Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism 5 January at 7:27PM edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Marriage, Relationships & Families 949 replies 225.1K views

hb2

I did, of course, mean to say 'Glad you got here Beanie'! Surely, just the threat of you going up to 'sort it out' should scare the boiler into submission?!

beanielou

hb2 said:

I did, of course, mean to say 'Glad you got here Beanie'! Surely, just the threat of you going up to 'sort it out' should scare the boiler into submission?!

Thanks 

If only!

Savvy_sewing

I have taken some work to the other Seamstress to do.
 I will try to get a rhythm again today.
 But I still need to get off my backside and get everybody ready for school.
were all sitting in my bedroom on gadgets! 

pollyanna_26

Savvy_sewing said:

I have taken some work to the other Seamstress to do.
 I will try to get a rhythm again today.
 But I still need to get off my backside and get everybody ready for school.
were all sitting in my bedroom on gadgets! 

Hope you enjoyed your time with your friend last night Ss. After the xbox problems with ds and dgd perhaps it's better to keep gadgets for after school , work etc and have a different morning routine so the little ones don't see it as a norm. I know they wake early but better to work on keeping them in their room with a book or something. Your room was meant to be your sanctuary and it's no longer that.

Hope the boiler is behaving today beanie.

pollyx

Savvy_sewing

pollyanna_26 said:

Savvy_sewing said:

I have taken some work to the other Seamstress to do.
 I will try to get a rhythm again today.
 But I still need to get off my backside and get everybody ready for school.
were all sitting in my bedroom on gadgets! 

Hope you enjoyed your time with your friend last night Ss. After the xbox problems with ds and dgd perhaps it's better to keep gadgets for after school , work etc and have a different morning routine so the little ones don't see it as a norm. I know they wake early but better to work on keeping them in their room with a book or something. Your room was meant to be your sanctuary and it's no longer that.

Hope the boiler is behaving today beanie.

pollyx

I had a good laugh with my friend, we have a good moan about our problems and listen to each other but we have a knack of getting the funny side out. 
I did a little better with my structure in the day yesterday.
 I don't allow Xbox etc in the mornings, but if I leave dgs2 in the bedroom he will climb up the ladder and jump on his brother and wake him up, then we have the ww3 as they fight etc. There is no peace for anybody then. 
It may be a bit of lazy parenting on my behalf but it is best for my nerves, to bring him into my room and let him watch children's videos on the google hub thing, sat beside me, while I make my tea, and read or write than to be referee, in a screaming and biting match!
we have a calm start to the day then, and usually at 7.15 I stop the gadgets and come down to start the day. Much more civilised and calm.
then it's a brioche while I sort the clothes, washing up etc (if I didn't get it done the night before), and then cereal etc and dressed for school.
it is Dgd that is the difficult one, we put restrictions on her Xbox, but she will then do something else when I have gone to bed, and it's frustrating to get her up in the morning.
 I am going to be trying to change the morning routine a bit when half term is over.
 I am also thinking of going on the waiting list for extra sessions at Breakfast club etc as Dgd1 really loves going to breakfast club, and it spreads the school drop off times and makes it a lot easier for me on the mornings he goes.
 I will be gathering my bills etc from there and working out what I am paying to see if I can claim on my tax credits for some of the costs, and I will then be able to get into my workshop earlier in the day and be more productive.

hb2

Ss, spreading out the school run sounds a great idea if it is possible.

tooldle

Could your son contribute to the costs? Breakfast club is not hugely expensive as i recall.

Savvy_sewing

tooldle said:

Could your son contribute to the costs? Breakfast club is not hugely expensive as i recall.

It is only £3.90 a day, for the breakfast club. But for making things less rushed it is worth it.
 I am funded for the children now so he doesn't need to pay me money, and I would rather he continues to do down his debts.

tooldle

That is cheap. I’m sure i paid more than that when mine was in primary school a good few years ago. I was thinking more of dad stumping up rather than the tax payer to be honest. Every penny counts and all that. 

Savvy_sewing

Spent the afternoon taking Biggest's girls to the swimming pool followed by McDonald's.
dgd wasn't too well so she didn't come this time but I hope that we will be able to do it again soon with her.
 I am waiting for the boys to be returned from the other family, I hope that they are back soon as the weather here is not too good and my fence panels are down between us and the family with 5 dogs!
 I hope that they will sort it as they put it up originally when I first moved in.