Aspergers/ASD support thread

parapusher

tiannaleigh wrote: »

Hi ,does anybody know of a web site that has online games on that are good for kids with autism,my 5 year old used to love a site that I cant find now thAT i HAVE CHANGED MY P.C, it had a name something like woodfield school or something like that and had farm animal games etc,I cant for the life of me find it and she is getting quiote irritated with me lol

Do you mean
http://www.woodlands-junior.kent.sch.uk/ ?

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

I've posted this on another board but someone suggested moving it here.

My son is 14 & has Dyspraxia, Autistic Spectrum Disorder as well as Vocal & Motor Tics.

He has always been naughty & I have always struggled with his bad behaviour, Tantrums etc. although I have always been able to control my other 2 kids son who are 15 (nearly 16) & daughter who is 11 (nearly 12).

I can ground my daughter etc to punish her & stop my older son from going on the internet as those are the thing that they like to do whereas my younger son doesn't have any hobbies although at present we do take his Xbox away from him but it doesn't sem to have any positive effect on his behaviour.

I've tried talking to him to explain that whatever it is ie. hitting his lttle sister (who is half his size) isn't appropriate & won't be tolerated which just makes him sulk & slam doors etc until he calms down to appologise but he doesn't seem to learn as he does the same thing again the next time he gets angry.

Last night I had a killer headache & felt really ill as I have Sinusitis so my oh asked him to be a bit quieter as he was running around the house screaming as it was hurting my head.

Instead of saying ok then he started gobbing off at my oh & called him a knob.

Obviously my oh was upset as this isn't the first time he had done this to him & all he was trying to do was explain that I was ill & to try to keep the noise down.

I'm at my wits end & don't know what to do as in the past nothing has worked & i've tried all of it the naughty step, reward charts etc that all worked for my other 2 kids but he just couldn't be good long enought to get anything.

I make excuses for him to my oh as he is autistic but as he isn't like this at school he thinks that he is taking advantage of us & using his disability as an excuse to not do as he is told.

Any ideas would be gratefully appreciated.

julie03

im sorry dont have much advice, but this is exactly the same as my 8yr old. the only thing we have found slightly helpful is to stay extremely calm when they are in a temper, we sometimes restrain my son tho as an 8yr old (this is much easier than a 14 yr old tho) and we have to repeat over and over why that behaviour is not acceptable, he is an angel at school as well.

was waiting to see cahms, but they have said they wont see him now, he was referred to them because of some world in head, that he retreated to, to make himself a hero, and they now have said they dont want to label him with a mental illness at such a young age !!!!!!, he was also meant to be assessed for ASD with cahms
still seeing the EP in november so see what she says.

we was hoping cahms would help with the tantrums, the school have been great and they said i can speak to the autistic unit that is attached to the school next door

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

julie03 wrote: »

im sorry dont have much advice, but this is exactly the same as my 8yr old. the only thing we have found slightly helpful is to stay extremely calm when they are in a temper, we sometimes restrain my son tho as an 8yr old (this is much easier than a 14 yr old tho) and we have to repeat over and over why that behaviour is not acceptable, he is an angel at school as well.

was waiting to see cahms, but they have said they wont see him now, he was referred to them because of some world in head, that he retreated to, to make himself a hero, and they now have said they dont want to label him with a mental illness at such a young age !!!!!!, he was also meant to be assessed for ASD with cahms
still seeing the EP in november so see what she says.

we was hoping cahms would help with the tantrums, the school have been great and they said i can speak to the autistic unit that is attached to the school next door

We (myself & my oh) had to restrain him last year as he was smashing up the living room & scaring his little sister.

In the end he ran off out side in the dark & I had to call the Police who told him off & luckily he has been that bad again since.

I can restrain him as he is bigger than me already although his older brother has had to a couple of times.

If I have to tell him off he will go off in a tangent about how it wasn't his fault but so & so made him do it or got him into trouble.

I just wish that I could explain thinkg in a way that he could understand.

julie03

its never their fault is it? i think its their perception on things and the way they see things, if they think its right, then it is right, and its damned hard to change their minds

wornoutmumoftwo

julie03 wrote: »

its never their fault is it? i think its their perception on things and the way they see things, if they think its right, then it is right, and its damned hard to change their minds

Sorry to butt in but this is so right.

My 8 year old saw an ad for a mario galaxy for DS, (it was made up ad), and for 2 whole days he was adament this game existed. He went on and on and wouldn't accept somebody had made up this ad.

After puling out my hair over this, he comes up to me, all casual, telling me it's a fake. I could have screamed. I'd been telling him for two days it was fake, but until he read it for himself, he just wouldn't listen to me.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

wornoutmumoftwo wrote: »

Sorry to butt in but this is so right.

My 8 year old saw an ad for a mario galaxy for DS, (it was made up ad), and for 2 whole days he was adament this game existed. He went on and on and wouldn't accept somebody had made up this ad.

After puling out my hair over this, he comes up to me, all casual, telling me it's a fake. I could have screamed. I'd been telling him for two days it was fake, but until he read it for himself, he just wouldn't listen to me.

A few years ago Liam told me that a man with a giant dog chased him through the woods with an axe. :eek:

Strangely enough no one else saw the man, or the dog. :rotfl:

He also saw Sonic the Hedgehog coming up the stairs. :eek:

He has some imagination, you should see the stories he writes. :A

JK Rowling eat your heart out. :rotfl:

Indie_Kid

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

If I have to tell him off he will go off in a tangent about how it wasn't his fault but so & so made him do it or got him into trouble.

Do you explain why it's his fault?

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

sh1305 wrote: »

Do you explain why it's his fault?

I try to but he just doesn't seem get it, not at the time anyway.

julie03

sh1305 wrote: »

Do you explain why it's his fault?

sometimes you can explain why its their fault till you are blue in the face. if they think they are right or what they percieve to be right , thats it there is no talking to them.

my son is also very imaginative, so far warrior world which was in his head has now left and gone to paris, where everyone who was in world now lives in a castle

there are two witches in the wood by the school, which tell him not to come to me when i call him

and if it rains, its him, he controls the clouds apparently