I've just worked out that if we can come up with an extra £250 per month...

Jacks_xxx

skintscotslass wrote: »

Hi Jacks, just caught up with your posts. Good luck honey. Oh and what is sight singing? xx

Um.. well I'm sure there's a proper technical explanation but it's basically looking at the notes on the page and knowing what that sounds like in your head so that you can just sing it without having to hear the music first.

I haven't done it for years, but it's probably like riding a bike huh? :eek:

My son's girlfriend can't do it all despite 4 or 5 years at music college training to be a singer. ( Is it wrong that knowing that I can kind of do it and she can't makes me do this: :dance: :dance: :dance: )

Cheers sweetie!

Love Jacks xxx

Jacks_xxx

atypicalblonde wrote: »

done yet??!!!! You will enjoy it even more I'm sure. what are you selling on ebay? x

Yeah.. got there in the end!

I just got really fidgetty for the last couple!

I've been listing the contents of my back up cosmetics drawer (what my friend Claire calls The "Even If There's A Nuclear Holocaust, Jacks Will Still Have Skincare" Drawer ) I always like to have a spare of my favourites in the drawer for when I run out but I have ruthlessly and fearlessly listed it most of it! :eek:

I also listed the contents of the all purpose gift drawer which has stuff like keychains and bag charms that I thought would do for my daughter's friends for Christmas and birthdays - but she doesn't seem to have been to so many birthday parties this year (:eek: ) and she's agreed with her friends that they won't do pressies this Christmas so I've listed it all.

Plus the random bits from QVC TSVs that I kept for a girlie pressie stash...

And the little scrunchy hair pieces that I bought and never ever used!

and a Bobbi Brown palette that I've barely used...

I opened a shop so that I can leave things on there for a few weeks rather than chasing my tail every seven days...

And....My eldest has photographed his acoustic guitar that he barely touched so I'll list that in a minute...maybe.

Was that as exhausting to read as it was to do????

Love Jacks xxx

findingmyownway

sounds great Jacks, you are an inspiration! do you find cosmetics sell well on ebay? i have a 'spare' things drawer too, i guess i though noone would want them. bits and bobs of clinique samples and stuff like that - do you think they'd sell?

esthomizzy

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

:wave:
It's probably the same for you guys - it's all about compromises and balance. We all have different attitudes to money that we don't even know we've got really so I think there's a lot more to sharing your finances with someone than than opening a joint account isn't there?

I know my hubby hates feeling like he's in the wrong so I try not to make him feel that way if I can help it and instead I'm really appreciative when he helps me.

(It's working so far! :eek: )


Love Jacks xxx

That is a very good point. My OH hates to be in the wrong and constantly thinks he's right about everything. As we are in early stages relationshipwise too it's extra specially difficult because he seems to be loaded with cash and I'm absolutely brassic so he unintentionally often expects me to keep up with what he's doing and gets cross when i say I can't afford to. I was persuaded to go to the pub for lunch yesterday when I didn't really have the money to (I let myself be persuaded because I did really want to go but then I was upset with myself for breaking my budget). The trouble is he has plenty of spare cash because he rents and has no assets where as I have no liquid cash but plenty of assets (flat and some longer term investments). Yesterday he told me that if he was me he'd rent out my flat and rent somewhere cheaper but I can't bear the thought of renting my flat out to people who wouldn't take the kind of care of it that I do. I'd rather be poor than do that. It's obviously a bit of a bone of contention. What I think I'll have to do is compromise and loosen my spending a bit more and just take the extra 200pcm that I need out of my savings until I can afford it out of my income (no uber payrises that I can envison on the horizon) but if luck turns my way I might get another temporary lodger from time to time which would help bucketloads.

XX
Esthomizzy

Jacks_xxx

findingmyownway wrote: »

sounds great Jacks, you are an inspiration! do you find cosmetics sell well on ebay? i have a 'spare' things drawer too, i guess i though noone would want them. bits and bobs of clinique samples and stuff like that - do you think they'd sell?

