Buffy takes it 6 months at a time

peb

I don't think I've posted on your thread for years. Sending 🤗.  You know in your head your hope of a place for you has nothing to do with your mum's condition.  Try to get your heart to believe it, don't waste energy you don't have on "if only". You have a lot to deal with atm.

beanielou

Sorry to read this Buffster.
Bear in mind that my mum had a scare a few years ago & in the end after all the stress & worry it was a false alarm.Try to not worry too much til you know exactly what you are dealing with.  Take care of you & remember we are Wonderbra's and can deal with anything xxx

Buffythedebtslayer

Honeysucklelou2 said:

Can you do the NPQML or NPQSL, if you haven’t already? There does seem to be a ceiling in the educational pay which I haven’t mastered breaking through yet, but the above qualifications seem to help the break through. 

Gald the house bunny has come through the op. Hope he is feeling much better today.

I have thought about it but honestly, I am not sure I could cope with the BS. I already roll my eyes and cut through the crap at work so often it is ridiculous. I just hate it all!  But yes I know what you mean about the ceiling. I think you have to change schools a lot. Or you know. lie

crazy_cat_lady

Alas I just don't think we're destined to be paid well in the teaching profession unless we're prepared to sell our souls. I make my extra money (usually) through the exam work I do and I wouldn't have it any other way. I could never see myself trading the classroom for SLT. I have a degree and a PhD and I know that many of my friends are earning twice as much as me. I'm skint, I have debts, bills to pay, car to run, but I also have a roof over my head, two gorgeous kids and eleventy billion cats. And just me earning. My sister has one more child and four less cats than I do, but she has her husband - so two decent, full time wages - and it's hard not to be jealous of her sometimes even though I love the bones of her. It's the very nature of people.
And I know it's easier said than done, but try not to panic or fret about your mum too much until you know what you're dealing with. I think that you deserve an honour from the Queen for surviving in the situation that you're in - I certainly don't think I could do it. Give yourself a break please missus. Much love

Buffythedebtslayer

[Deleted User] said:

So glad house bunny has come through the OP ok.  Sorry about everything else.  It is hard sometimes not to compare yourself and what you have to others.  Can you use your friend's lovely house as motivating??  Even if you can't buy as nice a house, you can make what you do buy (I appreciate you are working towards this at the moment!) really lovely inside and completely to your taste.  I had a friend (who has now moved away into, I expect, an even nicer house but I've not seen it yet!) who had the most amazing beautiful stylish farmhouse, complete with fields and a swimming pool and it was SO hard not to get jealous.  However, the trade off was that her husband was ALWAYS working (and I mean ALWAYS - including away a lot of the time pre-covid) and I know that for all the things she "had" that was a HUGE trade off and she was very unhappy about it.  I'm not saying you should seek out reasons why your friend might be unhappy as obviously you wouldn't wish that for them (just as I didn't for her) but I think for every way in which someone else's life seems fabulous, there's always either a trade off or something they are not 100% happy with.  Basically, having nice things isn't everything.  But I am not sure I am getting what I am trying to say across properly - am just trying to make you feel a bit less bad for feeling jealous as it is totally natural and try to use it as motivating to (eventually) buy the best house you can.  Can't give you any advice re your mum as haven't been there (thankfully) with the caring aspect, but there's only so many times you can pull the kid out of the paddling pool......

That last bit really made me laugh! 
Yeah. I should but I think today I feel tired and frightened and just not up for being the best version of myself.  It is normally a motivation, you are right, my friend's LOVELY flat that she totally doesn't appreciate and I want one! and it does spur me on. Tomorrow XX 

Four_Seasons

sleepy well lovely, hugs x

Buffythedebtslayer

crazy_cat_lady said:

Alas I just don't think we're destined to be paid well in the teaching profession unless we're prepared to sell our souls. I make my extra money (usually) through the exam work I do and I wouldn't have it any other way. I could never see myself trading the classroom for SLT. I have a degree and a PhD and I know that many of my friends are earning twice as much as me. I'm skint, I have debts, bills to pay, car to run, but I also have a roof over my head, two gorgeous kids and eleventy billion cats. And just me earning. My sister has one more child and four less cats than I do, but she has her husband - so two decent, full time wages - and it's hard not to be jealous of her sometimes even though I love the bones of her. It's the very nature of people.
And I know it's easier said than done, but try not to panic or fret about your mum too much until you know what you're dealing with. I think that you deserve an honour from the Queen for surviving in the situation that you're in - I certainly don't think I could do it. Give yourself a break please missus. Much love

You are so lovely X a PhD. Wow. And my friend is a teacher and not on Slt, I just really think I am underpaid and should probably consider selling my soul. Ugh. XXX 

Buffythedebtslayer

Thank you for all the kind words about Mum. It means a lot to me. I am really tired tonight. I went for a looooong walk and cooked some ridiculous pancakes. I did a hello fresh order for this week so am looking forward to that. Even tho I hate cooking! 

Honeysucklelou2

Buffythedebtslayer said:

Honeysucklelou2 said:

Can you do the NPQML or NPQSL, if you haven’t already? There does seem to be a ceiling in the educational pay which I haven’t mastered breaking through yet, but the above qualifications seem to help the break through. 

Gald the house bunny has come through the op. Hope he is feeling much better today.

I have thought about it but honestly, I am not sure I could cope with the BS. I already roll my eyes and cut through the crap at work so often it is ridiculous. I just hate it all!  But yes I know what you mean about the ceiling. I think you have to change schools a lot. Or you know. lie

I do get that...I keep wondering about it but then the higher you go, the less time you seem to have with the children and actual teaching!

[Deleted User]

Oh Buffy, so sorry to hear your mum got a call and hope that everything is ok.  I agree with the others, it is absolutely nothing you have done, it is just one of those things.  Try not to beat yourself up for your natural and understandable thoughts - you have enough on your plate at the moment xx