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Barking mad relatives!
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As I understand it, the 'leader' represents the charity that the OP volunteers for.
Not her full-time employment.
I've posted earlier with my opinions of how this charity has dealt with the letter.
I really don't think giving the 'leader' access to this thread would do any good.
They're already 'very nervous' about the content of the letter.
As for showing an employer a thread on a public forum, that would be a definite 'no' from me.
Regardless of whether it was a good employer or not.
None of which I will use in a family environment.
The time for making nice is over. Get a free half hour with a solicitor with a view to preventing the female expressing herself in any credible way on any platform.
You can take legal steps & I urge you to do so before she turns your good name from good to smeared beyond recognition.
I wouldn't show an employer this thread but I would put together a factual sequence of events to show how the problem started and how it escalated - much easier to show someone a straightforward list rather than try to explain while feeling stressed or upset because auntie sent a letter to your workplace.
If the leader felt out of their depth and consulted the head office in a 'help me, what's the right response to this, nothing like this has happened before' way that doesn't seem a problem to me. If on the other hand head office were genuinely considering action I am concerned.
Lewis Carroll
I agree. I bet that was their first thought...."OMG how should I deal with this??? Refer it upwards, it's above my paygrade!!!" (or should that be volunteer grade)
Hopefully, they will see it for what it is, the ramblings of a disturbed mind, and dismiss it out of hand.
This should now read "It's time to start digging up those Squirrelled Nuts"!!! :j:j:j
I certainly didn't get from the OP's post that the charity had 'dismissed it out of hand'.
Yes, sorry, i'd missed that point. Does seem a bit odd that they'd take it that seriously, unless the wording of the letter was VERY damning!!! (Not true, when you know the other side of the story, obviously)
Without knowing the type of charity, and the exact wording of the letter, we're only guessing as to what impact it MIGHT have on their organisation.
This should now read "It's time to start digging up those Squirrelled Nuts"!!! :j:j:j
That said, it appears far to much of her family regard her as a soft touch & I repeat my view that it is time to get legal advice before family give any more trouble in any other fora.
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