Weekly Flylady Thread 30th December 2019

Jazee

I have attempted a dog walk but they got freaked out by shooting, changed the bedding, dusted in living room and bedroom and done the finances which have been a bit of an eye opener into our over spending.

Will do the floors next.

Valli

Monday Mayhem

Level One
If you have a special meal New Years Day make sure you have everything you need!
S&S kitchen
Level Two
S&S bathroom & loo
Clean the oven and hob now you've eaten your feast! It shouldn't take long!
Clean the fridge to make sure none of the christmas goodies are going to waste.. find a recipe if you think they might!
Level Three
Change any bedding you need to get washed Duvet cover on line. Needs to go back on if possible.
HHI .. We will not have any left for New Year!
Catch up on some laundry ..
Extras

1. HHC in your bedroom.. most look like a war zone!
2. Valli's edit - DR clean
3. do a crazy HHC decluttering downstairs
4. Make sure you spend at least half an hour doing something for yourself!
   [STRIKE]Clean out bunnies[/STRIKE] - saved for today due to weather forecast

Hutch airing.

also: update finances
write town shopping list to include birthday cards for January.
Make a start on the massive frog that is the PTA accounts/banking.
Xmas decs away? - tree etc down; all organised ready for packing away. Set of fairy lights binned - changing fuse bulb and plug fuse didn't work so they're history. They were exOH's, had them before he met me and THAT was 1990. :money:
Having a coffee before I box up and check for stragglers.

Jazee

Dailies are finally done. Having a cuppa then I'll groom the dogs before attempting another walk with them.

ionafan

Woke up late
Spent the morning doing my friend's family history - got back to the 18th century on one line
Emptied out and sorted a bag full of used wrapping paper. Almost all of it was recyclable
Took Rosie for a lovely dry walk - in sunshine - round through the big wood
DH had put out salad for us for (late) lunch
Now back on the family history, and munching chocolate covered ginger

Jazee

Floors cleaned, dogs groomed and walked and I've had a lovely soak in the bath while reading a magazine.

Think Littleydog wants to play now.

YORKSHIRELASS

Tiring day - round you will relate to this. I have not yet driven to hospital to visit DS, despite suggesting several times to OH that I should do it, he doesnt like being a passenger. Over the last few years my driving has really been reduced to work and back - a simple 4 mile trip - because when we go anywhere else OH insists on driving.

OH had to do something for work today so I said I would go and visit DS - who is in hospital in the middle of a big city 55 miles from home. Given that I am feeling a bit fragile at the minute anyway I got really anxious about this last night so didnt sleep very well. Its pathetic because I got there and back OK but it was not enjoyable just because my brain was telling me I couldnt do it.

And DS slept though most of the visit today anyway, although he is doing well at the moment.

Think it will be an early night. Not much flying here but I am keeping on top of the basics at least.

pigpen

Deleted_User wrote: »

How do I find the words and the bravery friends?

Dizzy_Imp wrote: »

ASB - I sometimes think I'd be better of without my husband, as he is very controlling and old-fashioned, but I don't know where to start. Hubby No: 1 committed suicide when I said I was leaving, so I'm very hesitant even though I'm unhappy most of the time. Clearly, I'm not a wise woman either!

People like that make their own choices.. My ex-FIL killed himself when ex-Mil said she was leaving (their children were 6, 5 and 15 months, CF was the 5 year old) and it affected her very badly for many years and resulted in 3 very dysfunctional adults.. He chose his path, whether he couldn't cope with humiliation or the truth of his abuse being uncovered we will never know but no one is to blame but they themselves.. however.. to you both I maintain the following..

1. only YOU can find your happiness. It is your duty and to create a happy, stable, safe environment for your children to grow is vital.
2. If you are not happy do what you need to do to make yourself happy.. no illegal activity thank you! Having spent many years unhappy I would absolutely not stay in a dead relationship.. he is even tolerating my current weirdness and exaccerbation of my OCD traits which result in a lot of pushing away and intolerance to being touched.. mess I can cope with, touching I cannot.
3. Staying for the sake of children/pets/nowhere to go and tolerating the abuse in ANY and ALL forms is not worth the upset.. you are simply delaying the inevitable.

If you need to be free then do it.. you deserve it, you tried and have moved on. Not every battle can be won and it is a very brave person who can say enough, this has to stop, I am worth more.

I said to CF... 'and you can go too' when he beat my 16 year old and he had to go stay at my mothers for safety.. It took me nearly 7 weeks to get him out, but I did it, with 8 children, 4 cats and 4 fish!

I don't claim to be wise but I know that I do not deserve to be unhappy.

anyway.. flying...

I have tipped 21 binbags of rubbish, removed 7 huge boxes and 5 binbags to charity shop, sorted 3 binbags for my sisters friends children, 1 binbag for DD1, 1 binbag for DIL2 and filled 2 wheelies bins... I have spent time in 3 rooms.. I have the back room to do which I was going to do today but decided I had to sort other stuff first.. 4 parcels ebeasted to PO, Lidl run for milk, returned the keyboard we bought Squeak for christmas.. pile of carp that was.. but I need to replace that now and collected prescriptions..

I am measuring up for carpets now to see if I can get a new one for the front room in a sale somewhere. I've found one for £54 (15% deducted) which might do but I need to measure the room and I put the tape measure somewhere 'safe'... as you do!

I love my christmas tree but I have a strong urge to put it away and get the room back to sanity but I was raised my my nanna and putting it away before the 6th is a treacherous act of villainy.

Salad for dinner.. with prawns ... all the veg!!! I almost look like a chocolate haha!

ty for Fred!!! I will be here for the new year and beyond! ..

[Deleted User]

Ladies I am reading along, please don't think your kindness and support is going unnoticed. You're the only people in the world who know. I found the words yesterday afternoon. I can't really type a proper post now as my head is a jumble. But I'll be back when I can.

Thank you for being there for me xxx

pigpen

Deleted_User wrote: »

Ladies I am reading along, please don't think your kindness and support is going unnoticed. You're the only people in the world who know. I found the words yesterday afternoon. I can't really type a proper post now as my head is a jumble. But I'll be back when I can.

Thank you for being there for me xxx

I'm glad you found the words, WELL DONE, it is so very hard.. but the hardest bit is next.. not backing down, not giving in to the pleading and the needing and the 'but's' and all the rest of the rubbish. Put yourself first, it's not selfish it is surviving! We are all here, we are supporting you any time xxx

girls dumped in the bathroom.. they will be scrubbed!

kezbabybabe

I was successful today! Even re-organised a couple of nooks/cupboards that had been cluttered up. Spent time with a friend this afternoon; though I'm currently fighting with the WM as it doesn't want to spin my mat properly - it's a weight distribution issue - I've decided to put it on a drying cycle, let's see if that sorts the problem out.

Strenght and resilience for those that need it ready for 2020!

Oh, my DH is home, so time to make dinner; see you all tomorrow!