I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

Savvy_sewing

hb2 wrote: »

Oh dear

I have to say that my lamp is new and I haven't been using it for long enough to see results.

Persevere for a couple of weeks.
I sit for 15 minutes in the morning but as it gets darker I start to up it to 20 minutes and up to 30 if necessary. But 15-20 regular sessions are ideal.

Expecting a customer for a fitting now. Then I can stop for the day.

Childcare duties then.

Savvy_sewing

jackieblack wrote: »

Interesting piece on Radio 4 at the moment about how poorly ‘kinship carers’ are supported...

See if I can get it on demand later.

But I knew that anyway with my first encounter with them.

jackieblack

Savvy_sewing wrote: »

But I knew that anyway with my first encounter with them.

Yes. But I thought the piece might go on to give some advice that could be helpful.
Unfortunately I think it just reinforced what we already know

Savvy_sewing

jackieblack wrote: »

Yes. But I thought the piece might go on to give some advice that could be helpful.
Unfortunately I think it just reinforced what we already know

What a pity.

We had several hours of questioning between us today- 41/2 hours of it.
I feel like my soul has been exposed.
I feel that every thing I ever did in life is being scrutinised and twisted.
No my parents were not abusive.
No I don't have PTSD because I grew up in the forces.
No boarding school was not traumatic.
No I was not abused .
No I don't think I have done badly. No we were not deprived
Yes we had holidays every year.
Yes I expect to still take holidays, I expect at least 4 a year
That raised eyebrows. I was slightly tongue in cheek but I was getting fed up of questions. How will I bring up this family. The way I see fit. With love, rules, laughs and hugs. I will encourage them to follow their dreams and believe that anything is possible if they want it enough.

pollyanna_26

That sounds exhausing and I would think mentally draining Ss. The only positive I can think of is a difficult stage in the process is done.


Having read back on all the posts I missed it was good to see the one re the dairies ,planners and the budget. Over the last year or so I've cut so many corners I've lost track of where I was up to.


I don't have the daily demands you have with many different things to do but have started to get things on track over the last few weeks. I was getting a bit black doggish myself which rarely happens and once I start to sort things the black dog goes.


You've had so much to deal with often out of the blue it's not surprising you felt down and suffering overload. You've always planned and mapped and I'm sure once things are sorted things will settle down somewhat.


Just allow time to work out how to arrange what you can so you're aren't first responder in certain situations. I hope mum is a little more settled and is regaining her confidence. It's a shock at her age to find herself in hospital and she is probably still missing her friend.


I'm glad you and Molly finally got together. Hoping her health continues to improve and when you know what the future will be and can plan without too many obstacles you will both see more of each other.


I hope you manage an unbroken nights sleep after today.
pollyx

hb2

Ss, the 'interview' sounds horrible but, as Polly says, at least that step is over now.

It must be very hard to constantly spring back when you plans are upset by events I'm glad that your dreams are simply 'on hold'. In the words of the song 'You've got to have a dream . . .'

Thanks for the advice about the SAD light. I'm still trying to find the best position for it and me. The info that came with it said that I don't need to be directly in front of it but I don't think I was getting enough of the light. I have changed position and will see how that goes. I'm starting with 20 minutes (as long as I don't get a headache of anything) and will vary up/down depending on how I am reacting. For me, it is not so much the low mood (although that too), it is the fact that I want to eat my own bodyweight in sweet things and sleep until spring!

Polly, I'm glad you sent the black dog away with its tail between its legs.

Savvy_sewing

hb2 wrote: »

Ss, the 'interview' sounds horrible but, as Polly says, at least that step is over now.

It must be very hard to constantly spring back when you plans are upset by events I'm glad that your dreams are simply 'on hold'. In the words of the song 'You've got to have a dream . . .'

Thanks for the advice about the SAD light. I'm still trying to find the best position for it and me. The info that came with it said that I don't need to be directly in front of it but I don't think I was getting enough of the light. I have changed position and will see how that goes. I'm starting with 20 minutes (as long as I don't get a headache of anything) and will vary up/down depending on how I am reacting. For me, it is not so much the low mood (although that too), it is the fact that I want to eat my own bodyweight in sweet things and sleep until spring!

Polly, I'm glad you sent the black dog away with its tail between its legs.

They are returning for the next interrogation of my relationships next week. Although he didn't say which day. My Ex has been contacted and has told me they are asking him his opinion on my ability to parent etc.
Considering he's Ex for a reason, then that's worrying enough, ( except he told me he was asked).
My medical they wanted my doctor to give me an internal! My doctor refused.
They are pushing me to far.
And if they are reading this to continue to catch me out, push me in a corner or trip me up they have picked on the wrong woman.
I will be talking to my Solicitor about this.

Enough is enough.


Re the Sad lamp don't look directly at the light. I put it to the side and read a book for 15 minutes or so so I don't look at the light but just past it.

I got to see Molly again today, and this afternoon DGD and I went to the cinema to watch Malificent. It was good to see both.

I even shortened a pair of jeans before 9sm and popped to the shop for milk and a few bits all before 9.
That's thanks to my mini alarm who doesn't recognise the clocks changed

pollyanna_26

So sorry to read your post Ss. There I was thinking the worst part was over. I find it wrong they're asking your ex to make judgements on your parenting skills., as you say there are reasons people become the ex I don't want to ever breathe the same air as mine let alone have him making decisions on my life and family..


Thank goodness your Dr has decency and commonsense and refused to do the internal. I find it a shocking suggestion. You've raised dgd with love and I believe that's proof enough. I understand certain things need looking at but this sounds like back when women were a bit downtrodden with no voice and men were listened to.


Agree, talk to your solicitor.


Glad you and Molly have met up today.You need an understanding friend at times like this. It was a good idea to get to the cinema with dgd.she'll have enjoyed it and it's better for you to do something nice rather than be at home with your thoughts at the moment.


Hope the human alarm clock adjusts to gmt soon.We seem to have gone straight to dark . I'm sure it used to a gradual process.


Try to rest when you can . At least your Dr is aware of the stress of the present situation. Love and light to you and yours.
pollyx

Almost-free

Wouldn’t you think the fact you are looking after your Dgd they would be able to circumvent a lot of this nonsense SS? Not only have they forced you into this position by not properly supporting your son and his children, but they are now trying to prove you unsuitable . Would be laughable if not so cruel.

gizmo111

Savvy_sewing wrote: »

They are returning for the next interrogation of my relationships next week. Although he didn't say which day. My Ex has been contacted and has told me they are asking him his opinion on my ability to parent etc.
Considering he's Ex for a reason, then that's worrying enough, ( except he told me he was asked).
My medical they wanted my doctor to give me an internal! My doctor refused.
They are pushing me to far.
And if they are reading this to continue to catch me out, push me in a corner or trip me up they have picked on the wrong woman.
I will be talking to my Solicitor about this.

Enough is enough.

I'll give you a call over the weekend - things have been pretty hectic and dismal here as well x