I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

Savvy_sewing

The cough has filtered down to the little people
So I am back in the queue for the doctor again this morning.
I will get to sew today
I will

Savvy_sewing

Poorly people all around.
I have managed to sort out a dress another Seamstress messed up and get it back to the customer.
I have only done one replacement zip and one dress alterations today. However I have gone through all the jobs etc that I have and given myself a list to work from.
I definitely am not going to take on any more work than the jobs where fittings have been booked in advance.
I am not going to take any new bookings until I am confident that I am able to deliver.

Mum is apparently much better today and we expect she will be home in 3-4 days.
Dgd has hurt the same foot again tripping on the stairs.
This evening I have taken a fall and hurt my left foot, my right shoulder and my right cheek bone!
Fenbid gel rubbed in to everything.
My throat is sore again, so I am not as well as I thought I was.

I didn't get to go to see Mum today and I feel guilty about that. But I cannot do everything.

beanielou

Blimey, it just keeps coming doesent it
No, you cannot do everything.

Savvy_sewing

I have not managed to get up this morning. DS has had to do everything.
I have a headache and my throat is back to being razor blades.
I ache everywhere.
I think I have been on empty too long.

hb2

Savvy_sewing wrote: »

I have not managed to get up this morning. DS has had to do everything.
I have a headache and my throat is back to being razor blades.
I ache everywhere.
I think I have been on empty too long.

Indeed you have. Your body is clearly telling you to rest so please don't try to push yourself before you are well.

KxMx

I hope you feel better soon.

Once your head is clearer maybe you could have a think about whether you are actually, honestly able to cope with all that you have taken on.

I realise it's a terrible set of circumstances happening all at once which may be the exception rather than the rule, but having everything go wrong at once can absolutely happen again.

pollyanna_26

Savvy_sewing wrote: »

I have not managed to get up this morning. DS has had to do everything.
I have a headache and my throat is back to being razor blades.
I ache everywhere.
I think I have been on empty too long.[/QUOTE




You can't drive a car with no fuel so you need to rest and recover SS.some of the viruses doing the rounds have a nasty post viral aftermath.. Hope ds is able to do as much as possible to keep things ticking over at home.


I'm sure your mum will understand why you can't visit her in hospital, in fact it's not a good idea to take viruses into a hospital. Hope she's continuing to improve.


Just on my way out so will catch up later.

pollyx

Savvy_sewing

I have spent the day sleeping.
Biggest went to do the hospital visit.
DS has done the school runs etc.

I am going to do absolutely nothing today. For the rest of the day anyway.

Savvy_sewing

KxMx wrote: »

I hope you feel better soon.

Once your head is clearer maybe you could have a think about whether you are actually, honestly able to cope with all that you have taken on.

I realise it's a terrible set of circumstances happening all at once which may be the exception rather than the rule, but having everything go wrong at once can absolutely happen again.

I understand that what I am taking on is monumental. But to be honest it is the juggling all balls while I'll that has floored me.

The stress of life has allowed my immune system to be attacked.
So I have listed out what I felt was stressing me, in my diary.
Then this morning I have taken time to look at each one ( I had 12!) and analysis each one, one at a time.
I realised that some of the issues I have been stressing about are not actual situations but what if's etc that I was worrying about.
So I will practice addressing the what if's with the fact that it's an if, not a reality and I cannot do anything about an if except let it go.
Some of the situations are more about the logistics of things, and the thought of having to do things.
Silly really as the Social Services related stresses are when I break it down more anxiety about asking questions about my life and my beliefs etc. But I have done it before? It's time consuming, but actually it's mostly about facts. So common sense tells me, other than the time involved it's actually less of an ordeal than my mind has been stressing about.
Care for Mum, has been worrying me. Yet she's in hospital and being cared for, I only have to find time to visit. There are 9 hours in the day that we can visit. Yesterday because I was on Overload Biggest went.
So it's another task that is about planning ahead.
I have planners that I have used in my business life. So it's time to use them in my personal life.
Fear and juggling the money.
Well it means that I have taken my eye off the budget, and we all know that I can get that back on track if I just do an SOA, and a review of the budget. Also I will be seeing my solicitor next week so he can use the law to chase the council to fulfil their obligations so it is actually only a temporary thing.
Work.
Well I have to manage my time and get out into the cabin and do one job at a time.
I have taken the decision not to take on any more work until I have finished those in the system already or those promised.
If it takes me a few weeks before I sew again after then so be it.
If I budget correctly I can manage on the income I have currently. For a while anyway.
So there are a few other things on similar lines that were on my list, and the last one was the idea of having to give up on my dreams.
But I am trying to think about putting the plans on the back burner at the moment and not thinking all is lost. I am someone who has to have goals and dreams and therefore this is where I will need to make a mind map and try to find a resolution to my dilemma.

So apart from the fact that I feel like death warmed up, I am going to get down stairs , have a bath, hairwash and dress. Then I am going to go to my cabin. And immerse myself in catching up with the jobs I have. I will speak to Biggest and make a plan about shared visits.
DS is still off work on rest until Monday. So I will continue to let him deal with his family and concentrate on getting my stresses ticked off the list and out of the way.
I can do this. One step at a time.

hb2

Well done on breaking things down into manageable chunks Ss. As you say, many of our anxieties are about the 'what ifs' that often don't materialise anyway. Having a plan is good, worrying before you need to is counterproductive. 'Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof'.

I'm glad that you are feeling well enough to even consider getting some work done but please try not to push yourself too much just yet. As Polly said, there are some nasty viruses around and you can do without Post Viral Fatigue Syndrome, that really would put the mockers on things!