Upset re inheritance

dbrookf

My uncle died recently and left £50,000 each to his 4 elderly siblings and the same to me – obviously because I helped to look after him when his wife died the year previously. One of the siblings is my mother.

The issue is my sister is not happy as she thinks that I should give up my inheritance to each of the siblings (one being my mother) and then this would form part of my mother’s estate that we would both benefit from eventually. My mother has already given her £10k from her £50k.

She is not happy and I can feel a rift developing which is quite upsetting. What do others think of the situation?

[Deleted User]

It's entirely your choice.

You've been left the money and therefore have a valid claim to it.

If you would prefer to give it to someone else, that's up to you.

harrys_nan

So she is upset because she didn't get any, why does she think your mum should get more than the other siblings?
If you want to give it or share it with anyone, that's your choice to make not hers.
Does your mum need more or is that the sister want's more when your mum passes, I know what I would do.

Durban

Is it just you and your sister?

Can you give part of your inheritance to your sister?

I only say this as I don't know the full details and I know that you helped look after him but sometimes relatives can have favourites for no particular reason.

I see this with some of my own relatives and my grown up children and I would hate for them to fall out if one of them were left an inheritance and the others weren't.

silvercar

If you gave up your £50k, your mother would get £62.5k. If your mother didn't spend any of it eventually your sister and you would inherit £31.25k each.

I'm surprised your sister isn't just asking you to split your £50k with her, giving her £25k now and then another £25k when your mother eventually passes.

No reason for you to entertain any of this. The fact that your mother has given her 10k is a generous way to stop her moaning, hope it works!

dbrookf

Durban wrote: »

Is it just you and your sister?

Can you give part of your inheritance to your sister?

I only say this as I don't know the full details and I know that you helped look after him but sometimes relatives can have favourites for no particular reason.

I see this with some of my own relatives and my grown up children and I would hate for them to fall out if one of them were left an inheritance and the others weren't.

I don’t think my husband would be overly happy about giving it away... aaarghhh families and money heh?

POPPYOSCAR

It was the wish of your uncle.

Your sister has no right to question it and no right to pressure you.

What you do is up to you but I would not do what she wants personally.

Mojisola

dbrookf wrote: »

My uncle died recently and left £50,000 each to his 4 elderly siblings and the same to me – obviously because I helped to look after him when his wife died the year previously.

The issue is my sister is not happy as she thinks that I should give up my inheritance to each of the siblings (one being my mother) and then this would form part of my mother’s estate that we would both benefit from eventually. My mother has already given her £10k from her £50k.

How much help did your sister give to your uncle?

You have been left an inheritance because your help was valued - if she didn't help, why should she expect to share your inheritance?

Is she good at manipulating other people to hand over money?

dbrookf

Mojisola wrote: »

How much help did your sister give to your uncle?

You have been left an inheritance because your help was valued - if she didn't help, why should she expect to share your inheritance?

Is she good at manipulating other people to hand over money?

But she’s making me feel guilty now....should I be giving her half??

lisyloo

dbrookf wrote: »

But she’s making me feel guilty now....should I be giving her half??

My opinion is no.
It was what you uncle wanted.
Tell her you don’t want to fall out with her about it but it’s what your uncle wanted and should drop the matter.
How long are you prepared to put up with her emotional blackmail attempts?

jackieblack

dbrookf wrote: »

The issue is my sister is not happy as she thinks that I should give up my inheritance to each of the siblings (one being my mother) and then this would form part of my mother’s estate that we would both benefit from eventually. My mother has already given her £10k from her £50k.

She is not happy and I can feel a rift developing which is quite upsetting. What do others think of the situation?

I think that it's none of your sister's business who your uncle chose to leave an inheritance to and if she's not happy then it's too bad.
It was your uncle's choice who to leave his money to - as it will be your mother's choice who to leave her money to.