Debt, debt and more debt.

SunshineBecks

Good morning,
I just wanted to say I sat and read your diary last night.
You are doing amazingly well.. such an inspiration!
You work so hard with all your jobs and sound like an excellent mum.
Remember to look after yourself too- self care is a must (although I have to admit I don’t follow my own advice!)
Stay strong,
B

Honeysucklelou2

Hope the tutoring goes well this morning. How long have you got until half term?

Chrystal

Your job sounds really stressful, especially with all the personal turmoil you've been going through:( Maybe it IS time to make a fresh start in the job situation as well. ((hugs))

I know it's hard, but one day you will look back on the situation with EX and realise what a really lucky escape you've had. You deserve MUCH better than a selfish egotistical pr*ck, and you're best way of 'getting your own back' is to be happy and successful in your life. X

beanielou

You will get back on track.
Don't be too hard on yourself.

kyariskyaris

I’ve just read you’re entire thread from star to finish and felt compelled to sign up and subscribe in order to show you some support. So glad you and the kids are out of that environment, you can start to rebuild yourself now 💜 Sending positive vibes your way, well done you! #GetThoseAngelWings :A

warby68

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So, had a full weekend of driving DD to her friends houses and having them back to stay here. My ex goes in my Mum's local as it is his supporters club. I was picking DD's friend up and saw him outside the pub. I didn't even think about him being there. Anyway he must have gone to watch the football and was on the phone, probably arranging another night out. I don't know why but it has really upset me to the point of being heartbroken.

Maybe it's because I'm ill and work hasn't gone well this week. I was doing fine the last two weeks. Didn't tutor today as I need a break, literally hit a brick wall today in terms of motivation.

I'll get back on track next week.

You're allowed all of this, and then some.

You ARE motivated, you're just exhausted,unwell and too busy.

Please take a little time for yourself, an investment if you will so you can have something in the tanks again.

Park the work stuff for a short while - better tackled when you feel a bit more yourself. The downsides will be magnified at the moment in terms of your reaction to them. You've had a lot of change so the timing might not be brilliant to change the job as well - better the devil you know reasoning. Not for ever of course, just make sure its a 'decision' not a 'reaction'

How is everyone doing in the new house? Including the dog - I think it says a lot about a person that takes a pet on but happily abandons them, another thing that should convince you this is about him and how he is far more than it ever was about you.

Suffolk_lass

What you are feeling in terms of emotions when you see your ex unexpectedly - it is all part of the grieving process. The last two weeks has seen you taking some momentous steps and it really is only natural for the drop in adrenalin that naturally follows that to make you feel physically awful, emotionally drained and leave you open to infection.

I recommend you re-read the start of your diary as the reasons you had to get out are screaming out from every post. You really have done the right thing putting the health, home and wellbeing of you and your children before the imagined relationship you hoped once you might have.

I'm sure my words don't help but do please realise that it is all normal. Not nice, but completely normal

Honeysucklelou2

Shocked to read of cameras installed everywhere. Who in education has time to sit and watch all day?

Do you have car auctions near you? If you know what to look for or have someone with you who is car savvy, some bargains can be found. My DD picked up a Corsa for £500. It had low mileage and is a good reliable run around.

Hope half term is a time to rest and relax for you,

beanielou

How did they not realise?!!!

I will say nothing about the car.

Chrystal

Glad that the expenses are less than you thought they may be.

Give yourself time to get your head around this whole situation... Rome wasn't built in a day.

As for Ex :eek: :eek: Bet it's made you put things in perspective though! :cool: (((hugs)))