Smoking in garden

scd3scd4

bugslet wrote: »

I think it depends on how people ask. If the neighbour bounces in and starts shouting, 'your f'ing smoke is getting in my room', then it's not going to foster any willingness to move along a bit. On the other hand if the say, 'I'm sorry, but I'm really sensitive to smoke and I know you don't realise etc....', then you immediately feel more amenable.

Maybe............that still does not mean I will stop. Neighbour once told me not to park outside their door when I visited my mum. Did not really matter how they say or said it. If its the only spot then that's where I will be parking..............and did and do.

scd3scd4

AnotherJoe wrote: »

We stunk when we got home, and we got cancer, because "that was how it was" and smokers were too inconsiderate to give a stuff about others. How much more pleasant it is nowadays coming back from the pub not stinking of smoke.

Did we................what all of us???

theone999

it's your house, your garden, you do what you want. tell your neighbours to close their windows if they have a problem.

seven-day-weekend

cjdavies wrote: »

Carry on smoking, your garden (I'm a non smoker).

If neighbour does not like these things, then they should have thought of that and moved where there is no neighbour either side.

However did we cope when you could smoke inside pubs etc?!

My son, who has loathed smoking with a vengeance ever since he was a child, just didn't go in pubs when smoking was allowed in them. If his friends wanted to drink with him they had to sit outside with him.

Now he finds that he has to go inside while they stay outside, although he is more flexible than he used to be and will usually stay outside providing they don't blow smoke in his direction. Not many of his friends smoke anyway.

In the circumstance under discussion, I think he would just close his windows if he was the non-smoking neighbour. However, I think the OP should meet them halfway and smoke further down the garden. Why not have a little shed, which could also be used for storage, and smoke there?

My husband and I are ex-heavy smokers who have now not smoked for many years. When we first gave up smoking and got our sense of smell back, I couldn't believe how much cigarette smoke stank and still hate it to this day. My neighbour at my previous house used to smoke and even though he didn't indulge in our house, the house stank if he visited because HE stank, it was all over his clothes and hair - and he was a man who was very dapper and cared about his appearance, not some chain-smoking slob. Smokers really do not realise how much it stinks.

Red-Squirrel_2

scd3scd4 wrote: »

Did we................what all of us???

Too many, especially people who had to work in smoke filled environments.

Remember Roy Castle?

moneyistooshorttomention

AnotherJoe wrote: »

We stunk when we got home, and we got cancer, because "that was how it was" and smokers were too inconsiderate to give a stuff about others. How much more pleasant it is nowadays coming back from the pub not stinking of smoke.

Not to mention that if the reason for being in said pub was it was the venue for an "organising stuff to help Society" meeting the inconsistencies of not caring about the other people in the room were positively glaring/contributed to being a lot more cynical than I used to be about people.

Or having to go to work to earn one's living and there were people smoking away nearby - seemingly in complete oblivion it was "compulsory" to be at the office, because one couldn't earn a living otherwise (so - not even the level of degree of choice being near them that there was in the leisuretime setting of a pub).

Thank goodness those days have gone.:T

If smokers think it doesnt hang around - try buying a house that used to be owned by a smoker. My current house stank for weeks and the smell took months to go totally - during which time it was replastered throughout/all furnishings chucked out and aired out like mad.

rtho782

If you smoke in your home, 100% of the smoke is contained inside.

OP lives in a detached house, so can't exactly be right below his neighbours window. In any case, no more than say, 5% of smoke as an absolute maximum could enter this upstairs window.

If the neighbour does not like things from the environment entering the window they should close it. There is no need for OP to warn them, any more than the farmers need to warn the area before they spread muck in fields, or people need to warn their neighbours before having a BBQ.

If the neighbour is so worried about this, they should just keep the window closed all the time.

sitesafe

This shouldn't just be about rights about smoking where OP chooses - we all know people have them and the OP is well aware. It's about choosing whether to show just a little bit of respect and consideration for a neighbour's child.
Regardless of whether you like the neighbour much it's not the end of the world to show willing and one day you might find you need to ask your neighbour a favour yourself.

Lioness_Twinkletoes

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Too many, especially people who had to work in smoke filled environments.

Remember Roy Castle?

I was waiting for someone to mention him...pretty irrelevant to the OP as I don't think they they're intending to go to the neighbours place of work with 100 other people and smoke....

Drifting smoke from a couple of cigs in the evening is not going to cause cancer.

PasturesNew

rtho782 wrote: »

OP lives in a detached house, so can't exactly be right below his neighbours window

These days a detached house might have just 1' of land between it and the neighbours.... and be only about 15' wide.