Help. My 10 year old DD is turning into a teenage monster

fay66

Mine is terrible, shes 11 , in Senior school, She is on report and well shes off the wall and Im going round the bend, but I'm going to buy those books!

marie17

I know just how you feel. My daughter is make-up mad, they let them wear it in school so it's the full works every morning, plus hair straightened.I get her up at 6.40am, and by 8.10am when my friend comes for her and my son, she's still not ready. My frield and I share the school run, but i've ended up taking my daughter in later as she's just not ready. I'm at my wits end, she just messes everyone about all the time. It's not that she hates school, she loves being with all her friends, but she's so inconsiderate. If it's somethings she wants to do then she's there ready. It's getting worse. So any suggestions would be gratefully accepted.

Mumstheword

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Well, would anyone like my 15 yo DS3? Mumstheword, I think you could probably get him into shape.

No thank you, I have a DS3 of my own.....they are the worst:D:D:D

BrokeBrunette

I have 2 DD, aged 13 and 15. I think the 15 yr old is 10 times the trouble of the younger one.

She's a selfish, stroppy, moody, lazy, hormonal nightmare to be honest. She never puts anything away or does anything without me asking about 10 times. I've tried all the punishment things, but it still falls on deaf ears. I just hope she changes as she gets older. Her bedroom is a disgusting tip, dirty clothes everywhere, but she's obsessed with make-up, doing her hair etc, so it all gets left out around her room. I think she has more make -up than Boots the chemist. The sad thing is that she has the most beautiful face but hates it, so she cakes it in foundation every day, which then gives her spots, which then results in her crying because she's got spots. Does she listen when I explain why she keeps getting spots - NO!!!

I suppose I should be lucky she's not out drinking or smoking etc, but she's hell to live with!!!!

I could go on and write an essay, but I don't want to put anyone else off teenagers

Savvy_Sue

marie17 wrote: »

If it's somethings she wants to do then she's there ready. It's getting worse. So any suggestions would be gratefully accepted.

Several ...

1. If you physically can, bundle her into the car as she is - in her nightie if necessary - with what she needs passed through the window. Up to her when and where she sorts herself out, but back of a car with a contemporary of the opposite sex probably isn't where she'd choose to dress more than once ... at least in daylight! However, that's probably not practical without risking being charged with assault so ...

2. Let her make her own way to school, late. Phone her tutor and say why she's going to be late. Go out yourself so you can't be prevailed on for a lift.

3. Fine her - either cash or makeup!

4. Ask if she wants a star chart, like you probably did when she was 5 ... If she wants to act her shoe-size rather than her age, you're happy to treat her like her shoe-size ...

Give warning in advance, of course. Explain that it is NOT ACCEPTABLE to make other people late, or to keep them waiting, and that includes you.

I'm the mum, btw, who took her 4 yo to school in his pyjamas one day, and with no trousers on the next. But I never had any trouble after that! Well, not with dressing at that age. And he's bigger than me now, so I'm at a loss to know how I'm supposed to ensure he gets to school on time! Been threatened with EWO: if he decides he's on a go-slow, he's on a go-slow! But at least he's not keeping anyone else waiting for a lift.

I have regularly confiscated his I-pod, and I think my next step is to change his passwords on the computers. He'll hate me ...

marie17

No one could put me off teenagers....i'm already off them. Although my son, who's 16 is the complete oppersite to my daughter. He's quiet, helpful, intelegent, smart, kind. He always kisses me on the head (I'm 4ft 10" he's 5ft 9") before he goes to bed, or gets out the car at school. My daughter really did one of her best this morning, she complained that she was tired when she got up. By the time we were due to go out to school she wasn't anywhere near ready. It took her an extra hour to get ready. I was furious, but bided my time, & took her in late. Tonight, when she was trying her most hardest to get me to hurry up as she wanted to be dropped off at her friends house I was on a go slow. Of course I was in the wrong in her eyes, but I stuck to it and made her late. I'll carry on doing it for as long as it takes her to start to be a bit nicer all round. My husband says she'll grow up, get married and leave home one day... wishful thinking on his part, I think!

mintymoneysaver

oh what a wonderful thread.... I have two girls aged 10 and 14, the ten year old is a very young ten so we haven't even done the period talk yet, I just keeep putting it off as there is obviously no chance of it happening in the very near future, however her ability to control her emotions with me is beyond belief. But she's always been like that, I often say to my sister that I hoped there would be a slight break between terrible two's and teenage, but not with her! Having said that , like Mrs Jones, she is the kindest sweetest child when she's not off on one of her regular rants of ' I hate my life...' accompanied by floods of tears. The oldest is a typical teenager but generally has always been a good girl, always does her homework, I think we've got off quite lightly with her really.
However just wondering if anyone has any issues with teenage girls and their dads? It's causing a real rift in our house as hubby and oldest one just do not seem to be able to talk to each other at the moment. Hubby is a grumpy so and so, freely admits it and he and she just don't seem to be able to talk to each other very much at the moment. She doesn't tell him very much and I think he feels like they just have nothing in common any more, and I just feel stuck in the middle as I can see both sides. He doesn't have a favourite but I think he definitely relates to the younger one more and I think oldest one senses that, she is more like me. He says things to the oldest one in a way that he wouldn't say it to the younger one and it's really starting to upset me, I want them to get on.
So would love to know that ther are other people in the same boat?

marie17

Oh how glad I was to read your thread. I'm glad we're not the only family where husband and daughter don't like each other much. My husband and my 14 year old daughter are, 90% of the time at each others throats. They don't get on at all. Although if she asks him to do something for her he jumps to it. must be the maternal bit. But he often says he can't stand her when she's having a tantrum. He says she's evil! We've had times when if he walks in the room she walks out...and visa versa. that's gone on for a week. I think I won the battle last night though, as this morning she was up at 6.40am dressed, make-up on, hair done all for 8.15am. I haven't won the war though, only a small battle. But i'm going to keep it up if she plays up again.
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GreyPilgrim

pulliptears wrote: »

Now let me tell you she is so flat our walls are jealous,

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Mrs7ones

We have a new 'problem' at the mo with DD.
Her bedroom is next to the bathroom, and she has a habbit of wondering in and out with no clothes on (after showers etc). She also likes to sleep topless, and gets up in the night and doesn't bother to cover up...

Now, although she is only 10, and very immature emotionally, she is very tall and has started to develope.
It's got to the point that DH and DS1 and DS2 don't want to be seeing her wondering around topless/naked (understandably).
I have tried to reason with her, telling her that it just isn't right and that they boys are embarressed by seeing her, but all she says is 'just tell them not to look'!!
DS1 is 15 and bless him, he has to peep out of his room door and run down the landing if he wants to go into the bathroom or downstairs it's that bad!!

Lord knows how i'm going to solve this one!!