Aspergers/ASD support thread

Bitsy_Beans

Hey everyone need to pick your brains again.

DS (5 yrs) is playing it up over new clothes. He's outgrowing his old tops and jeans so have been buying him some new stuff (in the hope that he'll like it). Bought him some new jeans and a pair of cords. Attempt to put these on him this morning and he had a huge meltdown it seems the older he's getting the more issues he's having. Now clearly he's got to get used to wearing new clothes but anyone got any tips when he keeps rejecting everything? I bought him a lovely Lego Star Wars hoodie (as he's so keen on everything Lego) and the little b*gger won't wear it :eek:
It's not scratchy or uncomfortable but he rejected them as soon as he saw them as they are new. He's also being difficult some days about wearing his coat :cool:

Feeling fed up with the daily battles

sleepystar1975

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Hey everyone need to pick your brains again.

DS (5 yrs) is playing it up over new clothes. He's outgrowing his old tops and jeans so have been buying him some new stuff (in the hope that he'll like it). Bought him some new jeans and a pair of cords. Attempt to put these on him this morning and he had a huge meltdown it seems the older he's getting the more issues he's having. Now clearly he's got to get used to wearing new clothes but anyone got any tips when he keeps rejecting everything? I bought him a lovely Lego Star Wars hoodie (as he's so keen on everything Lego) and the little b*gger won't wear it :eek:
It's not scratchy or uncomfortable but he rejected them as soon as he saw them as they are new. He's also being difficult some days about wearing his coat :cool:

Feeling fed up with the daily battles

Is he willing to go to a shop (a quiet one?) and choose clothes with you?
My Godson will only wear clothes that he chose himself. (Not great for the Grannies a christmas who like to buy and make/knit him clothes!)


Perhaps not a definative answer, but maybe worth a try?

Bitsy_Beans

sleepystar1975 wrote: »

Is he willing to go to a shop (a quiet one?) and choose clothes with you?
My Godson will only wear clothes that he chose himself. (Not great for the Grannies a christmas who like to buy and make/knit him clothes!)


Perhaps not a definative answer, but maybe worth a try?

I have tried that a bit before and then he changes his mind when he gets home. Oh to be a fickle 5 year old <rollseyes>

Mics_chick

It's been suggested that I try to use "free time" as a different way to discipline my 5yo DS who's recently been diagnosed with Aspergers.

Thing is I've never ever been an organised person so my kids (got a 7yo DD too) pretty much do as they please in the evening unless they have an after school activity, some homework to do or are having their dinner or a bath.
This can be playing, drawing, reading, watching TV or playing on the computer.

If I'm too restrict my DS's free time what do I get him to do apart from that - I'm just confused :huh:

sock-knitter

i have a 15 year old, who is 6' 4" and will not wear any clothes other than a pair of blue trackie bottoms, and only his fila pair, no others in his wardrobe will do, plus his navy reebok hoody, again, no other make or colour will do.
he has a wardrobe full of brand new unworn clothes that will end up going to a charity shop. so frustrating. and every day i have to wash and dry these clothes ready for the next day or he refuses to get dressed and go to school

Savvy_Sue

I always had to wash clothes before DS1 would wear them, but do manage to insist that everything is tried on BEFORE it is washed so that it can go back if necessary.

However, I realise that still leaves an 'issue', because you might agree something fits, wash it and it's still rejected. BUT if the 'new' feeling is the problem, then not presenting it as 'new' might help.

fazeypie

Have you tried offering him a choice of two or three different outfits when you are getting him ready? I remember when my son was that age he'd be awful at mealtimes in a similar way so I tried offering him a choice of 2 different meals and that seemed to go down well.

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Hey everyone need to pick your brains again.

DS (5 yrs) is playing it up over new clothes. He's outgrowing his old tops and jeans so have been buying him some new stuff (in the hope that he'll like it). Bought him some new jeans and a pair of cords. Attempt to put these on him this morning and he had a huge meltdown it seems the older he's getting the more issues he's having. Now clearly he's got to get used to wearing new clothes but anyone got any tips when he keeps rejecting everything? I bought him a lovely Lego Star Wars hoodie (as he's so keen on everything Lego) and the little b*gger won't wear it :eek:
It's not scratchy or uncomfortable but he rejected them as soon as he saw them as they are new. He's also being difficult some days about wearing his coat :cool:

Feeling fed up with the daily battles

wornoutmumoftwo

Mics_chick wrote: »

It's been suggested that I try to use "free time" as a different way to discipline my 5yo DS who's recently been diagnosed with Aspergers.

Thing is I've never ever been an organised person so my kids (got a 7yo DD too) pretty much do as they please in the evening unless they have an after school activity, some homework to do or are having their dinner or a bath.
This can be playing, drawing, reading, watching TV or playing on the computer.

If I'm too restrict my DS's free time what do I get him to do apart from that - I'm just confused :huh:

My son is 8, has Aspergers and if allowed 'free time' he would live on the pc. I limit the time he does activities, so his evening is structured.
What does your son like to do? Who is suggesting free time as discipline? Has anything specific caused this suggestion?

My son has obsessive tendancies, problems with sharing turn taking and is very own agenda.

Routine: He gets off the bus at 4, is allowed a half hour on the pc, then half hour off to read.
Dinner at 5, homework 5.30-6, half hour pc, then wind down time before bed, usually reading.
Bed at 7.30/8.00 - but the little darling won't go to sleep until gone 10.

Darcy_1

My little boy, who has just turned seven is in the process of being diagnosed with Aspergers. However, it is very mild and I am not sure weather or not to go through with the diagnosis or not, as I honestly don't know and can't see how this would be any benefit to him. Nobody is pushing me to make up my mind, the school never have to call me in because he has been disruptive, usually the other extreme and he would definitely not need a classroom assistant.
Even the ladies at the hospital when they were diagnosing him thought it was best to come back in nine months time as if he was diagnosed they would only be offering him, five half hour sessions of social skills classes.
Could someone please tell me if they think the older the child gets the more obvious the Aspergers is? Or give me some advice if they have been in a similar situation?

fazeypie

I've been told by an aspergers counsellor who I have visited myself recently that the teenage years can be the most difficult time for aspies. So bearing that in mind, it may be good to get the diagnosis completed and keep in touch with whoever you are seeing in case you need more help further down the line. It does seem that there is a lot more help out there for kids and teens with aspergers than there is for adults.