Help. My 10 year old DD is turning into a teenage monster

thriftmonster

My ds1 is 11 and in the last 6 months has got spots, greasy hair (no other changes yet!) and could strop/ huff for England. Definitely hormones starting to kick in. My sympathies to another suffering mother.

We have pointed out that he can wash his hair daily, use the cream and face wash I got for him and LOSE THE ATTITUDE because the rest of us have to live here as well!! Good luck.

COOKIEWILLOW

you want to have two boys!! one ten and the other 14. many times i have tried to watch my soaps when a massive tumbleweed will roll past me, legs and arms everywhere. they cant seem to stop fighting. I seem to be forever saying "one of you is going to get hurt now". Regarding their bedrooms!!! Eldest reckons that im invading his "space" when I go into clean, yet im sick of things stuck to plates, socks and pants that need tongs to pick up with! Give me a girl anytime. Eldest also has hormonal problems, boys have them too according to doc, he would have fits of rage, then crying, but best part is sleeping until 3pm every weekend! Then up all night. ....and we moaned about them when they were waking us up as babies!.. Also children these days are maturing earlier than before. Eldest starting shaving at 13, and he is already 5ft8, with a deep gruff voice, he is like a mini man.

aeuerby

I'll scare you all now.
My daughter is 10 and a half.
From the age of 7 she has used deodorant.
Grew hair form about 8.
Has more spots than she know what to do with from about 9.
Started her periods 2 months ago. :eek::eek:

She does get moody but always has done when she's tired.
I gave her "Lets talk about sex" book as soon as hair was developing and asked her to read it when she's ready.
I was also happy to answer any questions she had about the book but there were none - the book explained everything brilliantly!

I would say keep talking to your daughter - no matter how uncomfortable it may or may not make you feel. Your daughter needs to know what's going to happen to her is normal and nothing to be scared of.
Tell her exactly what she can expect - even down to period pains which I was never forewarned about and it came as a huge shock!

pulliptears

My DD is 10 and sounds rather like yours Mado! she's always had a temper (inherited from me according to OH! But DS is so far laid back he is almost lying down..)

We had a hysterical moment last weekend where madam decided she wanted a Bra..... Now let me tell you she is so flat our walls are jealous, but apparently when getting changed for P.E some of her friends are wearing them. So to spare her feelings I bought her a 28A Bra.

she appeared half an hour later with it stuffed out with my socks....I tried so very hard not to laugh as OH was telling her that it really wasnt the thing to do at her age, but eventually I just dissolved into a hysterical heap on the sofa!

That particular phase appears to have passed again, but I am dreading what is next. I hadnt even considered periods until I read this thread. Makes me realise how much I love DS!! 14 and hassle free My poor mother, how did she cope with me? hehe

Im going to order that book...

robnye

i have 3 dd's for my sins...... 11 (12 in 3 weeks), 15 (last month) and 17 1/2

and yes it has been fun ..... NOT, as it would appear youngest is hormonal and tummy aches monthly....... oh joy when they all go off on one....... (hands over ears smiley)

Ellie2758

COOKIEWILLOW wrote: »

you want to have two boys!! one ten and the other 14. many times i have tried to watch my soaps when a massive tumbleweed will roll past me, legs and arms everywhere. they cant seem to stop fighting. I seem to be forever saying "one of you is going to get hurt now". Regarding their bedrooms!!! Eldest reckons that im invading his "space" when I go into clean, yet im sick of things stuck to plates, socks and pants that need tongs to pick up with! Give me a girl anytime. Eldest also has hormonal problems, boys have them too according to doc, he would have fits of rage, then crying, but best part is sleeping until 3pm every weekend! Then up all night. ....and we moaned about them when they were waking us up as babies!.. Also children these days are maturing earlier than before. Eldest starting shaving at 13, and he is already 5ft8, with a deep gruff voice, he is like a mini man.

It's good that you kept your sense of humour though. Two boys - you have my sympathies.............:D

pulliptears

COOKIEWILLOW wrote: »

you want to have two boys!! one ten and the other 14. many times i have tried to watch my soaps when a massive tumbleweed will roll past me, legs and arms everywhere. they cant seem to stop fighting. I seem to be forever saying "one of you is going to get hurt now". Regarding their bedrooms!!! Eldest reckons that im invading his "space" when I go into clean, yet im sick of things stuck to plates, socks and pants that need tongs to pick up with! Give me a girl anytime. Eldest also has hormonal problems, boys have them too according to doc, he would have fits of rage, then crying, but best part is sleeping until 3pm every weekend! Then up all night. ....and we moaned about them when they were waking us up as babies!.. Also children these days are maturing earlier than before. Eldest starting shaving at 13, and he is already 5ft8, with a deep gruff voice, he is like a mini man.

Now boys I can handle! As I said DS is 14, almost 15 and he is probably the most angelic teenager ever. He is a big lad, looks about 17 and towers over me, but he is such a softie. He wont go to bed without a hug from me.

I try to stay out of his room, his space and all that, but he is incredibly tidy. he cleans for me (Im a full time student now) and helps out wherever he can. He has been known to start cooking the evening meal if he is home before me. this morning he went on a mission to track down a nasty smell in the kitchen and when I walked in he had emptied the bin and cleaned the sink!!!!

Of course he and his little sister do frequently bicker, but for the most part they are pretty good. I dont think ive ever known DS loose his temper, unlike "madam stroppy knickers" as she has been affectionately christened!

Kimitatsu

Ellie2758 wrote: »

It's good that you kept your sense of humour though. Two boys - you have my sympathies.............:D

I would echo that boys get hormonal too! I have said on occassions that if he was a girl I would think he was premenstrual :rolleyes: I have two boys so Cookie Willow I know JUST what you mean. Both are huge, hormones are jangling and I think that this government should stop messing about and give out relaxation days to parents rather than tax credits :rotfl: We would all benefit far more from the stress busting and you wouldnt have to pay them back!!

Mado - we have all been just where you are now, I was there yesterday morning :cool: one more thing and I could have quite cheerfully strung up DS1 whistling as I did so. Its all a perfectly normal part of growing up, they are not babies but they are not teenagers either and its a scary time for them, they want to be hugged by mum but they want to strike out on their own too and be independant.

Give her a big hug when she comes in and tell her you love her - tomorrow is another day, and hopefully a quieter one in the morning!

Take care
x

~daisy~_2

my daughter is 12 at christmas and she is quite hormonal
greasy hair skin changing pubic hair having to use deodrant grumpy - all happening however when i try to talk to her she says she doesnt want to know

ive asked if she would like to take a little bag with some spare pants and things in just in case but she looked aghast at me

btw - has anyone advised there daughters to start using tampax from the word go ? my daughter swims 5 times a week and its a bit of a worry thinking she will lose out on a week worth of training each month when it does happen.....

redruby

I was speaking to an american cousin of mine about two years ago, I asked him how he could bear to see his childres leaving home for college ( my DD was 10 at the time ) he grinned at me and said

either mother nature or god (depending on your belleifs) does a wonderfull job, you nurture them when they are babies and toddlers, go through all the hassle and moods when they are teens, and are then more than ready for them to leave home

At the time I was not sure what he was saying, but now my DD is 13 this month, I know exaclty what he means.

She can be really stroppy, we recently had a standoff in a bra shop, as she wanted grown up ones with wires and lace, which I refused to buy her, I said you have the ones i pick or none, .... we came home with none.

My mum says I was worse than her, but I cant believe it :A