taking responsibilty to get me where I want to be

Newstartforme

Hi Efes , this is all adding to your health issues I'm sure . I really hope MC gone today , got visions of all his expensive purchases being stuffed in a bag any old way , you'd think he would have said to dad like a normal person oh I'll be leaving after work today for instance wouldn't you 🤔 NM can't relish the thought of these conversations I'm sure , best of luck for today xx

efes_shareholder

no I completely get he won't want the conversations but PARENT YOUR CHILD!!!

he said over breakfast this morning " lets have a nice weekend" I said " yes , when is MC going to his friends" then the penny dropped , I said " it is the 28th today"

" I will talk to him"

This has to be done or we will still be in the same situation a year from now.

When I had the conversation with NM when I was upset this week , I did say " the only conflict we have to manage is MC expectations of me , last time we had such upset was when he asked if the GF could stay"

MC has a meeting on monday with the ex about seeing the kids - accompanied by his mum. The whole dynamic of GWG could change based on this and there is absolutely no way I am about to lose my home every saturday again !!!! 

enthusiasticsaver

I think if MC does not go then you should send NM with him as he does not seem to have your back on this.  How stressful and I agree Never again is a good mantra.  Give some people an inch and they take a mile. 

efes_shareholder

enthusiasticsaver said:

I think if MC does not go then you should send NM with him as he does not seem to have your back on this.  How stressful and I agree Never again is a good mantra.  Give some people an inch and they take a mile. 

I'm with you on that - I knew the son extracted the urine but not to this extent

If his dad stopped blaming MC ex Gf and opened his eyes it may be a start

enthusiasticsaver

Change the locks maybe? 

Humdinger1

I was thinking that too @enthusiasticsaver.  But if MC plays on NM's feelings, he'll probably end up getting in anyway.   Please forgive me @efes_shareholder for discussing your relationship, even indirectly.   Love Humdinger xx

efes_shareholder

Honestly no forgiveness needed.

MC came in late last night and dashed upstairs pretty soon to bed....................NM went and woke him up to find out when he was moving his stuff , I have been assured he will be gone by monday so I can't ask for much more then that.

Hes only just left to go to work today , theres a strange atmosphere but that will soon be gone. Just in time as it looks like his access to his kids will soon be reinstated , his lack of progress and motivation will potentially hit home as unless his mum helps out he will have no where to have them overnight.

still GWG has expensive shoes and he has been to ibiza 

Newstartforme

He could have taken a few months to get his head straight then sorted tax and a place to live but no he has chosen his own enjoyment and pleasure over having a place sorted for those kiddies , he's really not doing himself any favours,  MC must be very soft to be taken in by all looking for sympathy nonsense . Roll on Monday for you x

efes_shareholder

Newstartforme said:

He could have taken a few months to get his head straight then sorted tax and a place to live but no he has chosen his own enjoyment and pleasure over having a place sorted for those kiddies , he's really not doing himself any favours,  MC must be very soft to be taken in by all looking for sympathy nonsense . Roll on Monday for you x

He seems equally frustrated and I think he is a little embarrassed and out of excuses for him 

I certainly would be if he was my son 

when he arrived he was full of sorting himself out , sorting his tax and getting somewhere to live near his kids

then he met Gwg and instead has transformed his wardrobe to fit her ideals and decided he needs to move location 

Not sure how having the kids every other week is going to fit in with that but then not really my problem