Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

beanielou

I think the new notebook to record what they eat & drink is a fantastic idea 

I will pop one in the post. 

I had a ‘thing’ for notebooks & have too many. 

Savvy_sewing

beanielou said:

I think the new notebook to record what they eat & drink is a fantastic idea 

I will pop one in the post. 

I had a ‘thing’ for notebooks & have too many. 

Thank you so much.
 I am all ears to learn how to deal with the boys. Although my twins have autism they were never aggressive or violent.

elisamoose

SS have a look at attachment theory

Savvy_Sue

elisamoose said:

SS have a look at attachment theory

The local authority may have courses which you'd find helpful (assuming you can get to them), but you might find these resources helpful: there's several articles on different attachment styles there. I wouldn't worry that they come under 'adoption': the theories must be equally valid for your situation. 

onwards&upwards

Try adoptionuk.org too

essex123456

there's a book called the explosive child that might help, but lets face it these two very small boys have lost mum and dad, have been through trauma, child cruelty and child neglect and that is bound to have devastating consequences - I think that goes a little bit deeper than diet.

Savvy_sewing

Thanks everyone. 

I realise it's not all diet, but unfortunately I have to provide the evidence that all things have been looked into.
The school are also gathering their evidence so I think by my recording what I can at home could only help in the process. 

We've been up since 6am this morning. I was in bed by 9.30 and Dgs2 woke once but I didn't look at the time. It was still dark was all I acknowledged. We have watched a tinker bell story on the tv but now have Buster the yellow bus on at the moment. 2minutes an episode.
 I am hoping that they will be calm enough for me to get a quick shower without all hell letting loose.

Savvy_sewing

Yesterday morning seemed a very long one. The boys went to the other family in the afternoon, allowing me to go to get the food shopping and drop off some things for Mum. She was rather bent over yesterday and suffering with sciatica. 

I rested for the rest of the day. There were a lot of things I could have done but I am trying to nurse my hand. Which is incredibly painful all the time now.
as usual the other family were late returning the boys. But they had bathed them and they were ready for bed. Except they were rather hyper so it was a late night settling them. Dgs2 is up, but Dgs1 is still asleep.
 The other granny said that she witnessed Dgs1 hitting himself in the head when he didn't get his own way. 

That he was fairly unsettled. ( I thought welcome to my world!). I said about his being sent home from school 3 times last week. I am going to keep her informed about issues if we have any today. 

I bought a book called Therapeutic Parenting essentials moving from trauma to trust,  and 
the unofficial guide to Adoptive parenting, which arrived last evening. So I have my reading for the next few days. And moving forward. 

onwards&upwards

Has your GP referred your grandson to children's mental health services?

badmemory

Are the other family giving the children orange squash do you think?