:wave: hey sweetie,

I think it's worth a go honey - almost anything can sell on eBay!

I sold a couple of batches of make up bits and pieces a while ago and I was very happy with what they went for.

At this time of year when people are making up little gift baskets for Christmas I reckon they'd sell well.

Good pictures help, and an honest and fairly detailed descripton so that peoplel can see exactly what they're getting.

Go for it sweetie!

Love Jacks xxx

Jacks_xxx

esthomizzy wrote: »

That is a very good point. My OH hates to be in the wrong and constantly thinks he's right about everything. As we are in early stages relationshipwise too it's extra specially difficult because he seems to be loaded with cash and I'm absolutely brassic so he unintentionally often expects me to keep up with what he's doing and gets cross when i say I can't afford to. I was persuaded to go to the pub for lunch yesterday when I didn't really have the money to (I let myself be persuaded because I did really want to go but then I was upset with myself for breaking my budget). The trouble is he has plenty of spare cash because he rents and has no assets where as I have no liquid cash but plenty of assets (flat and some longer term investments). Yesterday he told me that if he was me he'd rent out my flat and rent somewhere cheaper but I can't bear the thought of renting my flat out to people who wouldn't take the kind of care of it that I do. I'd rather be poor than do that. It's obviously a bit of a bone of contention. What I think I'll have to do is compromise and loosen my spending a bit more and just take the extra 200pcm that I need out of my savings until I can afford it out of my income (no uber payrises that I can envison on the horizon) but if luck turns my way I might get another temporary lodger from time to time which would help bucketloads.

XX
Esthomizzy

Dating and MSE don't always mix do they hon?

I was just saying to someone the other day that I'm so glad that hubby's on board with this now because it would be a constant source of strife if we weren't on the same page.

It's that much harder for you honey because it's a newer relationship and lets face it going out is fun!

I think you're right to compromise a little but OH could treat you sometimes too, and maybe not be so thoughtless about assuming you can keep up with his spending.

I don't mean to slag him off hon, I promise.

He's choosing to live for now - which is cool, he's a young man in his prime, but you're choosing to plan for the future.

It sounds like you respect his decisions and try and fit in with his plans - but could he be doing a little more to fit in with yours?

These things work out as you go along hon - hopefully!

Things change, people's priorities change. He'll want a place of his own at some point I expect - and he'll be begging you for MSE tips!

Maybe he'll move in with you at some later date and manfully take over half the bills?

I agree with you about renting your home out to strangers - I couldn't do it either.

Love Jacks xxx

esthomizzy

You've got it in one Jacks very succinctly put. I'm sure it'll all sort itself out somehow but I don't think he's going to turn into a good saver and long term planner overnight.

Jacks_xxx

:wave: Hiya lovelies! :wave:

It's good news and bad news from me.

The bad news is that I didn't get the singing gig.

They gave it to a gorgeous long limbed 19 year old italian girlie who doesn't speak much english. :rolleyes:

The good news is that they've asked me to be a hostess and compere / MC type person to meet and greet the parties, and do all the talkie bits on the microphone - as the girl they've hired to sing can't really do that stuff :rolleyes: and people would leave in droves if they let the weird & miserable piano player do it! :eek:

And even better for my home life, it's not an every night thing. They just need me when they have the big corporate parties in that have awards ceremonies and speeches and things.

I am also Ms Long Limbed Italian's ahem "understudy"! :rotfl: so I may yet get to sing in a spangly dress!

Part of me is relieved. Singing isn't really a big dream of mine, it's just something that I can do - sort of - and I was worried about being equal to the task of belting out Volare and "That's Amore" every night

I hope everybody else is doing well I'm off back to eBay now, just as soon as I root out something else to sell!

Love Jacks xxx

skint_spice

That's good news Jacks but I'm sure the hostess with the mostest still needs to be glam and spangly! Hope it helps make in-roads towards that extra £250 a month.

P.S. she might have to take lots of time off to visit the folks if she gets homesick!

esthomizzy

That's fab news Jacks