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My EX is threatening me ...

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  • OscarFoxtrot
    OscarFoxtrot Posts: 102 Forumite
    michelechan wrote: »
    Well i can tell you now it wont be 6 months. I want to get out of here and cant wait to get the hell out of here so i will not drag this on for 6 months. I am not talking about his behaviour in regards to money ... Is more of his attitude and the way he treats a human being!

    I am have been and still looking for both buying and renting options. So i will hopefully find one within the next two weeks



    Im not sure what you mean. He doesn't want to see you or speak to you. That's actually quite reasonable.


    You feel as though you can force him to talk to you face to face; you cant.


    You don't like his behaviour, but that's not your concern anymore as you aren't together
  • stepp
    stepp Posts: 56 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10 Posts Combo Breaker
    Been through this situtation with an X Girlfriend , just get the hell out of there ASAP.

    It will drag you down to the ground the longer you let it go on.

    Do what you have to do and take what is yours and never look back.

    Good Luck
  • getmore4less
    getmore4less Posts: 46,882 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper I've helped Parliament
    Be careful how much you post if you don't want to be identified.
  • Socajam
    Socajam Posts: 1,238 Forumite
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    michelechan wrote: »
    The reason i didnt reply to his email is because the email he sent out is like to one of his clients and I am not his client. I didnt reply because things like this should be discuss face to face in a mature manner and then after that we can put everything in the email in writing.

    Yes i told him face to face that i now accept the relationship we once had is now dead and that chapter is now closed. i also told him face to face many times that i am prepared to leave as he wish and i need time to find my new places. i did told him that i am looking to buy (new build).

    By the way, i did not get upset AT ALL when we had our discussions because thats not who i am. We are talking about serious discussion hence all the emotions should be set aside.

    We have already agreed on the amount that he will give it back to me, i am not worried about the money cause i have that in writing.

    You are giving this man too much information.
    Do not tell him what property whether its new built or otherwise, he does not need to know.
    All he needs to know is when can you expected for 50/50 split of the proceeds and you need to move on with your life as a matter of urgency - your urgency, not his.
    I forgot to mention yesterday, do not cry in his presence this is giving him power. The less power he have over you the better it is.
    Get yourself a solicitor and tell him to communicate with them, you are done talking.
  • Soundgirlrocks
    Soundgirlrocks Posts: 746 Forumite
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    michelechan wrote: »
    Well i can tell you now it wont be 6 months. I want to get out of here and cant wait to get the hell out of here so i will not drag this on for 6 months. I am not talking about his behaviour in regards to money ... Is more of his attitude and the way he treats a human being!

    I am have been and still looking for both buying and renting options. So i will hopefully find one within the next two weeks

    I don't think you understand what I meant, the buying option can easily take 6 month, so waiting til you have somewhere to buy won't be a quick which is why I recommended moving into rented (only once you are legally off the mortgage etc I wouldn't budge whilst still liable)

    Try not to let emotion cloud your judgement. It is of no use to you and will lead you to make bad decisions.
  • System
    System Posts: 178,371 Community Admin
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    You sounded just like my ex. thank you for taking your time to comment on here.
    This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com
  • pillar11
    pillar11 Posts: 6 Forumite
    get a good lawyer and let him know that you're stronger with all power you can
  • financegeek
    financegeek Posts: 140 Forumite
    Socajam wrote: »
    All he needs to know is when can you expected for 50/50 split of the proceeds and you need to move on with your life as a matter of urgency - your urgency, not his..

    the OP is getting more than 50% of the proceeds as the property has dropped in value since purchase and the ex has offered her deposit back.

    By delaying and being difficult the ex may change his mind about being so generous and returning her deposit in full and tell his solicitors to go for 50/50.

    I can see nothing positive about the OP staying in the property and dragging this out further. it's time for everyone to move on and start their new lives
  • System
    System Posts: 178,371 Community Admin
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    Thanks guys!
    Lets END this thread here :)
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  • OscarFoxtrot
    OscarFoxtrot Posts: 102 Forumite
    michelechan wrote: »
    You sounded just like my ex. thank you for taking your time to comment on here.

    Who do you mean? You need to quote posts
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