Help. My 10 year old DD is turning into a teenage monster

Vez

re the , how early can you use tampons.

I started just short of my 11th B'day and used tampons from day one, mini applicator at first, a bit of vasaline on the tip helped a bit the first few times.

culpepper

Lillets usually have a free packet that you can send (you see the advert in girls magazines sometimes)for when you are first starting to need protection. They are small and have a good guide about how to use them so you dont need to ask your mum LOL
Here is their site http://www.lil-lets.com/girls/
My sister and I were not nice premenstrually and later in life we both discovered caffeine was to blame for it. My daughter who doesnt have much caffeine in her diet is fine during that time so maybe something to think about.

Penny_Watcher

pulliptears wrote: »

Rather than actually reading it in order she flipped open the page on tampons and came to me with a look of pure horror on her face.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

That's priceless - a true 'Kodak moment'. :rolleyes:

patchwork_cat

Daisy I used lilets from the word go - it is only now that I can't as I flood and HATE wearing pads. I will be advising my daughter to wear tampons right from the start.Perhaps for the first few periods just at home as they can be hard to get comfy when you are young and take some time to get just right, but if her flow is light try KY jelly or vaseline and that will help.

I don't know why some people don't wear tampons can't stand anything else,personally.
Yes we had the bra thing last weekend, managed to come a compromise on crop tops.

Mumstheword

Crikey this thread has described my 11yo DS! For ages now he's been moody, argumentative, stroppy, the lot. I have let it pass since September as he started high school and I realise that was a big change with much longer hours....

But it all came to a head last week. I told him enough was enough. He was no longer going to get away with it. He was ruining the atmosphere of the house for all 5 of us, and as he got home from school I was on pins wondering what mood he'd be in, then trying to bring him round. Rediculous.

So I told him we were changing everything. Bed time from now on is 8.30 (he's 11 lol!!!!) and if he has been particularly nice that day I may extend it. That's on a day to day basis tho. He was grounded and no mates in for a week. He had a call the next day for a sleepover, and for the first time ever I said no. At first, he argued and dug his feet in and told me I'd ruined his life etc, but he cracked after a few days.

He spent the next 5 or 6 days being pleasant, it was lovely. Then he had a paddy last night at his lil bros, extending to me, then his dad. So we had a big talk again last night. I'm gonna keep being really tough on him til he gets into the routine.

The way we were, the little ones were copying him and constantly bickering, and dh and I were stressed all the time about it. I wouldnt put up with it from someone else's child, and that's what I have to keep in mind.

The easiest option for me is just to let him do as he pleases, and that's what I've done so far. As luck has had it, he was a dream child so he was very easy to raise. And since the younger ones came along he's been allowed much more priviledges and choices in what he does. He's in a habit of asking me something til I give in, which I have been doing. I must stop that. I must be a horrid hard cow bag:) Tough love.....:)

I will win. I'm more stubborn even than him

According to my dad, I may have been a less than delightful teenager. But I suspect he's having false memories:D:D:D

Savvy_Sue

Well, would anyone like my 15 yo DS3? Mumstheword, I think you could probably get him into shape.

The latest one started about 10 pm on Tuesday. Him: "I think I need to go to the doctor." Me: "why?" Him: "I'm getting chest pains." :eek:

I ran through the when, how, how long for, how bad with him - I've never SEEN him appear to be in pain or out of breath, he's never not wanted to do anything, his diet's not THAT bad and he walks for at least half an hour every day. But what would I know (I mean that seriously!), I'm not a doctor, so I say I will make him an appointment. Him: "Why don't you make it now?" Me: "Because the surgery is closed now."

Today is the first day he can go: Wednesday we had the 6th form Open Evening, Thursday he has Science and piano and doesn't get home early enough. He goes out to school, I get an appointment for 5.20 pm, and I text it to him.

I phone him when I think he should be home, and find that he's still at school because he has Art after school on Fridays (not that he's ever told me about this!) I tell him who the appointment is with, and he gets annoyed because I can't give him a lift - even if I get home from work in time, we've already established that he does NOT want me in on the appointment, and he does NOT want me to walk him up there. But I'm not planning to drive home, because DH needs the car to get home.

Him: "Do I have to go?" Me: "Yes, I don't think we can ignore chest pains." Him: "I don't want to walk up there." Me: "It's not far, it's next to where you went to school and you used to walk there every day. Besides, you can always get off the bus a stop late and then it's no distance at all. Or do you want me to walk up with you?" Him: "No, why would I want you to do that?"

On my way home from work I phone the surgery and ask for a message to go to the GP to the effect that my son is there on his own because that's what he wants, and not because I don't care, so if there is anything seriously wrong I do want to know. I get home from work at about 5 pm, I have a couple of errands to run, so I check that he has left by calling out, and he appears to have done so, so I go out.

