Opinions about working kids paying Housekeeping needed!

simongregson

shell_girl wrote: »

Something else has just occurred to me too...

During negotiations about how much your DS should pay, it might be an idea to divide certain bills. This way you could negotiate along the lines of "Ok- we'll only charge you xx amount per week towards the mortgage and the food if you take on some bills". For example- you and your OH could retain responsibility for the important ones like Council Tax and Utilities, and perhaps DS could be in charge of the ones he sees as essential like Sky and High Speed Broadband? This way as well as a contribution for food etc he's also taking responsibility for the regular paying of a bill... and as it's something that he would miss if he were to lose it, he's much more likely to stay on top of it!

If you do this make sure you actually change the name on the bill to his name, otherwise if he 'forgets' to pay, it will damage your credit rating.

chloebelle

Some interesting points of view.

I worked full time for 2 years and mum charged me housekeeping. Like everyone I moaned at the time but its good really. I don't pay at the moment as I am studying - mum and dad can't afford to help my studies in terms of cash so their contribution is to allow me to live rent free whilst studying.

My parents brought us up to respect money and I think all parents should adopt this. No one has 100% of their monthly salary to themselves, its good to start teaching young people that they'll always be the taxman, or rent, or bills etc.. to eat the salary.

chevalier

For the short period in my teens when I was on the dole, my mum STILL took keep off me. I never really had a job other than a Saturday one before going to uni, so it never came up as an issue. But it will certainly be something that I will do with my children when they get to that stage.

chev

SarahNeedle1872

When I was young, as soon as I got a pt job, my Mum expected me to pay rent...... it was only a nominal amount like £20 a week, but at least it was something..... not long after I left school and started work full time, I moved out anyway, so I never had to pay her a lot...

DS is 8 mths old and already he pays his way thru CB and WTC .... Once I am debt free I hope to be in the position where I can put his CB into his bank account so he can use it later in life, but for now it helps to pay for his nursery fees....

I think charging a child who earns rent/food etc is a good way of learning for the future....also (and apologies if anyone has said this already), IIRC u said that ur son/husband didn't want to get rid of Sky.... perhaps they could split the cost between them....?

Sarah x

In_Search_Of_Me

Come on now jacks sort that man out! He cant have it both ways! Either he is an adult & gets treated like one or behaves like a child (ie as he is now!!) and receives the same treatment! I do think the sky thing should be a point of principle - ie he wants it he pays for it! Problem is the longer you let him get away with it (ie behaving like a spoiled ....) the longer he would! Time to get those curlers on & sort him out! I would actively encourage him to go to grannys behaving like that, would even help to pack his bag! oo I feel all cross...possibly because I was talking to someone in work about this & couldnt believe what he allows his son to get away with! Makes his breakfast, puts it on a tray & takes it up to him!! I mean, I ask you, how ridiculous is that!!

LouBlue

fishface-69 wrote: »

possibly because I was talking to someone in work about this & couldnt believe what he allows his son to get away with! Makes his breakfast, puts it on a tray & takes it up to him!! I mean, I ask you, how ridiculous is that!!

My mum would have seriously kicked my ar*e if I had been that lazy. :rotfl:

GreyPilgrim

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

His opening offer was £12.50 a week - which he thinks is quite generous given that none of his mates - including his 21 years old and working full time girlfriend - have to pay a penny in their houses

it's funny how kids can be really selective when they use this type of argument. My daughter has a broad spectrum of friends to choose from when she's 'arguing by comparison'. "xxxx gets to stay out until 10pm", "yyy gets this much to spend"

She forgets that in the past she's told us "zzz can't come out as her mum is really strict and want's her in by 7pm". Strange how she never uses this friend as a comparison.

Devious little beggars, the lot of them

GreyPilgrim

wot_a_life wrote: »

My son is 20, he works full time, alot of the time, he works away from home, monday to Wednesday, home then away again until Friday.

He picks up approximately £279.00 per week.

For the last 2 years we have had £20.00 from him every week for his meals when he's at home, his room equipped with sky, washing, ironing etc

Last week, after alot of suspecting, it was confirmed that he was taking drugs, smoking weed, swallowing pills and cocaine. My Husband told him that his rent was to go up to £50.00 per week, unknown to him we were to save £30.00 for him in an account, this giving him less money to spend on drugs.

He's come home this weekend, he won't speak to any of us, he hasn't paid any rent, he's been out all weekend in the pub and gone to work this morning!

How do you handle that one? I'm at a loose end!

I can think of a really easy way to handle it. It involves a locksmith and a new set of keys, a tenancy agreement and a firm "you're not having this new key until you sign set up a standing order for the rent"

moneypanicker

I moved back home for a while after uni. My parents charged me £150 a month (this was 10 years ago!) They saved the money without me knowing and gave it back to me when i was buying my first house. it was certainly very helpful. My parents however were in a position that they could afford it.

I'm quite money savvy now, my husband isn't and i think it is down to how our parents educate us about money. My parents always made sure i knew the value of money, they gave me a clothing allowance when i was a teenager which has to cover all my clothes except school uniform.

When i needed a computer for uni my dad built one for me but i had to pay for all the parts etc. He was also quite strict about having money in savings - I didn't appreciate it at the time but I certainly do now - I only wish my husband had had the same input!!!

Jacks_xxx

:wave: Hi everyone,

Just to let you know....My son is paying £200 a month keep, and saving £500 a month for a deposit on a house - which still leaves him £466 a month to play with. (social life / driving lessons / car expenses /clothes etc.)

I'm pretty happy with this arrangement.

Thanks SO much to everybody who helped us to work this out.

Love Jacks xxx