Buffy takes it 6 months at a time

Applewood1

Hi, I have read your diary for a while now and wanted to say how sorry I am. What a truly devastating time for you. Please be gentle with yourself in the coming months - one day at a time! I'm sending all my support to you. 

VelvetFreak

Big hugs x

crazy_cat_lady

Just sending love xxx

Buffythedebtslayer

thank you all so so much XX 
I am so tired today. had to tell more friends tonight. just overwhelming to keep going over it all. And then one of my friends - who knew all about it, I told him about the plans with the ashes and he sent a load of thumbs up emoticons. And I was like really? and I know I should say oh I tired and oversensitive (and I am) . But !!!!!! that. I am tired and that is not the bloody response I want. just seemed so insensitive - in context of the whole horrible sodding situation which I had just explained. It is so weird cos when I first found out he made me go and out and have a drink and was brilliant. I know he doesn't know what to say even slightly and I do think some of it comes from my real life friends don't really have online friends(he is so anti social media) and don't think the friendships are real whereas I feel totally differently, my online friends have saved my life and my finances. my friendships here are totally real and I genuinely feel supported and loved by them. And I am devastated to lose someone I have known for almost 20 years. I can't even think about it properly especially after yesterday. I am grateful for my best mate she has been fantastic. And you lot. And her friends, my new friends. 
but it feels all huge today, like I can't get out of the room. 

in_need_of_direction

maybe Like me he just doesn’t know what to say but wants you to know you have people who care for you

Honeysucklelou2

Thinking of you Buffy.  

badmemory

I'm sure he just meant "good decision".  That is the problem with not actually doing talking, it is so easy to misunderstand a person's tone of voice when they are only typing.  When it is in text speak it seems to be even worse.  At least they are not avoiding you!  Yes I have actually seen someone cross to the other side of the road to avoid meeting someone who was recently suffering a loss.  You are coping remarkably well, it was never going to be easy as I am sure you must appreciate, but you are doing what you need to do for your friend.  Hopefully that will provide some solace.  She chose you for a reason!  You are proving she was right!

crazy_cat_lady

Hang on in there Buffy - you are stronger than you know  

Sun_Addict

A lot of people are anti social media but if you use it properly I think it’s a good thing. Like you I’ve had so much support from this forum. Then there’s FB which if used properly is a great way to keep in touch. I don’t think emoticons are appropriate in a situation like yours but he probably didn’t know what to say. You’re going through a very difficult time right now but I think you’re coping very well xx

beanielou

I agree with SA & think you are coping really well Buffster  xx