Unwanted gifts

ripplyuk

Jimmithecat wrote: »

I agree - I made it known in no uncertain terms that I didn’t want any gifts - all the ones that I was given were sent back yesterday with a note apologising that it was not in the original packaging and could they refund the item to the buyers account ( I gave them the address).
It cost me about £18 to post them - so more expensive than taking them to a charity shop - but hopefully family and friends will get the message

I think that’s unnecessarily harsh. Some people really enjoy giving gifts. It makes them feel good. You could have just given the gifts away instead of hurting people’s feelings.

You’ll certainly get what you want though. I doubt any of them will ever buy you a gift again.

maman

ripplyuk wrote: »

I think that’s unnecessarily harsh. Some people really enjoy giving gifts. It makes them feel good. You could have just given the gifts away instead of hurting people’s feelings.

You’ll certainly get what you want though. I doubt any of them will ever buy you a gift again.

It may seem harsh but if jimmi had asked nicely and was ignored then I can see why drastic steps were needed.

onwards&upwards

maman wrote: »

It may seem harsh but if jimmi had asked nicely and was ignored then I can see why drastic steps were needed.

What’s so terrible about just saying thank you if someone gives you a gift you don’t want? We don’t get to have things our own way all the time funnily enough, and I think if he really did that it was a nasty thing to do.

onwards&upwards

Pollycat wrote: »

I disagree that it's a horrible thing to do.
Why should people not listen when you say 'I don't want any gifts'?
If people care about you, why can't they understand a simple phrase 'I don't want any gifts!'

It’s just really unkind, I think. He could have genuinely upset people who love him. How is that a better outcome than just smiling then regifting?

Pollycat

onwards&upwards wrote: »

It’s just really unkind, I think. He could have genuinely upset people who love him. How is that a better outcome than just smiling then regifting?

If they love him so much why aren't they listening when he says:

Jimmithecat wrote: »

I/I made it known in no uncertain terms that I didn’t want any gifts

Why should people who want to give gifts to people who have expressly stated they don't want gifts, be seen to be in the right?
They are not in the right.
They should listen to the people they profess to love.
What is so hard about understanding 'I don't want any gifts'?

loveabargain13

I received bath products for Christmas and I’d just informed the person that we had no baths in the house! So 1 set is currently being used as an air freshener in the conservatory gawww bath bombs are strong and 1 set I sold on eBay.

Primrose

Say you loaned the dog painting to a friend who was helping run a charity Dog treats stall at their local fete as it was "attention stopping" and you're still waiting for her to drop it off back.
All the other stuff I should take to a charity shop but probably not one local to where yiur friend lives in case she's a regular customer there and spots it,!

happyandcontented

onwards&upwards wrote: »

It’s just really unkind, I think. He could have genuinely upset people who love him. How is that a better outcome than just smiling then regifting?

I agree, re gifting or a charity shop reaping the benefit is a win all round. It means that no-one has their feelings hurt or worse, you deeply offend them. Why wouldn't a recipient just smile and say thank you? How hard can that be?

Marvel1

onwards&upwards wrote: »

What a horrible thing to do to people who care about you.

No it ain't, people who care about you will listen and act on your wishes. Please explain why is this so hard to understand?

Someone close to me asked recently if I used so and so from last year and insaid no, it's unopened and i said it's your problem if you didnt listen to me last year when I said i dont want gifts I hate it (habe for years and they know this). Made it clear this year it would be the same and they didn't get me anything and I thanked them for listening.

Marvel1

happyandcontented wrote: »

I agree, re gifting or a charity shop reaping the benefit is a win all round. It means that no-one has their feelings hurt or worse, you deeply offend them. Why wouldn't a recipient just smile and say thank you? How hard can that be?

How hard is it to listen and carry out the wish of not wanting a gift?