taking responsibilty to get me where I want to be

efes_shareholder

Scott_Weiland79 said:

efes_shareholder said:

Scott_Weiland79 said:

stress can cause havoc with hormones and it can infleunce things like water retention/sleep etc

How has your hydration being?

Its pretty good , The importance of water intake is something I am aware off and I have incoperated 3 daily juices which cite various health benefits. I regularly hydrate during the day and have jumped on the coconut water train too

I have been doing mostly resistance training in the gym as dont feel energised enough to undertake the cardio however maybe the balance between the two isn't quite there.

I am a bit of a stress head , not helped by menopause and can fall in to depressive cycles if I am aware and do not feed my mind the right information - that in itself isn't always easy.

The cardio doesnt have to be crazy though you know. Even just doing 10mins at the end of your weights session will help. 

Walking quick on a running machine ie steady state cardio (LISS cardio) will honestly help. 

Google LISS cardio and the benefits 

yes I think I am going to re address the cardio - I was doing between 3-5km at a fairly fast pace but have fallen off with that.

Kind of put of as have been going in the mornings and theres one of those fellas who wont stop looking at you on the treadmill next to me .................its like a private joke between my partner and I who sits behind on a bike and monitors what he is doing - I'll go back to ignoring it and seeing it in the light hearted manner I should

Humdinger1

Maybe talk to the gym manager @efes_shareholder? You'd be doing other members z favour.   Love Humdinger xx 

efes_shareholder

Humdinger1 said:

Maybe talk to the gym manager @efes_shareholder? You'd be doing other members z favour.   Love Humdinger xx 

True - I get the impression he may be a friend of his as he is always in there before its open properly in the morning 

efes_shareholder

So once again set the alarm to go to the gym and failed ......................intention is to go when we finish work but we will see.

Need to get myself back in to the groove of it

Sister has been over to visit with my HRT so we went for a pub lunch and now I am bloated .................have chicken and mango curry in the slow cooker but doubt I will have any - most likely go for the butternut squash soup I made yesterday

MC has once again rained off - hes been out to the gym and the laundrette ( he is at least learning that winter washing takes co ordination) and did offer to take anything I had so I sent him with my fleece super king duvet cover as it will not spin out in my washing machine.

He is now back in his room after hovering around ....................I plan to ask NM if he has made things clear to him over the weekend but how he keeps hanging about and making small talk tells me he is waiting an oppurtunity.
I'm feigning being busy at work to close off any option to open a discussion with me.

I had hoped he would take the oppurtunity of no work to get down to the south coast early but it doesn't appear to be the case , I'm crossing everything that he is going this evening but don't want to prompt any such conversation.

This weekend will hopefully be fairly relaxed , planned the car mot tomorrow and a little shopping trip to primark with middle child , NM friend is coming over for the boxing tomorrow and then on sunday we have planned a very lazy stay in bed day although I have got a half price leg of lamb 

Have an amazon xmas alcohol shop coming today - a case of of 10 cider , beer , desperados , 16 coke zero , 16 pepsi max and some mango tango for just over £40 which seems pretty good going, We ourselves arent planning on drinking much and guests generally bring something but it nice to have something to offer just in case

Scott_Weiland79

efes_shareholder said:

Scott_Weiland79 said:

efes_shareholder said:

Scott_Weiland79 said:

stress can cause havoc with hormones and it can infleunce things like water retention/sleep etc

How has your hydration being?

Its pretty good , The importance of water intake is something I am aware off and I have incoperated 3 daily juices which cite various health benefits. I regularly hydrate during the day and have jumped on the coconut water train too

I have been doing mostly resistance training in the gym as dont feel energised enough to undertake the cardio however maybe the balance between the two isn't quite there.

I am a bit of a stress head , not helped by menopause and can fall in to depressive cycles if I am aware and do not feed my mind the right information - that in itself isn't always easy.

The cardio doesnt have to be crazy though you know. Even just doing 10mins at the end of your weights session will help. 

Walking quick on a running machine ie steady state cardio (LISS cardio) will honestly help. 

Google LISS cardio and the benefits 

yes I think I am going to re address the cardio - I was doing between 3-5km at a fairly fast pace but have fallen off with that.

Kind of put of as have been going in the mornings and theres one of those fellas who wont stop looking at you on the treadmill next to me .................its like a private joke between my partner and I who sits behind on a bike and monitors what he is doing - I'll go back to ignoring it and seeing it in the light hearted manner I should

3 Alternative suggestions 

re the numpty next to you on the treadmill

1) wear a hoody, put the hood up so dont have to look at him.

2) Or do what i do watch a podcast on something on youtube as your training.

3) Get your partner to come talk to you for 2 mins as your doing your cardio and get them to glare at the numpty 

efes_shareholder

Scott_Weiland79 said:

efes_shareholder said:

Scott_Weiland79 said:

efes_shareholder said:

Scott_Weiland79 said:

stress can cause havoc with hormones and it can infleunce things like water retention/sleep etc

How has your hydration being?

Its pretty good , The importance of water intake is something I am aware off and I have incoperated 3 daily juices which cite various health benefits. I regularly hydrate during the day and have jumped on the coconut water train too

I have been doing mostly resistance training in the gym as dont feel energised enough to undertake the cardio however maybe the balance between the two isn't quite there.

