Unwanted gifts

Grandmama

I am always being asked for donations to charity raffles so I keep unwanted gifts in a 'raffle 'box and donate accordingly. Just make sure that the giver doesn't go to these charity dos!

Archergirl

I second the Secret Santa, with a set price and maybe a list of things you like.........

gabardine_angus

Pollycat wrote: »

I can't understand why so many people allow other people to waste money on unwanted gifts.
It makes me very cross.

A distant relative of ours does this every year. She just won't get the message that we don't expect, want or need any gifts from her, and we can't really say much more without offending her. Her gifts almost all go to the charity shops or to the school fete

maman

ska_lover wrote: »

This is why we stopped doing adult presents - loved ones spending money on stuff we don't want (and likely vice versa). It was this time of year we made the announcement to all - and have never looked back

Do it OP, tell them all now. It is a game changer

We did that a few years back and it's a joy. It was DD1's suggestion and I jumped at it. I think DD2 found it harder to accept as she loves shopping/spending but she can indulge that with her friends and in laws.

We still do birthday presents for immediate family and I love buying friends a 'saw this and thought of you' gift. It needn't be expensive but when I see something that's just right it's good to treat people.

Jimmithecat

ska_lover wrote: »

I agree

This is why we stopped doing adult presents - loved ones spending money on stuff we don't want (and likely vice versa). It was this time of year we made the announcement to all - and have never looked back

Do it OP, tell them all now. It is a game changer

I agree - I made it known in no uncertain terms that I didn’t want any gifts - all the ones that I was given were sent back yesterday with a note apologising that it was not in the original packaging and could they refund the item to the buyers account ( I gave them the address).
It cost me about £18 to post them - so more expensive than taking them to a charity shop - but hopefully family and friends will get the message

gettingtheresometime

Mum would love to buy presents but realises her tastes aren't ours and as we go away a lot she's happy to donate to our fun fund.

We make sure that we do something specifically with her money & she's happy with that.

Bogof_Babe

I think some people get mesmerised with the seasonal tat that is bought in by shops especially to attract the gullible. Seems to work every year .

onwards&upwards

Jimmithecat wrote: »

I agree - I made it known in no uncertain terms that I didn’t want any gifts - all the ones that I was given were sent back yesterday with a note apologising that it was not in the original packaging and could they refund the item to the buyers account ( I gave them the address).
It cost me about £18 to post them - so more expensive than taking them to a charity shop - but hopefully family and friends will get the message

What a horrible thing to do to people who care about you.

DigForVictory

ripplyuk wrote: »

the scarf I’ll have to wear when visiting my Granny or else she’ll ask.

oystercatcher wrote: »

Scarves can be worn to Grannies though , just whip it off the moment you are out of sight ....Grannies are precious .

Absolutely with you on this - Grannies are an endangered species.

Every one else:

Pollycat wrote: »

Tell them you're not buying gifts - in plenty of time - and say you won't accept any gifts.

Be calm, be clear and be consistent (with all other than Grannies).
Honestly, you can enjoy the season more even if you brass off a relative or six Once.

Pollycat

Jimmithecat wrote: »

I agree - I made it known in no uncertain terms that I didn’t want any gifts - all the ones that I was given were sent back yesterday with a note apologising that it was not in the original packaging and could they refund the item to the buyers account ( I gave them the address).
It cost me about £18 to post them - so more expensive than taking them to a charity shop - but hopefully family and friends will get the message

onwards&upwards wrote: »

What a horrible thing to do to people who care about you.

I disagree that it's a horrible thing to do.
Why should people not listen when you say 'I don't want any gifts'?
If people care about you, why can't they understand a simple phrase 'I don't want any gifts!'