GENUINE Money Moral Dilemma!

hazyjo

Definitely let it go! They may have spent enough getting there, on outfits, babysitters, whatever.

Marisco

Yep, I'm in the "Frozen" camp as well

GlasweJen

yeah, drop it

phryne

You can't exactly tell them for a third time. Leave it, they'll probably remember at some point.

Red-Squirrel_2

It was rude of you to ask people to give you money in the first place, so no definitely don’t go chasing up!

Mjkpio

So yea, I'm totally with all of you anyway - i.e. not to even mention it - haven't and wouldn't! (I'm totally not that sort of person who feels 'cheated' out of a present of anything! Nor the sort of person who wouldn't get them a gift in the future because they didn't for me!)

FYI, I DID NOT remind this person to give us a gift even once. They simply messaged me saying they'd lost the details and to resend them so they could contribute.

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

It was rude of you to ask people to give you money in the first place, so no definitely don’t go chasing up!

This kinda confuses me. I think it's perfectly fair to ask people to contribute to a honeymoon rather than a gift list of things that you don't want or need.

Anyway, I thought it would be fun to post a genuine MMD and see the reactions!

Pollycat

Mjkpio wrote: »

This kinda confuses me. I think it's perfectly fair to ask people to contribute to a honeymoon rather than a gift list of things that you don't want or need.

Anyway, I thought it would be fun to post a genuine MMD and see the reactions!

Sorry that you're 'kinda confused'.
I personally don't think it's 'perfectly fair to ask people to contribute to a honeymoon' especially when you've been living together for years.
But some people seem to have a sort of entitlement.
I'd have wished you well and donated money to a more worthy cause.:cool:

gettingtheresometime

Mjkpio wrote: »

Yup, this is an actual genuine MMD...!

I recently got married (yay!) and we asked for honeymoon contributions instead of gifts, having lived together for years and wanting to do the holiday of a lifetime (which we did!).

I can't explain it as I know it's illogical but I hate it when I'm asked to give money so that a couple can have a good holiday yet don't mind giving cash as a present.

MysteryMe

I wouldn't "discriminate" against a couple if they had been together for a while. For me it's a way to mark the marriage and these days very few people are not living together when getting married so have will all the usual suspects given as wedding gifts.

Asking for money needs to be worded delicately of course but TBH if I'm going to spend say £30 then giving £30 in cash makes no difference to me. I'd rather my money went on something they would like, in this case towards the honeymoon.

In the OPs shoes I would not be reminding anyone who hadn't contributed

UKTigerlily

Mjkpio wrote: »

So yea, I'm totally with all of you anyway - i.e. not to even mention it - haven't and wouldn't! (I'm totally not that sort of person who feels 'cheated' out of a present of anything! Nor the sort of person who wouldn't get them a gift in the future because they didn't for me!)

FYI, I DID NOT remind this person to give us a gift even once. They simply messaged me saying they'd lost the details and to resend them so they could contribute.




This kinda confuses me. I think it's perfectly fair to ask people to contribute to a honeymoon rather than a gift list of things that you don't want or need.

Anyway, I thought it would be fun to post a genuine MMD and see the reactions!

Why is there a 'rather than'? Why must anyone contribute anything at all? It was YOUR wedding, just be glad if people came and you had a good time. Nobody should be asked to contribute or buy a thing