Aspergers/ASD support thread

Sarahsaver

Hi fallen agnel. Re. the food, have you tried not having anything fattening 'available' for the snacking? if my kids did that they would only be able to get their hands on bread, fruit, veg and cereals.

MY ds had a major panic about shoes last year and ran away from me in town so now I get his off the internet;)

fallen_angel_69

theres never usually anything fattening about instead of 1 yoghurt she'd eat 4/5 ,cereal bars she has a tendancy to eat the whole box i very rarely buy crisps and theres never chocolate in the house it seems to me that she doesn't know when she's full
She gets loads exercise she walks to school has swimming lessons and 3 dancing lessons a week has trampoline in garden because she is always up around 5ish she plays out in the garden on her scooter before school everyday

Savvy_Sue

Hard to know what would work: I think that if DS1 had been prone to nocturnal wanderings and midnight munchies, I'd have been able to leave out what I was happy for him to eat. But he was a very rules-based child: in some ways he still is, does not gorge on chocolate, so is able to buy himself large family bars which last him a long time. Me, I'd eat the lot in one night ... :rotfl:

Locks on cupboard doors may be part of the answer ... at least for now?

I've mentioned MagLocks before: you can't see them from the outside, and you need their magnet to open them (and trust me, a 'normal' magnet you just happen to have lying around the home won't do!) They are fiddly to fit, and obviously you then need a 'safe' place to keep the magnet, and you must never put the magnet down inside the cupboard and then shut it. But I'd say they were excellent for kitchen cupboards, and because nothing is seen from the outside you can take them off later or move them to a different cupboard. Oh, and you can set them to 'unlocked' as well, so you can choose when to lock them and when to leave them open.

Or if it's possible, fit a lock to the kitchen door!

I wondered about locks for the fridge as well, and having had a quick google, one suggestion would be to fit a hinged hasp and padlock using the kind of glue used to mount security cables to computers. You could try double sided tape, depends how determined your DD is: if she won't accept a 'no snacking when mum's not up' rule then she may just try to prise double sided tape off ...

As for the immediate school uniform problem, I would talk to the head: I know at my sons' secondary school that the official uniform provider would provide non-standard sizes within the standard price range if parents were struggling to buy uniforms large (or small!) enough. I realise you can't do that before September, but if you've not been successful you have at least given it your best shot.

Sarahsaver

i don't have a limit on fruit but that backfiired on me once - almost literally :eek: i got 3lb of plums off the market one day and they only lasted a day!!!
Spending the night in a double bed with DS I realise that maybe his voracious appetite is due to the fact he moves in his sleep so much!
I am lucky that my fridge is in the utility room locked, but then again ds is now tall enough to open it! but he would only find a few leftovers, homemade plain yoghurt, vegetables, and yes more fruit :eek:

Re. uniforms schools are NOT legally allowed to insist on a supplier, they are breaking official guidelines. I know this from my time as a governor.

Savvy_Sue

Sarahsaver wrote: »

Re. uniforms schools are NOT legally allowed to insist on a supplier, they are breaking official guidelines. I know this from my time as a governor.

That's true, but if you are having problems finding uniform on the high street to fit it's helpful if the 'official' or 'preferred' supplier has a policy of supplying non-standard sizes without slapping a premium on their usually already higher than high street prices. However, they might not advertise this policy.

In fact pre secondary school there was no 'preferred' supplier: we bought logo-ed items via the school office and trousers wherever we wanted.

But if the head wants children in uniform, they have a vested interest in helping parents find it in the right sizes! IMO, of course ...

Strapped

Hi, I've been lurking around this thread - not sure whether anyone's mentioned it, but M&S do school uniform in adult sizes. Dearer than "supermarket" prices but not extortionate, and hard wearing.

I've been lurking because DS was sent home from school a lot in the last couple of weeks of term. I mentioned right at the start of this thread that he has "behaviour problems" at school, although I thought that they were starting to improve. He's only 6 and just finished Yr1. Now the school have said that they can't cope with him any more unless he gets statemented and they get assistance with him. We have a meeting with the school and the behaviour support team at the beginning of next term. The thing is, though, that the ed psych has already "observed" him twice in the last year, and she doesn't think that there's a huge problem - although clearly she saw him on "good days". She recommended some group work and some strategies for dealing with him to the school, but tbh, it's not clear whether they've been applying these, and if so, whether they are being consistent. In fact, I suspect that they are not being consistent, because it's easier to just call us and get us to take him home when he gets himself wound up into a tantrum. The Head has commented to us that they have to "make a decision each time", whether to try to make him do something when he's not cooperating, or whether they let it go because they have the rest of the class to deal with as well. Not really sure where to go from here really. Just rambling...

Sarahsaver

They are not legally allowed to just 'send him home' this must be recorded as an exclusion.
Please contact your local authority's special needs teaching service.
Good luck;)

blue_monkey_2

Evening everyone, ah food. I have hidden all of the food in the house that is 'bad' all the good stuff I leave out. Ryan eats from the minute he gets up and I have to prise food off him all the time as he has such a big appetite.

This will make you laugh, I have started taking them to Gymnastics, no Ryan LOVES it so much - I have him on the waiting list (1 year!!) but he so NEEDS this and to be doing something like this. Anyway, last week he had done his session and I was paying for DD to have her session as she goes in after on her own, I turned around and he had scaled this huge pillar that was in the reception area and he was at the top, just hanging there, one hand either side of the pillar. I just tutted and dragged him down, LOL.

My friend offered to come shopping with me today.... I've never heard her raise her voice before..... LOL..... You see, you have to laugh else you would cry about it. However, I do not think she will offer again!!

I'vemanaged to get his school uniform on today and it fits nice, got the trousers in Matalan in the end - the only place I could find Navy trousers with adjustable waist. I have the opposite problem in that Ryan is too skinny.

Next do the Xtra sizes now that go bigger, are these no good, they are a seperate range to the usual stuff - might only be available online? Have you seen them?

Sarahsaver

My DS will only wear jeans, luckily they have a 'dress code' not a uniform as such, school colours. He needs age 9 to 10 trousers (he is 8) but tightly belted around the waist!

NoahsPennilessMummy

Can anyone help me with a toilet problem?

My son is 5 and has autism and refuses to use black toilet seats

This causes a huge problem when we are out anywhere and I cant find a solution to it.

I have tried the paper covers but he says he can still see the black seat and it doesnt cover he lid. Wants me to wrap seat and lid in toilet paper and sellotape so" no black can get out"!!!

Have phoned NAS helpline and they suggested carrying a white seat around in rucksack and holding that on top of black seat......eeeeeh you have to laugh sometimes:rotfl:

Also he is driving us insane at the mo due to wanting to talk "at us" all the time about numbers and clocks esp 24 hour clock!!

NAS suggested building slots into his visual timetable where he can talk about this and not allowing it at any other times.
Has anyone else tried this approach as I just have a feeling it will lead to some huge meltdowns.

Tried a hol for the first time this year.....only to Norfolk at Haven site but we had to come back early as he just could not cope and the black toilet seat problem was happening everyday!
It makes you realise that any chance of a normal life has gone out the window really.:rolleyes: