What would you do?

-taff

I might just drop into conversation that hitman was really good fun playing, and that you can't wait for Hitman2 because it looks so much better.....emphasis on the 2

svain

I am interested to read about the parents who claim because they are better off than their adult offspring they will reject presents based on cost.

I would find this patronising. As an adult I am very capable of deciding the budget I should spend and would find any rejection based on cost because of guilt or superiority .... offensive, disappointing, ungrateful and borderline narcissistic.

Pollycat

marcarm wrote: »

I haven't decided for certain, but I think I will tell him and make it really lighthearted. I think he is mature enough to accept it in the good spirit it is intended, and I would rather him tell me if I got him something he already had.

I'm away from Boxing Day lunch until Saturday, so he will have a chance to change it before I get to play it, so no plans are being ruined and it will just become a running joke amongst ourselves.

We like to laugh, and it was a simple mistake that anyone can make, and we are all able to laugh at ourselves in this family. I know if I had made the mistake, I would rather he told me so I could change it so I will extend him the same courtesy. After all, he is 20 not 8 years old, if it was one of the other children then I would keep quiet, but he is an adult now and I treat him like one.

You know your lad, do what feels right to you.
Not what a group of randoms on t'internet think.
Your son sounds nice.

-taff

svain wrote: »

I am interested to read about the parents who claim because they are better off than their adult offspring they will reject presents based on cost.

I would find this patronising. As an adult I am very capable of deciding the budget I should spend and would find any rejection based on cost because of guilt or superiority .... offensive, disappointing, ungrateful and borderline narcissistic.

What are you buying your father?

svain

-taff wrote: »

What are you buying your father?

What relevance does that have on my point? (genuine question)

Fireflyaway

If this happened to me I'd just say I saw the receipt and I'm so happy you bought this thoughtful gift but unfortunately it the wrong one.
Why over complicate the issue?

-taff

svain wrote: »

What relevance does that have on my point? (genuine question)

I wondered if it was something he wanted, or something you wanted to give him. If the latter, would he be happy to have it or will it go to a lost forgotten corner of a shed somewhere? And if it does get lost or forgotten will be be upset you gave him something useless or annoyed he didn't appreciate it?
Genuine answer.

svain

-taff wrote: »

I wondered if it was something he wanted, or something you wanted to give him. If the latter, would he be happy to have it or will it go to a lost forgotten corner of a shed somewhere? And if it does get lost or forgotten will be be upset you gave him something useless or annoyed he didn't appreciate it?
Genuine answer.

I tend not to get to hung up on what happens after. We all appreciate the effort and keep it as lighthearted as possible. Presents that "Missed the mark" get laughed about (for years sometimes).

Although we do buy material stuff for them the main present is normally an "experience" .... In the past we have booked taster experiences at a a nice restaurants, min-breaks, river trips, vineyard tour etc ... something they would not book themselves. As i say, if they rejected any of them as a result of their own affluence i would be mortified. Thankfully they are not the type to do that

marcarm

I told him after all the excitement of the younger kids died down, said I know he is mature and I would expect the same courtesy, and I know how easy it is to make the mistake but it was the wrong one.

He said not a problem, as he is working from 9am till 10pm tomorrow with a break in between of about 2 hours, so he is going to exchange it then.

I have offered him the money in case it is more expensive, as he bought something from Amazon on my behalf which is going back, I told him to keep the refund but he doesnt want it. When it comes in, I will most likely not remind him of it so he can have it.

All is good, no-one is upset, no-one is sad or disappointed with anything, as I expected he is mature enough about it. Told him that if I hadn't already played it, it wouldn't be a problem, and he thanked me for my honesty and said that is how he would prefer it.

Marry Christmas everyone!

SandraX

marcarm wrote: »

I told him after all the excitement of the younger kids died down, said I know he is mature and I would expect the same courtesy, and I know how easy it is to make the mistake but it was the wrong one.

He said not a problem, as he is working from 9am till 10pm tomorrow with a break in between of about 2 hours, so he is going to exchange it then.

I have offered him the money in case it is more expensive, as he bought something from Amazon on my behalf which is going back, I told him to keep the refund but he doesnt want it. When it comes in, I will most likely not remind him of it so he can have it.

All is good, no-one is upset, no-one is sad or disappointed with anything, as I expected he is mature enough about it. Told him that if I hadn't already played it, it wouldn't be a problem, and he thanked me for my honesty and said that is how he would prefer it.

Marry Christmas everyone!

I'm glad it went well and I hope you all hd a bood xmas.