I am a bit of a stress head , not helped by menopause and can fall in to depressive cycles if I am aware and do not feed my mind the right information - that in itself isn't always easy.

The cardio doesnt have to be crazy though you know. Even just doing 10mins at the end of your weights session will help. 

Walking quick on a running machine ie steady state cardio (LISS cardio) will honestly help. 

Google LISS cardio and the benefits 

yes I think I am going to re address the cardio - I was doing between 3-5km at a fairly fast pace but have fallen off with that.

Kind of put of as have been going in the mornings and theres one of those fellas who wont stop looking at you on the treadmill next to me .................its like a private joke between my partner and I who sits behind on a bike and monitors what he is doing - I'll go back to ignoring it and seeing it in the light hearted manner I should

3 Alternative suggestions 

re the numpty next to you on the treadmill

1) wear a hoody, put the hood up so dont have to look at him.

2) Or do what i do watch a podcast on something on youtube as your training.

3) Get your partner to come talk to you for 2 mins as your doing your cardio and get them to glare at the numpty 

Thanks for the tips

To be fair my partner has come over a few times , he’s 6ft 4 and nearly as wide and looks very scary although he’s actually a big softie - I might say very loudly.to my partner “Is he still checking my booty” - if I’m in a menopausal mood I think it will be easy to say 

efes_shareholder

To add

MC has hovered all evening , more so once his dad returned - I made myself busy but I did Daves drop that he has made up with his mum.

As I was sorting dinner he went upstairs to take a phone call , NM  then said “ shall we have the conversation with him when he comes back”

im afraid I dodged it , I said “ you said you were sorting it last week so I’m  not having any conversation as I’ve already had the conversation I needed but I will give you privacy since he has not made me aware of his wishes”

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He had a look on his face which I have never seen before  - he looked distressed and when I asked if he was ok he said that Mc had put him in a situation - more home truths came out and I said if he was waiting for Mc to approach me then my delivery of how it is would be delivered in exactly the same context
i I said if mc hadn’t sorted himself out then it was because he had not respected what he was told in September and he had now put us both in a position we shouldn’t be in 

anyway , long story short Mc is only away tonight as he is working on Sunday ( FML) and Nm has promised he will talk to him by Monday night - I’m going to go out !!!!!!! 

Seems I have two men in the house who need to get their head out of the sand 

Newstartforme

Hi Efes , do you think your partner may have led MC to believe he could fix it with you for son to stay til new year and his look of distress is at the thought of having to backtrack on his earlier conversation.  I wouldn't like that myself , but it gives an impression that they have not listened to you when son first moved in and again when you gave end of November as the time limit . Enjoy your weekend xx

efes_shareholder

Newstartforme said:

Hi Efes , do you think your partner may have led MC to believe he could fix it with you for son to stay til new year and his look of distress is at the thought of having to backtrack on his earlier conversation.  I wouldn't like that myself , but it gives an impression that they have not listened to you when son first moved in and again when you gave end of November as the time limit . Enjoy your weekend xx

I really hope it’s not the case and it is something I have asked him - he is adamant that it’s not the case and I have to accept his word on that 
he said he gave no opinion and told him he had to speak to me.
whatever the circumstances I feel disrespected by them both - mc by completely disregarding the difficulties I told him I was having for his own requirements and Nm for not reconfirming my wishes and feelings when approached. 

NM is cross with MC for the position we find ourselves in , a position which basically has created unrest between us

im just fed up with the pair of them right now but I’ll be back on track once he’s gone which he will be as the date was never open for negotiation

efes_shareholder

so today has started with same old stomach issues - its intense today so I am painkillered up and hopefully I'll get some peace from it

Weekend wasn't bad , there were words between NM and I on friday night and saturday morning where I rose the subject of his avoidance of wanting to tackle the elephant , he said it was akward - I get that it is but the only thing that has made it that way is his sons expectations. I said that I am taking the lack of approach as a signal that he has sorted something else out and either way , the longer it takes to address the less notice there is that what he wants i snot an option. 

I had a long convo with my BFF to talk me down from my upset and then went to primark with my middle child. Sat night a friend came over to watch the boxing and we ordered pizza which I am pretty sure is part responsible for my burning midriff.

Yesterday we had our lazy day and aside from slow cooking some lamb for sunday dinner we didn't get out of bed and had a day watching films etc. We got up , ate dinner and went back to bed - If i was cynical I would say NM is also avoiding MC , but it was nice not to do anything although I did hear him come home from work around 8pm

As it was quite relaxing it wasnt majorly expensive although I did spend some in starbucks ( where middle child wanted to go ) , savers and primark.

We made the gym for 6am this morning after being wide awake at 2am. Took the advice and focused on the light cardio,

Today its chilli and potato wedges for dinner but I dont think I will take part and have roasted some red peppers to make a soup with a I really didnt like the butternut squash soup that I made !!

I'd planned to go out with my BFF but since I am in so much discomfort it seems a waste to go for dinner and I may just hang around for the conversation of dread and to add affect with my ailments.

I need to find some time today to do the juicing too - have chopped all the ingreidants but have to be honest its now becoming a chore