Made A Terrible Mistake

pearl123

Mylife wrote: »

He brought 2 of his children,not sure what he told them. I didn't say anything. They are still young and innocent so I doubt they thought much of it other than I was a work colleague. Some of his family ie sister,cousins also visit. We visited his family to show the baby.

II did mention to his sister and some friends that I wish I could have another so I can raise them at the same time,they all suggested that I have it with him so both the children have one father and same surname. He has also said he would be happy to have another one.

This sounds like a tall tale to me.

Mylife

Onwards and upwards why would I waste time with such a long post. If you read you will see how I started and the good advice I got. I have updated from time to time.

Gigervamp

The issues in his marriage, are caused by him being a cheat. I doubt you're the first mistress he's had, just the first to fall pregnant.


Cheats all follow the same script, "My wife doesn't understand me" "We haven't had sex for months/years, she won't let me" "We're sleeping in separate beds/rooms" blah, blah, blah, playing the hard done by man who just wants a sympathetic shoulder to cry on.


If you're not planning on having another child with him, why even mention it. It certainly sounded like you were considering it.

Mylife

Pearl you do not have to reply, what I was saying is in an ideal world it would be better to have children with the same person but obviously I am not in a ideal.

Mylife

Givervamp thank you,I know he is a cheat but if I'm honest sometimes feelings overwhelm me.i know I did wrong and I regret it. I mentioned it because I would love to have another child but not with him .I feel like I have made such a mess and might not find anyone else. He is out of question ,I live in fear of his wife turning up at my door. Secrets do get out and one day this one will.

Pollycat

Mylife wrote: »

Both of us a terrible people.

+1 to this ^^^^

Mylife wrote: »

I am not a victim I made this bed.

You might not be a victim but you've made damn sure his wife is.
Shame on you.

gomer

Pollycat wrote: »

+1 to this ^^^^

You might not be a victim but you've made damn sure his wife is.
Shame on you.

Disgraceful isn't it? I pray to god she finds out.

harz99

onwards&upwards wrote: »

100% this is not real.

It’s school in the morning, isn’t it?

I've only read through this thread, but my first thoughts were the similarity to a thread in Coronation Street...

onwards&upwards

harz99 wrote: »

I've only read through this thread, but my first thoughts were the similarity to a thread in Coronation Street...

I don’t watch it, but it sounds far fetched even for a soap!

onwards&upwards

Mylife wrote: »

Swingaloo you are right but what can I do ,anything I chose to do now will make it worse. If I told her and she divorced him , he would think I did it to get him or he would just despise me. His children at the moment are happy with noth parents. I would rather leave it like that.

when I say his family is lovely I meant they were civil to me . They obviously knew about the baby and wanted to see it. It's not okay that I went to his family house but I couldn't let him take her (baby) alone.

again I'm caught between a rock and a hard place.

I’ve never met a mum who refers to their baby as it.