Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

Savvy_sewing

All asleep. Yeah.
slight rebellion but I managed to turn it around. He wanted me to sing to him, and he was asleep within 4 minutes.
Not sure why they suddenly want me to sing to them, but if it works then that's fine. 

Savvy_sewing

Dgs1 was asleep all night until 7 this morning.
dgs2 was not. He was upset and crying a lot. He is constipated and had tummy pains, although he couldn't really tell me, except he kept saying he had pooped, except he hadn't. ( this morning he is rather windy). He was up and down like a yoyo. Finally I got him asleep in my bed around 4.30.  He had also cried for Daddy and said he missed him. He also was keen to have one of my teddies ( a very recent thing), and was concerned his brother would take it off of him.
 I did my best to reassure him that he would see Daddy today and that his brother was asleep and wouldn't be able to take his teddy. I sang twinkle twinkle at his request until he slept, but it was several times all through the night.
 I am going to try to get him sorted for the loo. 

Breakfast time, get them dressed for Holiday club, pack their lunches and change bags. Once they are sorted I can do another hour painting the cabin. It is slow going because of my hand, and at the moment with the constant picking up of the children my old problem with my left arm has been flaring up.
I have a trip to Aldi for my Mum ( and more milk for us), and drop her stuff to her then at lunchtime Biggest and I are taking advantage of the 50% off lunch deal at one of the pub restaurants halfway between our two towns. 

This afternoon I have a bag full of name tapes to sew on form a customer that I have had sitting for a month. Good job there is another month till school.
 I am expecting some telephone call appointments from the Health Visitor and the physio and also the post adoption team. Daddy is collecting the boys at 3 and having them for another sleepover.
This seems to be going ok, so while we are able to I want to encourage it. It gives me respite. I know that the gf looks after them too, and they seem to love her. 

Here is hoping that all goes to plan.

Savvy_sewing

Plans changed.
physio call, health visitor call.
Conversation with Manager at the holiday club not 5 minutes from drop off. Dgs1 had already kicked off and that last week he was a handful and if he continues he will have to be excluded. Not the best start.
 I have contacted the Post Adoption team to update them. I have talked to the Health Visitor as she was calling about Dgs2, and she is going to refer to the school nurse. 

Let's hope they cope for lunchtime at least. It may be that he will be home even more. I also had a long conversation with DS and his GF about it all. 

beanielou

Sorry to read this.
Hope the post adoption team can help.

Savvy_sewing

Post adoption team have replied to me ( that's a good start), and will call tomorrow at 10am to talk to me. 

Dgs1 managed the day, but Dad just said they don't tell him much they save it up for me.
lunch was relaxed and good.
 Biggest popped back with me and helped me move a pile of wood that was leaning against the shed, and that has collapsed on to the fence. So we have examined it, and it really is too far gone for repairs so time to replace it.
The evening is now mine and Dgd s.
 I am tired so I am going to have a nap.
then this evening do those name tapes while watching something on the tv.

pollyanna_26

When my youngest sister was little she began to suffer with constipation. Health visiter advised giving her segments of oranges rather than over the counter remedies. She had oranges daily and it was soon sorted. Mum kept up the oranges for quite a while until eventually stopped happening. The fibre did the trick and of course she had the benefit of Vitamin C.

Sorry things have been difficult but I'm glad you are getting calls re your concerns.

Hope you catch up on some sleep tonightt.

pollyx

Savvy_sewing

Off to bed.
 I had a lovely soak in a bubble bath with candles and a book and then dresses in comfy casual clothes and did an hour and half hand sewing name tapes. About 1/3 done that I need to do, but I can do more tomorrow.
Had a non alcoholic pink gin and tonic and watched some Escape to the chateau and thoroughly enjoyed the day.
DS said boys were settled etc it was the girls who were messing about when I messaged him.
dgd has been experimental cooking this evening, unsuccessfully,
Here is hoping that I will sleep well tonight. 

Take care everyone 

hb2

Savvy, I hope you managed to catch up on some sleep last night.

Thank you to Beanie (I think it was) for explaining my comment about not giving in. She was correct, I was talking about giving in to demands for tech etc. I remember being told 'If you think you will end up saying "Yes" after hours of pestering, you might as well say it straight away. Otherwise all you are teaching the child/ren is that they will get what they want if they pester enough!'

thorsoak

Children are expert "broken records" - we just have to remember and be the same!

Savvy_sewing

hb2 said:

Savvy, I hope you managed to catch up on some sleep last night.

Thank you to Beanie (I think it was) for explaining my comment about not giving in. She was correct, I was talking about giving in to demands for tech etc. I remember being told 'If you think you will end up saying "Yes" after hours of pestering, you might as well say it straight away. Otherwise all you are teaching the child/ren is that they will get what they want if they pester enough!'

It was me who corrected Onwards.
sometimes reading things out of context can mix it up rather.
 I had a decent night sleep, woke early, rolled over and went back to sleep. It was about 8.30 when emails started pinging into my phone.
Biggest came over and helped me sort out my workspace ready for a wedding fitting next week.
Dad had to bring the boys home earlier than planned as the gf needed the car.
 I had a conference call with the Post Adoption team for about an hour, and then she is calling again tomorrow.
when I said that I thought he had an attachment disorder she told me they don't call it that. Right what do they call it then? Because I don't care what the name is, there are problems and they need help.
interestingly she wanted to know why Mums contact was as high as 2 hours a week, and I said that it was nothing to do with me. She then accessed the court order ( a copy of which I don't have), and said that it was up to me if I wanted it to happen 
I explained that Mum comes with granny and returns with granny so I know for a fact she is there longer. So that's an issue she wants changing. I said that I cannot do it or I am liable to have my tyres deflated or something. ! 

So they are going to contact them on my behalf! Ha I will still get the fall out.
it looks like my plans to let them have sleepovers with anyone is going to be vetoed. As apparently that is causing the problem more recently.