is a good deal as apparently she could get a lot more. It's difficult because my income can vary considerably from year to year. Shes now also asking for 70% of the house plus £1900.Has your solicitor explained why this is his/her thinking?Have you taken a second opinion from a solicitor with plenty of experience?0
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LonMan said:Had an update from my Lawyer. Seems to think that 50/50 split of the house and £1900 for the next thirteen years is a good deal as apparently she could get a lot more. It's difficult because my income can vary considerably from year to year. Shes now also asking for 70% of the house plus £1900.3
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