Opinions about working kids paying Housekeeping needed!

Jacks_xxx

fishface-69 wrote: »

good to hear its sorted jacks!! Bet he's chuffed eh!! Tell him from me I think he got away fairly lightly!!

Ooh... He's read the thread honey - I think he knows! :rotfl:

Thanks so much for keeping me on the straight and narrow.

Getting from £12.50 to £50 a week was a bit of a hard slog, and I was weakening there at points (especially when MIL stuck her oar in.)

Cheers muchly honey. :A

Love Jacks xxx

Jacks_xxx

dizzydolly wrote: »

25% of what ever they earn each month ,thats what I take and I think thats very fair.
wish I got to keep 75% of my monthly money to spend on myself .

Ain't that the truth!

Me too honey, me too.

Love Jacks xxx

Jacks_xxx

chevalier wrote: »

I am glad you sorted this. I may well save your services price list for when my sons are older!!!
chev

You do that honey!

OR

You could play them a tape every night while they're asleep saying

"When you're a big boy you will happily pay Mummy 25% of your wages every week. In fact you will insist upon it." :rotfl:

It was a good exercise for me to write that list out to be honest.

It made me realise what a cushy number he's on! I have a horror of spoiled children - especially spoiled adult children - but I realised that whilst we don't spoil and indulge him, we do take pretty good care of him! :eek:

All the things I put on the list he'd have to do himself or pay for himself if he didn't live with us and it strengthened my resolve that he should contribute. (The ungrateful little gobsh!te!)

You've got all this to come sweetie! :rolleyes:

Love Jacks xxx

rog2

Hi Jacks - I'm sorry but I've only just seen the thread - it's been a constant source of debate in our house - and regularily comes up on this forum.

I, like many others, did pay my mum when I started work - I was earning between £5 and £7.50 a week and 'gave' her £3 - £4.50 every Friday (Remember those days when we were actually paid in cash?).
However, and to be totally honest, I probably 'subbed' most of it back by the next Thursday. :rolleyes:
It has been a bit different with ours, in that they all went into further education, so the transfer of funds remained in their favour, in the forlorn hope that, once they had gained their degrees they would be 'showering' us with cash. :rotfl: :rotfl:
Funny how life never turns out as you would like - my eldest son still lives at home - whilst he does contribute to things like the phone bill (he is by far the largest user) he doggedly refuses to make a regular contribution to the housekeeping as he is 'saving for a deposit on a mortgage' - he's now 32 years old and has been saying this for the last 6 years.
Niether of my daughters actually still lives at home, so we wouldn't expect them to pay, but my wife is still helping the youngest with her student debts. :eek:
So YES they SHOULD contribute, but the problem is How do we make them contribute?

chevalier

rog2 wrote: »

So YES they SHOULD contribute, but the problem is How do we make them contribute?

It is quite simple really, either a pin up the 'new list of charges' as per Jacks wonderful post above and stick to it. He doesn't pay he doesn't eat. Or simply go on strike. Ie all of his clothes end up at the bottom of the basket don't get washed, or if they get washed don't get ironed. No favourites of his in the house. If he is the only one who watches sky sports, then that goes. Do this until he suddenly finds he has enough money for a house deposit or else signs the standing order form for x amount a month.

I think it is called tough love:rolleyes:
chev

tracyold

well were do i start my rules not t hat they work are if you are on the dole u pay me £10 a week but as they are not working they dont get luxuries like when i go out i take the sky card and disconect internet ohh and if u can not be arsed to work do ur own washing etc etc. but if u r working i think it is wrong to charge a percent of there wage as they are not using more electric or gas n probable eating less as never in u should have a set amount and it should not go up if they earn more as thats just selfish ,as for not charging them any thing ohhhhhhhhhhhh boy are you giving them a big shock in the real world do u think they are going to thank you , i could understand this if they were saving for a morgage but i bet there not sounds to me u r just scared of them leaving

SarahNeedle1872

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

Ooh I know bless 'em. They think it's all their pocket money to spend don't they? :rolleyes:

During the "discussions" my son had the temerity to suggest that he didn't really cost anything and nobody really did anything for him anyway - and as we'd be paying all the bills in any case why should he pay anything.

(Who took my lovely son away and replaced him with this rotten brat!??)

I said in which case I may have to withdraw all the services that he was getting for free - and obviously not appreciating.

Then I drew up a Price List like an old fashioned landlady, printed it, and stuck it on his door. :rotfl:

Price List

Service wash £9
(We are an enviromentally friendly house so please allow a five day turn around for natural drying.)

Ironing £12 p/hr

Taxi to work £12.50 per day.
(The train is £8 with one change and he has to get up an hour earlier to make it. A taxi would cost at least this.)

Meals
£2.50 per day for breakfast.
A packed lunch £2.50.
£5 evening meal by arrangement.

Hot water for a shower/bath £1 (1 hrs notice required)

1/3 share of Council tax £12.50 per week

(£12.50 per week is how much he'd offered us and coincidentally it's also exactly a third of the CT! )

Use of Household Broadband £5 per week payable in advance

Use of Household satellite TV £4 per week payable in advance

(That's them paid for then! )

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He didn't say a word but at 9am the next morning a bank transfer arrived in our account.

Stand firm honey!

Love Jacks xxx

Jacks, this is absolutely :TBRILLIANT:T...... I'm with Chev, I'm definately keeping a copy of this for when DS is bigger..... I may even modify it for OH!!!


Sarah x

skint_spice

I love it Jacks - well done! As for the percentage thing I still think it's a good idea as it encourages the view a certain percentage should be for bills, another for savings and another for spends.
it's still not anywhere near what it would cost them to live on their own after all!

Gemmzie

That's fantastic, loving the list. £50 a week is a bargain, get him to look in the local paper for rent - it soon shut my brother up when he realised it'd be £65 for a dingy bed-sit minus all the home luxuries

In_Search_Of_Me

laughed out loud at the list!! Hilarious!
As for those struggling to get their kids to pay I honestly struggle to understand this. I know I'm not a parent (& at this rate unlikely to be!!) but if t was me they would pay or I would lovingly but firmly say that if they wouldnt then they have to go out into the big wide world and find their way because it would make me so angry that they were taking the mick!
I'm not saying people shouldnt support their kids, in ANY way, I just think part of being a parent is helping your kids to learn how to be responsible with money and giving them no idea of what it costs to live just doesent do that! You may think I'm on cloud cuckoo and thats fine but I actually think this is a basic matter of your kids demonstrating that they are growing up as well as showing some respect to you as parents...hope you a resolve it! and yes, it is called TOUGH love cos it is tough on you but shuld be tough if they dont like it!!! Hugs pepys! Watching with interest but jacs thanks for making me laugh & hello to ds if you're reading! Well done for doing the RIGHT thing even if the lessons a bit painful - you'll get used to it & you'll thank them when you're older!!