Change 13 February at 12:24AM in Marriage, Relationships & Families 75 replies 3.5K views

renegadefm

Not sure if this is even the correct section, but why is it when we reach a certain age,  presumably middle age,  I.E. 50 plus,  everything seems better in your past,  weather,  way of life,  society,  etc etc. 
So why are we as humans when we are younger obsessed with changing it all, only for it to be a disadvantage when we're older? And why do we so easily accept these changes instead of resisting them more profusely?

gettingtheresometime

I don't think things when I was younger was 100% better just as I don't think that change is 100% better either.

Surely it's elements of both the past and present are better?

Lover_of_Lycra

renegadefm said:

Not sure if this is even the correct section, but why is it when we reach a certain age,  presumably middle age,  I.E. 50 plus,  everything seems better in your past,  weather,  way of life,  society,  etc etc. 
So why are we as humans when we are younger obsessed with changing it all, only for it to be a disadvantage when we're older? And why do we so easily accept these changes instead of resisting them more profusely?

Just because people remember things as being better doesn't mean to say they were.  People tend to look back with rose tinted glasses on and remember the good stuff.  It's a bit like doing an endurance sporting event, at some points it will be really hateful but once your over the finish line you forget about the hateful bits or Type 2 fun parts as I like to call them.  No one ever really remembers running a marathon or they wouldn't do another one.  Child birth is similar.

-taff

We are too stupid to realise history is just an endless repeat of baby/youth/middle age/old age and that all the ideas we think we have are just rinse and repeat endlessly...Have a read and think about ho you have been throughout your life...

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20171003-proof-that-people-have-always-complained-about-young-adults

onomatopoeia99

Things weren't better when I was a teenager in the 1980s.  Mental health wasn't talked about, teachers were still permitted to use violence against children, there was no equal marriage, LBG people were far more marginalized than they are today (e.g. section 28), there were no rights for trans people and so on.  Go back further to the 1970s, before PACE, and we have abuses by the police like the Birmingham six and Guildford four. 

Things are far from perfect now, but they are better than when I was younger.

Gavin83

gettingtheresometime said:

I don't think things when I was younger was 100% better just as I don't think that change is 100% better either.

Surely it's elements of both the past and present are better?

This. It’s also somewhat relative. Some people might like certain changes while others will be against it.

Overall though society generally improves.

74jax

renegadefm said:

Not sure if this is even the correct section, but why is it when we reach a certain age,  presumably middle age,  I.E. 50 plus,  everything seems better in your past,  weather,  way of life,  society,  etc etc. 
So why are we as humans when we are younger obsessed with changing it all, only for it to be a disadvantage when we're older? And why do we so easily accept these changes instead of resisting them more profusely?

I think it's the individual. I'm 45 and consider myself middle aged. I can't say I've ever thought about it. Looking back now I don't think it was better, do you mean more people you talk to feel this way or you do? 

suejb2

It’s all relative. You’re acting on hindsight because you can “see” your past you cannot “see” your future. It not better just different.

badmemory

It is all a matter of perception.  I view a couple of years at the end of my 20s as the very best.  After that it is anything after my late 50s to my early 70s (where I am now).  Although my last year was not of the greatest due to my son's ill health.  Looking forward to my later 70s being a real bonus although I am sure that at some point my own ill health will pose a problem, but family history dictates at least mid 80s.

Why should the future be worse?  All you need to do is make sure that you are a part & have a say in that future.  Giving up, stepping back, is not an option.  I may be over 70 but I think the internet is fantastic.  News at your fingertips, all different opinions that were difficult to access years ago (hate facebook etc by the way).  You do need to be critical of what is on there & not just accept what is "said" but can we believe everything now that is on the news (I exclude the BBC from this as any news reports which are considered biased from all sides of the political spectrum must be doing something right why else would the tories be trying to get rid of them) some (ITV SKY FOX etc) are so biased that they are unwatchable.

To 74jax - middle aged at 45 - I am 73 & still don't consider myself middle aged or at least still don't have a middle aged mindset.

renegadefm

onomatopoeia99 said:

Things weren't better when I was a teenager in the 1980s.  Mental health wasn't talked about, teachers were still permitted to use violence against children, there was no equal marriage, LBG people were far more marginalized than they are today (e.g. section 28), there were no rights for trans people and so on.  Go back further to the 1970s, before PACE, and we have abuses by the police like the Birmingham six and Guildford four. 

Things are far from perfect now, but they are better than when I was younger.

Yeah but you say about teachers using violence, we didnt see it that way then did we? What I mean is if I did something wrong I probably deserved it, my father wouldn't hesitate to smack my !!!!!!, but it did me good, I knew right from wrong. Compared to an out of control generation we have now. Sorry but that's how I see it.
Everything seemed more orderly when I was younger. 

onwards&upwards

renegadefm said:

onomatopoeia99 said:

Things weren't better when I was a teenager in the 1980s.  Mental health wasn't talked about, teachers were still permitted to use violence against children, there was no equal marriage, LBG people were far more marginalized than they are today (e.g. section 28), there were no rights for trans people and so on.  Go back further to the 1970s, before PACE, and we have abuses by the police like the Birmingham six and Guildford four. 

Things are far from perfect now, but they are better than when I was younger.

Yeah but you say about teachers using violence, we didnt see it that way then did we? What I mean is if I did something wrong I probably deserved it, my father wouldn't hesitate to smack my !!!!!!, but it did me good, I knew right from wrong. Compared to an out of control generation we have now. Sorry but that's how I see it.
Everything seemed more orderly when I was younger. 

How old are you?  You are young enough to have a 4 year old child but you sound like Piers Morgan!

i don’t think any generation has ever been ‘out of control’.