GENUINE Money Moral Dilemma!

ska_lover

Pollycat wrote: »

I think moneyistooshorttomention has explained my reasoning perfectly.


You don't need to understand my logic.
It is what it is.


I don't find the giving of cash offensive.
I just don't give cash.

Re 'wedding registries' - do you mean where brides & grooms have a wedding list?
If you do, I view that as very different to asking for money. It is buying a gift.


I don't really care how easy it is to give cash as opposed to buying a gift.
It's my time I'm spending, nobody else's.




That's your opinion.
It isn't mine.

No, I don't need to understand your logic, but you do - you seem to have a lot of opinions but no real reasons behind them - that is how you come across

Moneyistooshorttomention hasn't explained anything , other than say how hard it is to put money aside specifically for a project / then demonstrate they are doing exactly that...bit of a moot point really

Pollycat

ska_lover wrote: »

No, I don't need to understand your logic, but you do - you seem to have a lot of opinions but no real reasons behind them - that is how you come across

Actually, I don't need to do anything.
But, FTR, I do understand my logic.
Is there a MSE rule against expressing opinions on the boards?
Is there a MSE rule that says if you express an opinion you must give a reason?

ska_lover wrote: »

Moneyistooshorttomention hasn't explained anything , other than say how hard it is to put money aside specifically for a project / then demonstrate they are doing exactly that...bit of a moot point really

I suggest you re-read Moneyistooshorttomention's post.

ska_lover

Pollycat wrote: »

Actually, I don't need to do anything.
But, FTR, I do understand my logic.
Is there a MSE rule against expressing opinions on the boards?
Is there a MSE rule that says if you express an opinion you must give a reason?



I suggest you re-read Moneyistooshorttomention's post.

Have a wonderful day PollyCat

Guineapigsqueaks

I think it's a bit rude to include details of a gift list or a request for contributions in a wedding invite, that's why I didn't. If people want to buy a gift or give cash, they can either choose to do so based on what they think you would like or ask about preferences/a gift list. I had a preference of no gifts, guests usually already have expenses to attend a wedding, even if it is just a new hat! If guests chose to buy a gift anyway, also okay. You can stockpile toasters to last you through to retirement :-).

Marvel1

Marisco wrote: »

How do you work that out? With the exception of food, all other bills will be the same, whether there is one or two in the house/flat. In fact you get 25% off CT

Council tax example:
£100 a month for a couple.
Split 50/50 = £50.00

Single person with 25% discount: £75.00

EDIT: Which I can see has already been answered, I need to read other posts first.

Red-Squirrel_2

takman wrote: »

But if your a single person (as in not in a relationship) it doesn't mean you have to live alone. You can rent a room in a shared house which may work out even cheaper to live than a couple when the costs are spread out across more people.

Yeah but, who wants to live with strangers forever? Sounds grim as **** to me.

Red-Squirrel_2

Mjkpio wrote: »

2: I NEVER asked for money or cash. We very politely and gently included it as an option should anyone wish to contribute.

Yeah, that's asking.

I don't really blame you, because its true that it has become the norm, but I still hate it.

People know that its the polite thing to give a gift at a wedding, they don't need to be reminded or told that its an option. Just don't mention it unless somebody expressly asks you what you want, then you're allowed to make a reasonable low cost suggestion.

You don't see people sending out requests for money for any other kind of occasion do you? Even birthdays, housewarmings, christenings etc where gifts are usual.

Red-Squirrel_2

Guineapigsqueaks wrote: »

I think it's a bit rude to include details of a gift list or a request for contributions in a wedding invite, that's why I didn't. If people want to buy a gift or give cash, they can either choose to do so based on what they think you would like or ask about preferences/a gift list. I had a preference of no gifts, guests usually already have expenses to attend a wedding, even if it is just a new hat! If guests chose to buy a gift anyway, also okay. You can stockpile toasters to last you through to retirement :-).

Can I marry you please? :D

Guineapigsqueaks

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Can I marry you please? :D

Haha. That's the best offer I've had for a while!

UKTigerlily

takman wrote: »

But if your a single person (as in not in a relationship) it doesn't mean you have to live alone. You can rent a room in a shared house which may work out even cheaper to live than a couple when the costs are spread out across more people. You could rent or even buy a house with another single person without being in a relationship.

So yes a single person who wants to live alone will probably have higher living costs than a couple, but that is their choice to live a solitary life and i wouldn't say the "single people are hard done by" attitude by moneyistooshorttomention is justified.

No, it isn't always a choice.