Aspergers/ASD support thread

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

sock-knitter wrote: »

i have a 15 year old, who is 6' 4" and will not wear any clothes other than a pair of blue trackie bottoms, and only his fila pair, no others in his wardrobe will do, plus his navy reebok hoody, again, no other make or colour will do.
he has a wardrobe full of brand new unworn clothes that will end up going to a charity shop. so frustrating. and every day i have to wash and dry these clothes ready for the next day or he refuses to get dressed and go to school

My eldest son Ryan was exactly the same, he would only wear tracksuit bottoms & football tops etc as he liked the feel of the material.

As soon as he became interested in girls this all changed overnight, he went from a boy that wouldn't have a shower unless you made him to a young man that you can't get out of the bathroom. :eek:

Now he wears jeans (which he never would before) & likes more fashionable clothes.

Could you get him a few pairs of the trackie bottoms he does like as believe me it really is easier than fighting with them.

Chances are he will grow out of it just as my son has who now has a girlfriend & will be 16 next month.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Has anyone ever attended the parenting classes that they offer for families of autistic kids?

I've decided that things need to cahnge & we need some real order, routine, & discipline around here.

Both Ryan (15, 16 next month) who has aspergers & Liam (14) who has ASD call people names & get agressive when they are angry & it is getting harder to deal with as they get old (both are getting on for 6' already & i'm only 5'4"). :eek:

I wondered how successfull the classes were & what kind of things they cover.

Mics_chick

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Has anyone ever attended the parenting classes that they offer for families of autistic kids?

I've decided that things need to cahnge & we need some real order, routine, & discipline around here.

Both Ryan (15, 16 next month) who has aspergers & Liam (14) who has ASD call people names & get agressive when they are angry & it is getting harder to deal with as they get old (both are getting on for 6' already & i'm only 5'4"). :eek:

I wondered how successfull the classes were & what kind of things they cover.

Who offers these parenting classes BCS?

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Mics_chick wrote: »

Who offers these parenting classes BCS?

We have some new autistic support group thing started up in our Town to help you deal with your autistic kids behaviour.

fallen_angel_69

I'm having a really hard time trying to find holiday clubs for my dd who is 12 I live in Coventry I have been to sure start the carer's center and disabilty services All holiday clubs only run till children are 11 years old Has anyone here have any ideas of anywhere that does childcare just for school holidays including xmas one Leaving her on her own just is'nt an option because of a/s/d

verysillyguy06

fallen_angel_69 wrote: »

I'm having a really hard time trying to find holiday clubs for my dd who is 12 I live in Coventry I have been to sure start the carer's center and disabilty services All holiday clubs only run till children are 11 years old Has anyone here have any ideas of anywhere that does childcare just for school holidays including xmas one Leaving her on her own just is'nt an option because of a/s/d

They can take children up until the age of 16/18. Get your clubs to check with OFSTED, not ideal but if they want to help they can

fazeypie

fallen_angel_69 wrote: »

I'm having a really hard time trying to find holiday clubs for my dd who is 12 I live in Coventry I have been to sure start the carer's center and disabilty services All holiday clubs only run till children are 11 years old Has anyone here have any ideas of anywhere that does childcare just for school holidays including xmas one Leaving her on her own just is'nt an option because of a/s/d

Have you tried the children's services desk at the library in the city centre? They could get you a list of childcare providers for the age group you need. They may also be able to put you in touch with local organisations etc specific to your daughter's needs?

savingforarainyday

hi, only found this thread by browsing a bit ago:o

I have son who is 16 and on autistic spectrum, but could just as easily been diagnosed with aspergers.


A few posts caught my eye.

Clothes have always been an issue, from when he was little, didn't like new things, different things, if you find something he likes buy a few of them and in things that can easily be bought in bigger sizes. As he gets older, warn him he needs some new clothes, warn him when he is going shopping, buy the clothes before his old ones look like they have shrunk in the wash, warn him they are getting to small for him and gradually remove them so eventually he has nothing else to wear, and let him know you are doing this. I promise he will get used to it.

The classroom situation for mainstream is difficult, I can remember my ds sitting on classroom floor occupying himself with various items. As a parent this is difficult to watch, as you want the teacher to be providing him with something stimulating and educational, or him joining in with the rest of the class, but it is likely he is just not ready to join in with the group situation, and if he is forced to this may have a negative impact on the situation. Make an appointment with the class teacher and ask her what the plan is, and is it built into his indivdual education plan to encourage him to spend more time concentrating during group situations.

And now for teenagers:eek:. I have 2 of those. Ds is the youngest and his sister is now 19. Firm boundaries. Those who have younger children/teens, get used to saying no and meaning it, and only make threats you intend to carry out, it does help when they are older. I agree as they want to fit in they do make more of an effort with their appearance/hygiene etc. My ds started college this year and is a lot better.

I am lucky don't have the shouting and swearing thing, but they have always been the rules in our house, so he may just be used to it. However, don't think I am just sitting here preening, lol. It is half term and he has barely been out of his bedroom, cups plates etc are building up in his room, and this is an issue, so told him on sunday if his plates etc, didn't make it out of his room on time I would be charging him £5 a week for me to do the extra washing up, and I will stick to this!! He will rant a bit, but I will win.

verysillyguy06

arran_m wrote: »

im not sure if this is the right place to post, but a relative of mine commited suicide last night, he had aspergers syndrome and had started to be prone to violent outbursts, i dont know all the ins and outs but he was becoming a strain on his family as at 21 he had not taken up his place at uni and not allowing his brother whom he shared a room with to have friends over. his mother basically told him that she was "wiping her hands from him", i guess he took it to heart. its still not sunk in yet, but i guess i just need to let it out somewhere

That is awful. So sorry to hear. That will hit his parents and all that still loved him hard. He must have felt very lonely to reach that conclusion. Try and keep his memory alife by focusing on all the good things he has done. My heart goes out to you and his family:o

fallen_angel_69

Fazeypie ... I have been to the libary and the list they gave me in there lists the holiday schemes but they all say up to age 11 even though i told them my dd is 12 Still hunting though i think i've exhausted everywhere So much for the ''condem '' goverment wanting all single parents to work I've been working for over 2yrs and now she is 12 i can't find childcare If the 'condems' want people to work perhaps they should come and find me some childcare ...Sorry rant over

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss arran m It must be really hard for you and such a shock for him to do such a thing