What would you do?

Wizard_of_Id

Assuming that you are a woman, ask for the receipt after he has given you the game and tell him that you have changed your mind, he should be old enough to understand that this is what women do

marcarm

lewishardwick wrote: »

It's hardly the end of the world.

Keep the receipt safe, say thank you, take it back to the store and swap it for the new game.

Some people, no matter how much you try, don't focus and will do something daft.

Don't get stressed over a computer game.

Yeah, in this instance it wasn't him being daft as usual (typical lack of common sense), he just didn't know. He plays games but if it isn't FIFA or Fortnite then he hasn't got a clue.

He most likely saw Hitman for about £20 and didnt check the version.

I think I will tell him, and then give him the money to take/send it back and get the right version, at least then I can't be accused of only wanting something as it is more expensive

marcarm

Wizard_of_Id wrote: »

Assuming that you are a woman, ask for the receipt after he has given you the game and tell him that you have changed your mind, he should be old enough to understand that this is what women do

I am his dad, he lives with me now as well as his 2 brothers.

That is why I was going to make a big joke of it and laugh WITH him about it. It will most likely turn into a running joke for years, that time he got me the wrong game.

And then I'll threaten to buy him an IPAD1 instead of the latest one etc etc

Wizard_of_Id

marcarm wrote: »

I am his dad, he lives with me now as well as his 2 brothers.

That is why I was going to make a big joke of it and laugh WITH him about it. It will most likely turn into a running joke for years, that time he got me the wrong game.

And then I'll threaten to buy him an IPAD1 instead of the latest one etc etc

(oops sorry)

I'd go with that then, keep things light and silly, certainly don't make a big deal out of it.

marcarm

Wizard_of_Id wrote: »

(oops sorry)

I'd go with that then, keep things light and silly, certainly don't make a big deal out of it.

That's ok!

I think that might be the best case of action, he knows he hasn't got much common sense, and at the end of the day it was a simple mistake that anyone can make. They put out different versions of the same game so it's easy to go wrong.

I have to check in more detail than any other game and I've been playing them for years.

shame though as he bought the really nice steelbook version

PrettyKittyKat

Personally I would speak to him quietly later on in the day and mention it was the wrong version and ask if the invoice so you could sort out exchanging it. Keep it lighthearted as you say, after all the most important thing is being together on xmas day and I feel from the tone of your post that you think this too. He may be embarrassed he got it wrong or may not be fussed and brush it off, people react differently .


If it wasn't an immediate family member then I would act differently, probably smile sweetly and deal with it myself afterwards but you should be able to be honest with your nearest and dearest!

marcarm

PrettyKittyKat wrote: »

Personally I would speak to him quietly later on in the day and mention it was the wrong version and ask if the invoice so you could sort out exchanging it. Keep it lighthearted as you say, after all the most important thing is being together on xmas day and I feel from the tone of your post that you think this too. He may be embarrassed he got it wrong or may not be fussed and brush it off, people react differently .


If it wasn't an immediate family member then I would act differently, probably smile sweetly and deal with it myself afterwards but you should be able to be honest with your nearest and dearest!

It will only be me, him and his 6 and 3 year old brothers on the day, and he is working for some of it as well.

This is the first Christmas here without their mum for the younger ones, so I want to make it special. They also have a gift for me but again that was something cheap as Christmas isn't about me, it's about those 3.

He would most likely just brush it off and laugh about it, and I do think he would be annoyed if I kept quiet about it and didn't say anything at all.

Pollycat

Is there a chance he could exchange it?
Unless I was 100% sure that he could return it and either get a full refund or swap it for Hitman 2, I'd not say anything about it being the wrong one.

I think I'd just suck it up and say 'thanks, just what I wanted' and try to sell it on ebay or whatever and buy the one I wanted discreetly.

Maybe next time he asks, emphasise the one you want.
Maybe "I'd love Hitman 3. You know that I've already got Hitman 1 and 2 so it's the new version I want".

TBH, it's unlikely to be the last time in his life that he gets a gift wrong.
But well done him for asking what you wanted.

Marvel1

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Hate to be an old fogey but when did gift giving become about getting exactly what you want? Isn't that what your own money is for?

Rather something i wanted rather than something that is never going to get used.

marcarm

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

I don't want the old one I want the new one, which is more money.

If somebody very generous bought you say, a new iPad, would you consider it acceptable to tell them that what you'd actually wanted was an iPad pro?

Newer versions always cost more.

Hate to be an old fogey but when did gift giving become about getting exactly what you want? Isn't that what your own money is for?

We always ask what each other wants, that way money isnt wasted on stuff that doesnt get used and is spent exactly on what the other person wants.

See that is the difference, I would never buy someone an ipad without finding out exactly what version they wanted, and if it was too expensive I would tell them that, and offer money towards that gift.

Even at full price, the game I wanted is still UNDER what he would normally spend on me, I even found where it was cheaper so I think it is clear the monetary value is not the issue.

And at the time, the new one was exactly the same price as the old one, so your first point is moot. I have already played and completed this game, if I hadnt then it wouldnt be an issue as I would accept and play it, but I never replay games at all.

He bought me a £50 game when I was recovering from a broken leg just because he wanted to, but now he is a student I didn't want him to spend that much on me, even though he would quite happily.

Do you not buy people what they want?? Surely that is a bigger waste of money if the gifts just end up in the charity shop or returned after Xmas.

He is old enough now not to believe in Santa so yeah I ask him what he wants, and to write me a list. I then choose off the list what to get him, this way I know my money has gone to the right place and he gets what he wants. He even knows how much I spend as each child has a budget, I normally go over that but anything over and above the budget is a surprise.

At no point in my life have I thought gift giving is all about giving someone something they might not need or want, "here you go, I know you wanted X but gift giving isnt about that, so I got you Y which I know you will hate, Happy Christmas!!"