I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

Artytarty

Both_Feet_on_Terra_Firma wrote: »

I am not sure if DS really has depression or is slipping back its sometimes very easy to put a label on behaviours to make it acceptable he needs to pull his weight his life is easy he has a job he goes larping a girlfriend ,he has a permanent child minder on site that is free of charge to him he has a roof over his head and food to eat he has everything going for him so much more than most working single parents yet he cannot do one small simple task I really cannot understand how you allow him to continue to treat you like this

But depression is not about having or not having all the things you've mentioned. It can strike anyone from the wealthiest with seemingly gilded lives to the rest of us. It is no respecter of lifestyle.

Both_Feet_on_Terra_Firma

Artytarty wrote: »

But depression is not about having or not having all the things you've mentioned. It can strike anyone from the wealthiest with seemingly gilded lives to the rest of us. It is no respecter of lifestyle.

You are so right but if he is depressed then he should be encouraged to see a GP the thing is he does have a history of allowing his mother to do everything for him and it takes a rocket to make him do something for her

Savvy_sewing

Yesterday wasn't too bad, except trying to get DS to get up and yes I have told him he needs to see a doctor. Finding him standing on the doorstep crying is not a normal thing.
As I am depressed, I can see the signs. It doesn't matter if he has everything or nothing, it doesn't care, and he knows that he is fighting a loosing battle with our situation.where I have been working on my own mental health, my inner self, during 2019, I think that 2020 is going to be a year where I try to show Dgd, DS, Biggest and my best friends, that taking time for self reflection, self belief, and knowing what exactly triggers them is possibly going to be my goal for the next year.
2020 is not going to be about building up my business, 2020 is going to be about helping us all to find that inner self worth, that confidence in ourselves and our abilities and love.
Nurturing self esteem, confidence and the ability to believe that they,we, can have a positive impact moving forward.
To deal with the problems but to try to see them from different angles.
I want to establish some self confidence in them all.

I did some sewing between 9.15 and 1.45.
After lunch I did some housework and washing etc, and at 3.30 I went shopping for a few bits for us and my Mum. Then I spent the evening watching things with Dgd.
DS was at work so I did the bedtime routine and for once it was a straight forward one.

hb2

Ss, I'm sorry that you and your son are both feeling so low

I think the best way of teaching the family about self-care, self-esteem etc is by example. 'Do as I do' always carries more weight than 'do as I say'

Savvy_sewing

Doing odds and sods jobs today. Don't know where the day went. Terribly wet and soggy underfoot.
Mending moth holes is my second least favourite job. The first is zips in jackets.

Smallest of my lot was not going to sleep if he could help it tonight. It took till 9.45 to win the battle of the bed. My left side is struggling with putting him back in, it didn't help that I got up with a bout of sciatica this morning. The rain doesn't do my hands many favours and I used my arthritis gloves yesterday and today for the first time this winter.
Tomorrow is the last day of school, and my last opportunity to do any sewing without the family around.
I have to go and see my Mum as she's worried about her washing machine, and wants to get a different one sorted. So a visit to AO.com I think.
The evening is planned for wrapping up the gifts etc, checking my list and making sure I have something for everyone.
But for now, it is bedtime for this old rooster.

beanielou

Hope you don't have lots of sewing still to do.

Savvy_sewing

beanielou wrote: »

Hope you don't have lots of sewing still to do.

The only sewing that I have now left to do are big make jobs that the customers are ok about waiting for till after Christmas.
However to occasionally escape into my workshop could be on my agenda for some peace and quiet. But don't tell the family.

Not my best night, and I feel rather jaded this morning. Baby is up, but have to get the two for school up now.
DS was at some Christmas function with gf, and so stayed there last night.
At least I know that the routine is up to me this morning.

I have got this.
See you later

beanielou

You have got this:)

Savvy_sewing

Everyone to school ( in two different directions) on time. Breakfast etc all went smoothly, no drama from the usual suspects.
Quick visit to my friends as I parked on her drive.
Big Life Journals for her Son and a Biggest stepdaughter arrived.
Two customers been to collect their things.
Not a bad start to a wet and miserable day.
Just want to know when DS is coming home so I can arrange to go to my Mum.
I don't want to take the wee one with me as he is into everything and I have visions of him demolishing Mums house like a whirling Tasmanian's devil.
I need to change the lads bed as he had another accident in the night.

Ah, please can I take wee one to him .
As I am going that way, yes I can do that.
Right at least I don't have to hang around here.
Onwards.

hb2

Onwards indeed Ss.