What would you do?

trailingspouse

Wizard_of_Id wrote: »

Assuming that you are a woman, ask for the receipt after he has given you the game and tell him that you have changed your mind, he should be old enough to understand that this is what women do

And then you discover that the OP is male and apologise ('oops, sorry').
So, Wizard of Id you'd have been perfectly happy to insult a woman, but not a man, for exactly the same set of circumstances?

LilElvis

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Also that it isn't anymore.

That's still telling someone what to spend though! £20 is a lot for one gift for a student.

The student son works, earning more than NMW, and usually spends more on his father. He's not asked for something extravagant - it's a pretty inexpensive gift. Not everyone is adept at choosing gifts - even small children write lists of what they would like Santa to bring!

ska_lover

I never accept gifts from my young adults at Xmas. The guilt would ruin it for me

Whenever they have mentioned it is it more like 'don't you dare waste your money on me'...

Id feel so guilty accepting a luxury item, from a person who is financially far worse off than me - even more so, daughters and sons - tht is just me though, I do have a massive guilt complex about everything lol

Your son sounds lovely OP, but there is no way I would tell him. Giving an unwanted present that someone has a duplicate off, takes the shine off, for the giver as well.

marcarm

LilElvis wrote: »

The student son works, earning more than NMW, and usually spends more on his father. He's not asked for something extravagant - it's a pretty inexpensive gift. Not everyone is adept at choosing gifts - even small children write lists of what they would like Santa to bring!

Thank you, I would rather him spend £20 on something I want and would use, than £50 on something that would gather dust.

Really not sure how else to put it, but the monetary value of the gift does not interest me in the slightest.

If he could have got the game for £5 pre-owned, I would have been more than happy with that

marcarm

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Exactly, a list is something that small children do!

Or people who dont go overboard at Christmas, so would rather give the other person something they want or need instead of wasting money on something that may never get used?

At least this way I know my gifts will be used a week later, and not chucked in a drawer never to be seen again.

SandraX

I was going to post on this thread the other day but decided against it.

My recommendation is you are open and honest with him, like honesty and openness count for a lot.

A couple of years ago one of our children got me a pressy, cost close to 100 pounds(its was something i looked at he knew about but i did not buy). Though he has a good job, I still refuse to accept presents from our children that that are in excess of 20/30 quid(they normally stick to that budget). So that night i politely told him, many thanks, but i will be contributing to it he said no, its ok. Next day told him politely and thanked him that I will meet him halfway he agreed with a smile and understood that we wanted them to set himself up before buying expensive presents for us and accept the half of the price, he was happy as were we.

Enjoy your xmas and happy new year to you.

xx

victor2

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Exactly, a list is something that small children do!

I made a list.

Mind you, my grandson is too young to read it, but I expect he'll get me something on it with a little help from his parents.



OP, I'd laught it off with my son in your case. You found the invoice and hopefully kept it. Tease him about that as well, then exchange it if you can after Christmas, or sell it to a second-hand games place and get the version you want - there could be some second-hand ones of that available after Christmas too!

marcarm

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

So when you asked 'what would you do?' you had already basically decided?


Ok then, good luck, happy Christmas.

Not at all, and the message you quoted wasnt even related to my circumstance.

In that message, I was only saying that we get each other gifts that we want or need, nothing frivolous or things that can be described as tat, but sensible and wanted gifts.

Is that not better than buying a load of crap that is not wanted, or will get used once?

In my case, I would not use the game as I have already played it, but in your case you are happy to give things to others that they might not need or want. At least my gifts will be put to good use and wont be adorning a charity shop window come Jan 2nd

SandraX

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

So when you asked 'what would you do?' you had already basically decided?

Why are you misquoting the other poster, is there an agenda?

SandraX

marcarm wrote: »

Not at all, and the message you quoted wasnt even related to my circumstance.

In that message, I was only saying that we get each other gifts that we want or need, nothing frivolous or things that can be described as tat, but sensible and wanted gifts.

Is that not better than buying a load of crap that is not wanted, or will get used once?

In my case, I would not use the game as I have already played it, but in your case you are happy to give things to others that they might not need or want. At least my gifts will be put to good use and wont be adorning a charity shop window come Jan 2nd

Excellent repsonse.

I just wished everyone was a sensible as you. Why should you throw your money away on something that is not to be enjoyed. So many people are so ignorant about Christmass presents that millions are wasted on tack and stuff other people just bin or give to a charity shop.

Enjoy your xmas and happy new year to you.

xx