taking responsibilty to get me where I want to be

efes_shareholder

Seasidegal58 said:

I loved your post ES!  Well done for letting NM know exactly how you feel and that you're not changing your mind over this. I was pleased to read as well that he seems to have realised he has been out of order over the whole affair. The flowers and the comment about wanting to be on your own is a very positive sign. 

From what you have described on meeting GWG (plus the CD trainers!), gives red alerts that she may well get rather bored with him as it may be just a physical thing (plus the wining and dining) that attracted her to him in the first place. 

I think it’s very much a physical thing ………they are very tactile but I sensed he was her but of rough …………….. it’s very early days so he connection at the minute has to be about being at it like bunnies rather then sharing the same values and aspirations, I did establish that his snoring was an issue so I can’t see her being in a hurry to relocate his down south. 

He seems far more invested - the splashing the cash and then blaming everyone else when it doesn’t materialise the way he wants it do is definitely a habit for MC but he won’t be told or even advised so let’s hope the honey stays sweet

efes_shareholder

So I got through yesterday - this weather is not the best and the endless clothes horses of washing are testiment to this

Haven't managed to do any of my own this week however friday is looking to be nice and sunny so I intend to spend the day doing the throws , bedding and towels however it is a reminder that the house will be like a chinese laundry soon if there is not adjustments.

When I mentioned this this morning NM said I will talk to MC at the weekend - MC is at a festival ( I am pleased about this ) so I reminded him of this and said the conversation could happen whenever he wanted but the longer it went on , the less notice there would be.
I intended to prompt the conversation last night but MC came in and fell asleep straight from work so that didn't happen

I have bought a new phone , I did go for a new iphone , not the latest - a 15 on 12 months interest free - I know it isn't very MSE but I do have the money to pay for it straight away - I just don't like taking from it so if I can manage without it works for me.
Have spent the money reinstating certain apps such as the heating and the ring doorbell aswell as my banking apps

Newstartforme

Same here with the weather and not relishing the winter , even in the spare room they still get on my nerves . Glad you got phone sorted . Hopefully this time next week MC will have a plan in place xx

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Newstartforme said:

Same here with the weather and not relishing the winter , even in the spare room they still get on my nerves . Glad you got phone sorted . Hopefully this time next week MC will have a plan in place xx

hopefully he will but to be perfectly honest , thats on him - my priority is my self preservation. I get a lot of seasonal depression and I will not continue to be in the situation through that !! In fact I had forgotten about factoring that in !!!!!!!!!! 

I am pretty sure his plan will to be put himself on his mum - wont be ideal as there is no where for him to leave his van safely there but once again we sometimes have to make sacrafices , I've made mine and he went clubbing in ibiza !!

Seasidegal58

As you say, sometimes we have to make sacrifices. He'll have to make sure the van is secure if he moves to his mum.