I get back and ask what the doctor said, and he says - wait for it - "I didn't go." He says he tried to tell me he wasn't intending to go - can some more reasonable and understanding mother get that message from what I heard? Please?

I'm not a happy bunny, so I phone the surgery to apologise for his no-show, and I'm put through to the GP who was about to phone me and say he didn't turn up. She asks him some questions through me - he won't speak to her direct! - and reassures me (he doesn't care) that it's very unlikely to be heart disease and it's most likely a pulled muscle, if she'd seen him she would probably have suggested he try an OTC anti-inflammatory.

WELL! What DOES she think she's doing? He knows what a pulled muscle feels like, and this doesn't feel like that. He's been taking this anti-inflammatory when he's had a headache and that hasn't helped. I'm talking out of my rear end when I tell him that it's often recommended to take a course of these things for pulled muscles, and my GP told me they work in a different way when you do this to if you just take them on a one-off basis for pain.

I suppose it's good to know that it's not just me as his mother who knows nothing. Oh, and as it was his choice to tell me about the pain in the first place, it's his choice if he doesn't want to do anything about it, and now he doesn't care enough to do anything about it, so why do I have to make another appointment on a day when I can (and WILL) not only give him a lift but come into the consultation with him! Actually I think I'm going to make his father do this ...

Oh, and the pain is probably because he's tired, so I've said he's therefore going to go to bed earlier, but he says he'll just say he's not tired any more ...

Well, if he's not tired, I am. Tired of asking him to do everything 6 times and still being ignored. Tired of being expected to stump up for concert tickets. Tired of being a taxi service. Tired of letters and phone calls from school telling me his coursework is outstanding when he says he hasn't had any homework. The teachers are unreasonable to expect that EVERYONE will give coursework in on time, you know ...

SarahShattered

My dd1 is a stroppy pre-teen, she's been moody for the last few years, everyone things I'm barking when I say it follows a distinct monthly pattern, even if it's not a menstrual cycle. Knowing that it's hormonal, and will subside in a day or so makes me feel better about dealing with the outbursts, rather than just thinking 'what a stroppy mare' :rolleyes:

I've discussed it with her too, and she recognises the 'irrational moody, flippin eck what's wrong with me?' pattern now, and so she copes with it better too.

Mumstheword wrote: »

Bed time from now on is 8.30 (he's 11 lol!!!!) and if he has been particularly nice that day I may extend it. That's on a day to day basis tho.

I introduced 'chill out time' for my dd1. This is at 8.00pm. She has to be in her room, 'chilling out' whether that's reading, painting her nails, drawing, knitting, or whatever else she likes to do, it doesn't matter, as long as it's calm time. She then has to be in bed at 8.30pm, lights off by 9pm. All of this is flexible, at our discretion. We'd just got so fed up with 'our time' together starting later and later, till we were fit for nothing except bed ourselves! This way we at least get some much needed Mummy and Daddy time while we're still awake enough to enjoy each others' company!! :T

Mado

pulliptears wrote: »

Well, last night was hysterical.

The book came (next day from amazon and I'd only paid for standard delivery!). I told madam I would sit down with her and we would read it together, but oh no, she cant wait.

Rather than actually reading it in order she flipped open the page on tampons and came to me with a look of pure horror on her face. She hadn't actually read the period bit and just assumed that she would have to spend the rest of her life wearing tampons!!!

We've got it too!
DD asked me if I bought it for her because I think she is fat! :eek: :eek: :eek: (we've been explaining to her that she has to watch what she eats as she is rather plump...although to be fair not fat but she hasn't inherited thin genes from either parent).

After we had a chat and she had a good look at the book she asked "Can I have the one about my feelings? It's all on the back page"
I guess I'll be ordering too now....:rotfl:

pulliptears

Mado wrote: »

We've got it too!
DD asked me if I bought it for her because I think she is fat! :eek: :eek: :eek: (we've been explaining to her that she has to watch what she eats as she is rather plump...although to be fair not fat but she hasn't inherited thin genes from either parent).

After we had a chat and she had a good look at the book she asked "Can I have the one about my feelings? It's all on the back page"
I guess I'll be ordering too now....:rotfl:

Funny you should say that, I was handed a piece of paper with the names of the other books on before she left for her nana's...

This growing up thing is looking to be expensive isn't it?!

marie17

I just hope your 10 year olds don't stay stroppy as long as my daughter. She's been like it for years now, unfortunatly it doesn't seem to be getting any better. Her temper is worse than anyones I know. So put your foot down before it's too late. I really don't have any answers.
Hope all goes well.:mad: