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maman

Lover_of_Lycra wrote: »

If you are homeless now, as in when you present yourself to the council, you qualify for emergency housing. Being a working adult with no stated vulnerabilities would not stop the OP from qualifying if the mother chucked the OP out making the OP homeless.

https://england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/homelessness/rules/emergency_housing_if_you_are_homeless

I think the last thing the mother is doing is 'chucking her out' she wants her to stay to fund her lifestyle. I'd be surprised if she cooperated with that.

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maman wrote: »

I think the last thing the mother is doing is 'chucking her out' she wants her to stay to fund her lifestyle. I'd be surprised if she cooperated with that.

I realise this. I was replying to a poster saying that the council would be very unlikely to find the OP a bed in the event that the mother did evict the OP.

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I work FT & I'm in the 5th year of an OU degree. It's tough at times, but very doable.
But if she is asking for £600 a month rent from you, I'd personally move into a flatshare.
My friend pays £500.00 to his mum for his rent but that is because she can't afford the rent without it & he earns £45k a year, so imo thats fair.
Asking for almost all of your wages, is not.
She can't make no cuts herself but expect you to work and live on nothing.
I'd sit her down and ask her what has changed, why has there all of a sudden been such a switch between what you used to pay, to what she needs now.
Then explain to her that you are looking to move out, what on earth will she do without your rent payments if she's this desperate for money?!
Sorry you're going through this, money and parents is always a tricky subject.

elsien

Lover_of_Lycra wrote: »

If you are homeless now, as in when you present yourself to the council, you qualify for emergency housing. Being a working adult with no stated vulnerabilities would not stop the OP from qualifying if the mother chucked the OP out making the OP homeless.

https://england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/homelessness/rules/emergency_housing_if_you_are_homeless

You need to read your own links more carefully. This only applies if you have a priority need.

You will be in priority need if you're:

a family with children under 16 (or under 19 if still dependent on you)
pregnant
a care leaver aged 18-20
homeless due to a fire, flood or other disaster
classed as 'vulnerable'

OP does not appear to be any of these from the information given so far. Single people with no additional needs are right at the bottom of the list as far as housing goes.

elsien

It means you have to meet all three criteria, not just the one you've highlighted. The link to emergency housing within your article then goes on to define the priority need more fully, which is the bit I posted.
I'm not wanting to derail the OPs post, I just think people need to be fully aware that council's duties may not be as all encompassing as they expect.

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elsien wrote: »

It means all three criteria, not just the one you've highlighted. The link to emergency housing within your article then goes on to define the priority need more fully, which is the bit I posted.
I'm not wanting to derail the OPs post, I just think people need to be fully aware that council's duties may not be as all encompassing as they expect.

I get that single people are bottom of the heap when it comes to help with housing. If the OP had posted on the Housing board and was about to be evicted from a rental property and couldn't find anywhere else to go what would people be advising him/her to do? Contact Shelter and go to the council which is what I was advising the OP to do here should the worst happen.

I doubt that the mother will want to kill the golden goose and actually go ahead with evicting the OP but I do think the OP should move into a house share anyway.

sallysaver

Talk about the Season of Goodwill to all men!! Can you ask around your work colleagues if they can ask around their friends if they know anyone where you can house share. Call the council, in fact call any housing agency you can, you might just get lucky. Do you have a friend who can assist short term By giving into your mum, you are enabling her to ask for more each time this scenario raises its ugly head. It's now been proven by her latest request. According to your posts, she has a partner who takes her out numerous times a week. It's not fitting together. Do you have any siblings who are being treated the same way?

Gycraig

we are looking at a lodger and are only gonna charge 100 quid a week. honestly just look at house shares will be cheaper and you will know where you stand.
Have you tried saying no when she demands extra money ?. Do you think she would actually kick you out ? 150 a week is pure extortion

gomer

Gycraig wrote: »

we are looking at a lodger and are only gonna charge 100 quid a week. honestly just look at house shares will be cheaper and you will know where you stand.
Have you tried saying no when she demands extra money ?. Do you think she would actually kick you out ? 150 a week is pure extortion

That's what i am wondering - what would the mother actually do if the gravy train stopped & op just said no?

Mica98

I've told her I'm moving out, I have a couple of viewings for flat shares but she is still asking for £150 a week knowing I'll need that money to move out, idk what I can do?