taking responsibilty to get me where I want to be

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Seasidegal58 said:

I loved your post ES!  Well done for letting NM know exactly how you feel and that you're not changing your mind over this. I was pleased to read as well that he seems to have realised he has been out of order over the whole affair. The flowers and the comment about wanting to be on your own is a very positive sign. 

From what you have described on meeting GWG (plus the CD trainers!), gives red alerts that she may well get rather bored with him as it may be just a physical thing (plus the wining and dining) that attracted her to him in the first place. 

I think it’s very much a physical thing ………they are very tactile but I sensed he was her but of rough …………….. it’s very early days so he connection at the minute has to be about being at it like bunnies rather then sharing the same values and aspirations, I did establish that his snoring was an issue so I can’t see her being in a hurry to relocate his down south. 

He seems far more invested - the splashing the cash and then blaming everyone else when it doesn’t materialise the way he wants it do is definitely a habit for MC but he won’t be told or even advised so let’s hope the honey stays sweet

efes_shareholder

So I got through yesterday - this weather is not the best and the endless clothes horses of washing are testiment to this

Haven't managed to do any of my own this week however friday is looking to be nice and sunny so I intend to spend the day doing the throws , bedding and towels however it is a reminder that the house will be like a chinese laundry soon if there is not adjustments.

When I mentioned this this morning NM said I will talk to MC at the weekend - MC is at a festival ( I am pleased about this ) so I reminded him of this and said the conversation could happen whenever he wanted but the longer it went on , the less notice there would be.
I intended to prompt the conversation last night but MC came in and fell asleep straight from work so that didn't happen

I have bought a new phone , I did go for a new iphone , not the latest - a 15 on 12 months interest free - I know it isn't very MSE but I do have the money to pay for it straight away - I just don't like taking from it so if I can manage without it works for me.
Have spent the money reinstating certain apps such as the heating and the ring doorbell aswell as my banking apps

Newstartforme

Same here with the weather and not relishing the winter , even in the spare room they still get on my nerves . Glad you got phone sorted . Hopefully this time next week MC will have a plan in place xx

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Newstartforme said:

Same here with the weather and not relishing the winter , even in the spare room they still get on my nerves . Glad you got phone sorted . Hopefully this time next week MC will have a plan in place xx

hopefully he will but to be perfectly honest , thats on him - my priority is my self preservation. I get a lot of seasonal depression and I will not continue to be in the situation through that !! In fact I had forgotten about factoring that in !!!!!!!!!! 

I am pretty sure his plan will to be put himself on his mum - wont be ideal as there is no where for him to leave his van safely there but once again we sometimes have to make sacrafices , I've made mine and he went clubbing in ibiza !!

Seasidegal58

As you say, sometimes we have to make sacrifices. He'll have to make sure the van is secure if he moves to his mum.

efes_shareholder

Seasidegal58 said:

As you say, sometimes we have to make sacrifices. He'll have to make sure the van is secure if he moves to his mum.

I'm trying to focus less on what is irritating me and more on that I want my own space back - I have valid reasons but I do not have to provide them , other then this was only offered short term as that what works for me !!!!

Yesterday/this morning irritants are

Washing is still in machine and has been since yesterday morning - he has gone to work again and left it there ( I have taken out his dads whites and will dry those as I am petty like that !) Fortunately I will do my washing tomorrow when its glorious sunshine however sunny days are getting fewer.

Dinner - Wasnt home for dinner so I put it in microwave expecting that he would take something from the fridge to heat up and find dinner there , NO !  took meals already put in to air tight containers in the fridge for NM lunch and ate those cold so said dinner went to waste in the microwave , also repeated the same when he got back from gym - I mean who eats Chicken curry and chilli cold???????????

I have been trying and failing for weeks to get up for they gym in the morning so last night I decided I was going to bed early to try and get there today , I had a bath and got in to bed and put the TV on upstairs , took my nytol and around 9pm NM joined me - We generally get settled in bed in the longer months rather then sit in the front room.
Just settling down to sleep and tap , tap , tap on the bedroom door _ I'm like WTAF , NM goes to the door and then comes back - What did he want? I ask " just checking if we were ok" comes the reply , now I don't believe that for a second and challenged it again this morning and if it is the reason then !!!!!! , the door is shut , the tv is on - I am having privacy in my bedroom so GO AWAY!!!

Sorry , I am finding it helps to log my irritants here and also I then don't forget incidents.

efes_shareholder

In money news , things are plodding along.

Ended up with a £25 spend in Tesco last night for some things we were short off and needed for dinner tonight - seemed to go nowhere , some leeks , snap peas , orzo , eggs , butter , coriander , ice creams and pow its gone !!!!!

As above I took myself off for a bath @ 8 last night , got in to bed , put the TV on , took some nytol - what with MC welfare call ( still absolutely blown away if that is what it was !) and then NM snoring the early morning wake up did not happen , I am not sure how I am going to overcome this as its an onward battle.

efes_shareholder

well this morning I made the gym for 6am so thats progress and its just gone 10am and I have the 3rd lot of NM and I washing on on what looks like being a perfect drying day so linen , throws and towels will be also done.

On the downside - MC washing was still in the machine ( have taken it out to do mine and will put it back there when I am finished ( if you dont lift a finger for me when I not here then it works the same in reverse) and the chat has still not happened as once again he came in late from work , went to his room without so much as a hello and fell asleep

Have told NM that he needs to be pinned down so we can have that chat but we have been ships that pass in the night all week , suspicious he knows whats coming but NM insists its not intentional.

Have a chicken casserole in the slow cooker - nearly had a nasty incident with the ninja knife but my sliced through my nail rather then my finger !!

This weekend MC is at a festival ( I assume tomorrow) but I have my middle one staying as I have my eldest , hubbie and my grandbaby coming for dinner on Sunday

Tomorrow we are at the football and then going for a an hours worth of interactive darts after - will need to fit a roast dinner shop in too as I wasnt organised enough to take care of that 

Newstartforme

Hope you have a lovely weekend , you will be looking forward to seeing the little one . The MC doesn't make sense , he has to check on you when you are nearly asleep but comes home from work without saying hi . You will be really relieved to get the chat out the way . Hope your nail is OK,  ninja knives are so sharp xx

Abbafan1972

What does NM & MC mean please?