Aspergers/ASD support thread

Snaggles

Completely agree with that Savvy - sometimes my DS will say the MOST bizarre things, but when you get to the bottom of what he actually means, you tend to find it makes perfect sense!

One thing I would definitely say is that you will need to be aware of how you say things - you need to be very clear and precise. If you say you will do something 'in a minute' then you need to do it in a minute, not 1 minute 30 seconds....lol! You will probably find you need to speak very literally - sarcasm, expressions, jokes etc may not be understood.

But the main thing I would say is just be open-minded. There is so much variation in ASD behaviours, and no two Aspies are alike, just as no two people are alike. Be prepared for everything, at both extremes of the spectrum, and be aware that while that type of job requires a HUGE amount of patience and perseverance, it will also be hugely rewarding, in ways you probably wouldn't even imagine.

Even today I have realised this. Ryan told (and understood) his first ever joke (what is a special agent's favourite creature? A spy-der!) and my heart felt like it was going to burst with pride!!

ollorraine

there isnt really anything you can do to encourage her, just go along with the flow coz after a few months she will go on to something else. my little girl is 5 and has autism/aspergers and her problem is socks, i wish wish wish lol that i knew a firm that do seamless socks. a constant battle every morning, which makes her late 4 school, they like soft fabrics against skin as my little girls skin is much more senitive than her brother and sisters, a brush against her skin when walkin beside her or past her upsets her. i hope ive been a little bit of a help, im new to this also as litlun has just been diagnosed.:huh:

Snaggles

Hi ollorraine - welcome :wave:

My ds can't bear the seams in socks - when he was little we used to put them on inside out so the seam was on the outside....but we can't get away with that now he's older! We find some brands less 'seamy' than others - Next do some that barely have a seam at all (I buy them for me too, because I don't like seams either ).

Can you knit? :rotfl:

samf1971

I know someone who had exactly the same probs with socks, they bought these http://www.cheekylegs.co.uk/tights/girls-socks-selection/ (hope that works) scroll down the page a little, not sure if they're available in different colours etc.

autismmum

my friends lad hates pants and trousers.... shame he 's a boy really , he doesnt mind dresses.. poor chap, wondering how he will get on at school.

tillycondy

Hi my ds likes to be naked as much as possible.The second he walks through the door he takes everything off! wont wear pjs and when out wears as little as possible(never wants coat etc) He does, if not closely watched strip in public places ie soft play areas:o He does not understand that it is not ok and its a real battle. As he is only 4 I dont have a problem with him being naked at home and at present have told him "not ok outside or in anyone elses house but at home ok "but am very aware that as he gets older this could be more of a problem. When anyone visits the rule is pants on but this is an ongoing battle as two mins later the pants are off again. He has lots of sensery issues and seems to be most happy undressed. Has anyone had this problem? might he grow out of it? should I start to insist he keeps cloths on ? should I say in your bedroom or the bathroom naked is ok everywhere else pants a must? I am kind of thinking ahead as I dont want to let him think its ok at home and then one day when he is older say this is no longer ok.... and he will not understand Why it was ok and now is not.. am I making any sense?

verysillyguy06

Hi i have worked in residential care with children with disabilities...mainly autism...i became manager and now i am a social worker...i belive that you would be best to teach ur son already now what 'acceptable behaviour' is...he may grow out of it some do but others dont and then when they have become older and stronger they not want to listen anymore...i know it is very hard good luck....:cool:

blue_monkey_2

I have to admit I laughed out loud when you started talking about taking clothes off.

Standing at CS in Tesco the other day and I looked at Ryan ad noticed his ants and trousers were round his ankles. I was glowing!! LOL!! I laugh now but I as absolutley mortified. He hates clothes and I have to force them on him and he would much prefer to be naked. I love the summer as I don't bother getting him dressed unless weare going somewhere or if someone is coming round.

And socks, don't get me started on socks. DD hates the seams in socks and tights (so do I though, hmmmm).

I lile this thread when I read things and it makes me laugh out loud.

An another note, I have the Special needs Health Visitor coming to visit me on Wednesday, what will happen? Anyone had the HV visit yet. I think this is the first time I have really felt like there is something wrong with Ryan as the doctor as instructed her to visit us in the home.

I tend to see Ryan as just a little bit full on but 2 people said to me the other day that they did not know how I coped with him being 'like that all day'. You see, to me it is normal, i don't see anything different. He does some things, like when he does this thing when he opens his mouth really wise, and I kind of think that I have never seen other kids doing that, but he does this when he cannot accept the things going on around him, or if something from the norm is happening. anyway, been freecycling loads of stuff today - everything is going to ache as I've been having a really good tidy up!!

Sarahsaver

My DS is VERY fussy about clothing. Things can be apparently ok to us but to him they are 'too small' i am sure he can detect even a millimetre's worth of growth. he likes jeans, jeans jeans, luckily he is in a school where he can wear jeans:) IF he wears long sleeves they have to cover his wrists, he is funny about materials, basically lives in a uniform of t shirts and jeans so luckily this looks quite 'normal' to everyone else. he does insist on the 'right' shirt and the 'right' shoes if we go anywhere smart, and gets in a real flap if things are not just so. Maybe he could be the next Gok Wan. he has even advised me on clothes since he was about 2 years old, he has a very good if over precise eye for the minutest details.

Savvy_Sue

Didn't David Beckham make sarongs fashionable? Can't we go all multi-cultural and let our boys wear kilts or those flowing middle eastern robes?

DS1's been extremely modest from a very young age - can't BEAR to have any 'bits' on show, and although he will lounge around in his dressing gown for hours after he gets up, he doesn't (and never has) run round with not a lot on. DS2 puts clothes on as soon as he wakes up, but will sprint from bathroom to bedroom in the altogether. DS3 would live in nothing more than pants at home if I let him, but dashes off to put a t-shirt on if anyone arrives. BTW, it's only DS1 who is Aspie, although I sometimes wonder about the youngest!