In law help

borkid

Partialpolly wrote: »

Husband is still not willing to talk about it. My mother is aware and under no circumstances whilst I’m away is she going to allow my daughter to go with my husband or his family. It’s sad but at present I don’t trust his judgment in allowing the best decisions to be made.
A few things have come to light in the past that have made me worry about my husbands judgement. I have to think seriously about whether it’s something I want to accept

With regards to the foster child, I was there when my FIL kissed her on the lips, patted her bottom, made reference to the size of her breasts and encouraged her to sit on his knee. I had a quiet word with my mother in law at the time and she accused me of having a perverted mind.

Like my dad it wasn't until he was dead that the nightmares stopped. I was late 50s. Women were second rate though and all the male members treated them like dirt. I escaped to a considerate caring man and my family though he was weak and 'gay'. I have had 45 wonderful years with him no thanks to my birth family.

pollypenny

Partialpolly wrote: »

With regards to the foster child, I was there when my FIL kissed her on the lips, patted her bottom, made reference to the size of her breasts and encouraged her to sit on his knee. I had a quiet word with my mother in law at the time and she accused me of having a perverted mind.

That is very worrying. I wonder about the MIL's involvement? Could it be more than turning a blind eye.


I wouldn't want a load of strangers on the internet to ruin a marriage, but this husband's family sound dangerous. I'd be issuing an ultimatum - them or wife and daughter.

pinkshoes

Partialpolly wrote: »

the girl who made accusations was 14. He often sat her on his knee... patted her bottom and made comments about her appeared in front of us. He then, according to her, bought her a Halloween school girl outfit to wear. All kept from his wife.

This sounds very wrong, particularly due to his preference for school themed !!!!!!.

I would be contacting your local MASH team and passing on your information and previous observations, and the fact you don't want your own daughter left with him.

Life for a 14 year old in care is never easy, so if he has been inappropriate with her then some supporting evidence would be helpful.

You do not have to inform your husband that you have disclosed this info to the MASH.

suejb2

Your title should read “husband help “ I think you’ve got the measure of the in-laws. Keep your daughter away from them. It’s your husband you need help with.

He sounds like he has been conditioned. I’m no expert but, from what you have shared, he’s learnt to expect such behaviour from his dad.