taking responsibilty to get me where I want to be

Humdinger1

What @efes_shareholder, have i understood correctly? MC got a big inheritance, his sister got nothing? I could understand her resentment at him moving back in with his mother if so.  I fear you're right re the possible drug use; I'm no expert but what is he doing with all the money? Plus the total lack of responsibility.  Standing by for the next installment; you stick to your guns love Humdinger xx 

efes_shareholder

Humdinger1 said:

What @efes_shareholder, have i understood correctly? MC got a big inheritance, his sister got nothing? I could understand her resentment at him moving back in with his mother if so.  I fear you're right re the possible drug use; I'm no expert but what is he doing with all the money? Plus the total lack of responsibility.  Standing by for the next installment; you stick to your guns love Humdinger xx 

@Humdinger1 ok ,maybe I put that wrongly - MC as the eldest grandson inherited 50% of the GM estate , the remainder of the other grandchildren got 50% to share between them so yes he got by far the biggest chunk.

I completely understand the sisters resentment as she and her hubbie are back with the mum to save a deposit for their own home after finding they werent able too whilst renting a flat ,  and i get  the mothers attitude that he can afford to rent as ultimately he can - well he could if he had up to date books to present to a letting agent but they are up in the sky with the pigs with wings.

Also I don't understand where the money goes if he hasn't been treating himself to nose powder , I know he used to do it and I'm told its about £100 a go these days so it certainly fits. His dad won't entertain that thought though so I haven't expressed it any further as I feel like I am being a bit of a charachter assassin and dad will only ever view the blue eyed boy as just that

Newstartforme

Hi Efes , I think he has heard dad agree to it because it suits him to have heard it . So he doesn't want to rent a place but fine for you to pay a big mortgage to provide him with a place to stay lol ! Wonder why January for GWG place , maybe parents hoping the romance will have fizzled out by then x

efes_shareholder

Newstartforme said:

Hi Efes , I think he has heard dad agree to it because it suits him to have heard it . So he doesn't want to rent a place but fine for you to pay a big mortgage to provide him with a place to stay lol ! Wonder why January for GWG place , maybe parents hoping the romance will have fizzled out by then x

excatly that - let someone else have the expense so that he doesn't have too 

I also agree , I think he is used to dad saying yes so would have only heard that ! 

efes_shareholder

Strangely I've heard via my MD that MC will be back @ his mothers , she has heard this through his sisters who she has a good bond with 

Don't think residing daughter is too impressed - I however am elated , although he is yet to return home to start packing.

I am also relieved as the said conversation with the ex has resulted in overnight stays being reinstated with the kids , they were never going to take place at my house but at least the expectation will be removed.

I do actually feel quite sorry for his mum who has been put on last minute and who is trying to get an empty nest but they keep coming back !! I do hope she is not as enabling of him as I and his father appear to have been and has been given enough feedback to avoid making the same mistakes with him and will put a foot up his backside.

Lets see if his stuff goes tonight as time is getting on and there is as yet no sign but finally I can see the end in sight 

efes_shareholder

Well he’s gone , without so much as a thank you 

Humdinger1

Thanks be to G*d!  Can you believe it? Of course no thanks- the rest of the world is there to enable him.  How's NM feeling? Sweet dreams @efes_shareholder

efes_shareholder

Humdinger1 said:

Thanks be to G*d!  Can you believe it? Of course no thanks- the rest of the world is there to enable him.  How's NM feeling? Sweet dreams @efes_shareholder

He hasn’t said much 
he saw him to the door and didn’t prompt him to return and say thank you - something I would have done if that was my child but then mine were raised with manners !!

I even fed the ungrateful being this evening

he didn’t take a hoover to his room ! Guess that’s my job however the exploitation and enablement stops now 

I’m really cross right now 

enthusiasticsaver

As you say bad manners on both NMs and MCs part and I would be making NM do the deep clean. He is his son. 

efes_shareholder

it has left a real bitter taste in my mouth however taken away any guilt I felt - it's what I'll remember. 

Lesson learnt , take a moment to pause before offering help in future and accept that people don't always do as you would do 

I said to NM as we went to bed last night that it was disapointing not to recieve a thank you , he said he had expected him to say it but went quite quiet when I said so why did you not prompt it at the door as you saw him out - to be fair this notion is ridiculous to have to remind manners to a 38 year old.
there were then some excuses about how he knows him and he is grateful , hes just absent minded and going through a lot blah blah blah but its two words , the moments gone and he's just rude !!! 

Still my sanctuary is back to my own so I need to drink the medicine and be grateful for that.and get back to some peace.

In other news ,the universe has sent me a £350 win on the PB - more then happy with that