2020 - 'Nothing in your life will change until you make the decision to change'

WinterWarrior

What a lovely post @jwil…well done, I’m proud of you ⭐️

I’m currently trying to get out of that mindset and also out of saving the good clothes for best, but it’s really hard. Why shouldn’t we wear bright things we love? I want to be one of those old ladies flouncing about in whatever the heck they want…I have a little time to work on this 😬 The first step is always to love yourself more than caring about what others might think…and why shouldn’t/wouldn’t we love ourselves? The world has done some crazy conditioning on us all hasn’t it! 

pennywisepoundstupid

Your sounding so positive Jwil, well done xx

jwil

beanielou said:

What a great step forward.
Be proud  xx

teapot2 said:

Sounds like a really positive change of mind set - brilliant, celebrating being you 👌

BalanceBy50 said:

How lovely to read this! Go you!! Xx

in_need_of_direction said:

Wish I’d had your realisation at your age.  It’ll save you so many wasted years

Thank you all  

jwil

WinterWarrior said:

What a lovely post @jwil…well done, I’m proud of you ⭐️

I’m currently trying to get out of that mindset and also out of saving the good clothes for best, but it’s really hard. Why shouldn’t we wear bright things we love? I want to be one of those old ladies flouncing about in whatever the heck they want…I have a little time to work on this 😬 The first step is always to love yourself more than caring about what others might think…and why shouldn’t/wouldn’t we love ourselves? The world has done some crazy conditioning on us all hasn’t it! 

pennywisepoundstupid said:

Your sounding so positive Jwil, well done xx

Thank you both

jwil

Thank you all for your lovely comments you are all amazing 😘😘

I feel like it's a huge change for me, and I'm not fully there yet.  You'll not see me strutting in my bikini top and hotpants 😆😆

However, I want to stop hiding in black tents, as WinterWarrior says, I want to wear bright and cheery clothes and stop worrying about the state of my legs, tummy and arms.  I actually wore a dress the other day, with thin straps!

Little miss wanted me to go round one of her laps of parkrun with her on Sunday, and I did.  The kids have also missed out because I don't want to do stuff.  It was so blooming hot though, couldn't I have my realisation when it's cooler? 🥵😂

dawnybabes

Everyone is bikini ready ! It’s other people are this issue  

dawnybabes

Odd, I tried to pop a picture on ….

mothernerd

I saw a quote last week - the beach'll get whatever body I give it.

No bikini for me. Mum got me to try one when I was joining her for swimming lessons - she started when she was 40 and I was 19. When I first went to be fitted for a bra, the lady said I was going to have problems as I had a very narrow back and was going to have a full bosom. So we went to a shop which supposedly had swimwear in cup sizes. I was a C-cup at the time. Tried on a bikini and it was horrendous. Wire and a bit of fabric and I felt extremely vulnerable - no way was I going for swimming lessons and having to scoop my bosom back into the cups every time I tried to move. Bought a lovely costume instead.

doingitanyway

Just catching up and you are going from strength to strength. I love your new body confidence. Your attitude is inspiring

jwil

dawnybabes said:

Everyone is bikini ready ! It’s other people are this issue  

dawnybabes said:

Odd, I tried to pop a picture on ….

Love this, thank you

mothernerd said:

I saw a quote last week - the beach'll get whatever body I give it.

No bikini for me. Mum got me to try one when I was joining her for swimming lessons - she started when she was 40 and I was 19. When I first went to be fitted for a bra, the lady said I was going to have problems as I had a very narrow back and was going to have a full bosom. So we went to a shop which supposedly had swimwear in cup sizes. I was a C-cup at the time. Tried on a bikini and it was horrendous. Wire and a bit of fabric and I felt extremely vulnerable - no way was I going for swimming lessons and having to scoop my bosom back into the cups every time I tried to move. Bought a lovely costume instead.

I think I'm definitely a costume person too.

doingitanyway said:

Just catching up and you are going from strength to strength. I love your new body confidence. Your attitude is inspiring

Aww thank you