What would you do?

marcarm

SandraX wrote: »

Excellent repsonse.

I just wished everyone was a sensible as you. Why should you throw your money away on something that is not to be enjoyed. So many people are so ignorant about Christmass presents that millions are wasted on tack and stuff other people just bin or give to a charity shop.

Enjoy your xmas and happy new year to you.

xx

And to you and all others who have taken the time to respond.

i dont have masses of money, so what money I do have to spend on Christmas I want it to go where it is needed or wanted.

My adult son is always grateful, and my young children are growing up that way as well, not once have they ever opened a present and chucked it to one side ready for the next one.

Why is that? Because they are given something they WANT.

my 6 year old, when asked by anyone what he wants for Christmas, he has told everyone "chocolate and colouring pens". Not because he never has them, because he is not the sort of child who wants things for the sake of it, or just wants big expensive things. He wants what he will use and nothing more.

ska_lover

I do get where you are coming from OP, on that point

Getting something you actually want, (for any occasion) is way better than un-requested (can I say) 'tat'. It shows thought and condsideration - and saves a trip to the charity shop and all the fakeness of thanking someone for something you dont want to own

It depends on the occasion though, as apparently, according to MSE, if people request certain gifts for, say, a Wedding - then that means you are the devil

I can't keep up with the social etiquette lol

Red Squirrel, do not quote my comments - I have no wish to be affiliated with someone who seems to twist things to suit an agenda that is going on in their head. You are only here to be argumentative. Stop - you are making yourself appear in not a very pleasant light at all

Marvel1

ska_lover wrote: »

I never accept gifts from my young adults at Xmas. The guilt would ruin it for me

Whenever they have mentioned it is it more like 'don't you dare waste your money on me'...

Id feel so guilty accepting a luxury item, from a person who is financially far worse off than me - even more so, daughters and sons - tht is just me though, I do have a massive guilt complex about everything lol

I'm the complete opposite :rotfl:, I never accept gifts from my parents, even when I moved out, they wanted to buy me a washing machine, I refused as it was my responsibility.

marcarm

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

An agenda of being grateful for the thoughtfulness of people's gifts to you and not expecting that you should be able to order what you want from them?

I'm ok with that agenda, I have to say!

It's hardly placing an order though is it, its more informal than that.

What do you want for Christmas?
Well I need a new football top, a game, some new shorts and a pair of trainers.
Ok, will have to wait and see what you get then according to the budget.

They know how much they have to "spend", and its more fun than receiving an envelope of notes like a dodgy football agent.

ska_lover

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

An agenda of being grateful for the thoughtfulness of people's gifts to you and not expecting that you should be able to order what you want from them?

I'm ok with that agenda, I have to say!

You are the only person who has mentioned 'expecting' - you are just twisting things, like I said

Even if a person specifically asks 'what would you like for Christmas?'...Many do, its pretty normalised, I always ask family - as opposed to buy them something they won't love. I want to get them something they love. Not something I want them to love, or something that is to my taste.

I shouldn't worry too much, I don't think the OP is going to be 'expecting' a present from you..so chill your beans

Marvel1

marcarm wrote: »

I sent him a message saying that if he hasnt got it, its down to £20 in argos (but its now gone up).

:eek: I missed that, jI would have got it

I'm waiting for Red Dead Redemption 2 to drop on Amazon (I have a giftcard balance to use), been stuck at £50 (must be doing really well, not that I'm surprised), maybe after Boxing Day or January sales it will.

ska_lover

Marvel1 wrote: »

I'm the complete opposite :rotfl:, I never accept gifts from my parents, even when I moved out, they wanted to buy me a washing machine, I refused as it was my responsibility.

I get you.

My parents stopped buying xmas presents for us adult siblings, years ago - and we were all happy with that - they have their own lives and now they are older and on a pension, there is no way any of us would want anything

We all still buy for them though.

At my age, in im my 40s, I am pretty set up, financially speaking, more so than my parents or adult kids. I mean we aren't rich, but better off than pensioners or young adults trying to set up home,and wouldn't want them spending their cash on us

marcarm

Marvel1 wrote: »

:eek: I missed that, jI would have got it

I'm waiting for Red Dead Redemption 2 to drop on Amazon (I have a giftcard balance to use), been stuck at £50 (must be doing really well, not that I'm surprised), maybe after Boxing Day or January sales it will.

RDR2 is amazing, well worht it at full price for the amount of content you get

Marvel1

marcarm wrote: »

RDR2 is amazing, well worht it at full price for the amount of content you get

Anything like GTA5, 100 hours+ played that was just the single player before I finished the story and moved to online and many hours on there.

I have a week off from work next month, so will definitely buy it ready no matter what.

jackieblack

marcarm wrote: »

If he could have got the game for £5 pre-owned, I would have been more than happy with that

In which case, I would keep quiet and just trade in/excange your unopened unwanted game for a copy of the one you want. There's bound to be some being traded in after Christmas...