What would you do?

marcarm

I asked for a game from my 20 year old son for Christmas and he has got me it.

Because he is 20 years old and typically untidy, he left a piece of paper out on the kitchen side, when i was tidying i looked at it to see if it could be disposed of. It was the invoice.

Turns out he has bought the wrong game. he has bought hitman 1 and not 2.

I have played and completed 1, 2 is recently out.

would you take the present and not tell him, maybe buying the game yourself so as not to make him feel bad

OR

open it, say thanks but can i be honest, this is the wrong one and then hope he can take it back and exchange it.

He is a student and works as well, but not overly flush with money, so this is all I wanted him to get me.

I would try and make a joke of it so he didnt feel bad, and he would most likely laugh it off really, or at least i think he would, but i just dont want him to think that he got me one thing and it was wrong

dawyldthing

If you didn’t stipulate 2 id sup it up to be honest as I often buy presents based on cost and if it’s expensive probably wouldn’t buy it (esp if he’s in a job where it’s minimum wage and it could have took him 10 hours to earn the 2 game. If he did know I’d ask if he minded if you sold it and you added to it to get the one you wanted

marcarm

dawyldthing wrote: »

If you didn’t stipulate 2 id sup it up to be honest as I often buy presents based on cost and if it’s expensive probably wouldn’t buy it (esp if he’s in a job where it’s minimum wage and it could have took him 10 hours to earn the 2 game. If he did know I’d ask if he minded if you sold it and you added to it to get the one you wanted

I sent him a message when he was at work asking for hitman 2.

He is not on NMW, and I sent him a message saying that if he hasnt got it, its down to £20 in argos (but its now gone up).

I have checked and it is the game i have played before.

I think I will just be honest with him, he will most likely laugh it off and Im going away on boxing day so not as if I will have a chance to play it, which will give him time to change it

Red-Squirrel_2

When you get a gift you don't want, you smile, act delighted and say thank you.

Anything else is rude. Telling somebody they haven't spent enough and you want a more expensive gift is incredibly rude!

If you want to exchange it after and put the money towards the other game, a lot of places will take back unopened stuff just after Christmas without a receipt, or you can sell it or trade it in.


Are you sure you're old enough to have an adult son though?

marcarm

I'm sorry, where did you get that i am complaining that he hasn't spent enough?

I believe I said that this is ALL I wanted him to get me, and at no point did I say I wanted him to spend more on me.

I really think you need to go an read the post again, as you have got completely the wrong idea about what I posted about.

He is a student and works as well, but not overly flush with money, so this is all I wanted him to get me.

Maybe you missed that part. Or the part where I said I dont want him to have wasted his money so how best to handle it? In fact, I also believe I stated that I sent him a message when the game was on offer so he could get it cheaper. I would be happy with a preowned copy as well so you really do have the wrong idea about what I was posting about

Anything else is rude. Telling somebody they haven't spent enough and you want a more expensive gift is incredibly rude!

And so is not reading something properly and accusing them of something that is not even true

Are you sure you're old enough to have an adult son though?

just checked my DOB, and yes thank you.

I hate people spending money on me, but he wanted to get me a gift so I chose something that I would at least get use out of instead of something that would be opened and sit gathering dust.

Red-Squirrel_2

marcarm wrote: »

I'm sorry, where did you get that i am complaining that he hasn't spent enough?

I believe I said that this is ALL I wanted him to get me, and at no point did I say I wanted him to spend more on me.

I'm assuming the new game is more expensive than the old game, is that wrong?

You don't get to decide somebody else's gift budget for them I'm afraid.

LilElvis

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

I'm assuming the new game is more expensive than the old game, is that wrong?

You don't get to decide somebody else's gift budget for them I'm afraid.

OP said that it was for sale at £20.

marcarm

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

I'm assuming the new game is more expensive than the old game, is that wrong?

You don't get to decide somebody else's gift budget for them I'm afraid.

Actually they were the same price. Maybe before you ASSUME and then accuse others of something that is blantantly not true, you ASK first to find out the facts.

And I DID get to decide his budget, as it was CHEAPER than the amount he would normally spend on me, cheaper than he spent on previous Christmasses and cheaper than he spent on my birthday.

I even found it chepaer for him still so told him where to get it, so he would save been more money.

So yeah, I did decide his budget, I made it cheaper for him. He has in the past gone out and spent £50+ on me, this year I chose something a lot cheaper and told him that was all I wanted so he didn't spend lots of money on me, as I didn't want him to and because he hasn't got masses. I would rather he gets his brothers something to open.

And yes, before you ask, they are mine and I'm still old enough to have other children.

Marvel1

Tell him now, so he can get the correct one., and hopefully get a refund.

Marvel1

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Anything else is rude. Telling somebody they haven't spent enough and you want a more expensive gift is incredibly rude!

Quote the OP where this was mentioned!

lewishardwick

It's hardly the end of the world.

Keep the receipt safe, say thank you, take it back to the store and swap it for the new game.

Some people, no matter how much you try, don't focus and will do something daft.

Don't get stressed over a computer game.