taking responsibilty to get me where I want to be

efes_shareholder

All quiet on the house front
everything my end is in place other then transferring deposit
no further news on fixtures and fittings but I still want the blinds left , I’m stubborn .
I hope I don’t dig my heels in to cut off my face
prices dropping in my local area meaning mums house but not where I am buying but I expect eventually it will knock on.
It’s only the back to front of my purchase that confuses things , in hindsight I’ve panicked but I’m also trying to take care of the family as mum would have wanted 
Pay day yesterday , my reduced hours have amounted to about 300 down in my wage packet
I could have not worked at all and been 900 down but I do feel a bit out that I’ve been lost out when I’m willing to work albeit it for 2/3 hours a day then usual.
my boss had made sounds to have me back in the office but is not pressing , I’m not ready. I feel like I have an element of pelvic floor weakness and need to get some strength back in my core.
im a bit concerned as sitting at home I can stretch out or upright and find my best position and pop painkillers, have a short walk , lunchtime bath etc
My supervisor has also been at home through injury , he knows we all get the job done from home but wants a presence seen in the office hence my supervisor is in next week ( I’m told she’s unhappy and will play on her injury as she doesn’t like paying for fares ) 
as a compromise I’m going to request that I come in for afternoons only on my week in , the office is literally 3 minutes drive so it’s not a fuel thing but rather a physical thing and I would rather give 4 hours a day a go then 9 to start with 
if I do it in the middle part of the day I have both the morning and the evening to regain comfort should it be too much.
I can’t see how he can protest as if I had a manual job I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be working at all.

efes_shareholder

Mumoffourkids said:

I haven’t commented before on your diary but am an avid reader. I feel your pain about house buying. I am currently buying a house at the moment and it just seems to be taking so long! I’m not selling anywhere and the house I am buying aren’t buying anywhere so it should be straightforward. But it’s not and I am worried I am making the wrong decision by buying. So I just wanted to say I know exactly how you feel when you question whether you are making the right decision. I am also buying by myself but I am moving to a new area with my kids. It’s the only way I could buy somewhere was to move areas. It is so hard when you are the one that has to make the decision by yourself and although you have people you can talk to, ultimately the decision is yours alone.

Keep going and try not to stress too much. I’m sure everything will be good in the end.

It’s rubbish being in charge of yourself but also quite liberating 
when all said and done , my successes and my mistakes will be mine to own as will yours.
I’m relaxed and will be until I have to part with most of my savings , every penny counts these days
if the market crashes in the meantime or I see evidence I will walk away with the expenses of what I’ve paid so far if it outweighs what I envisage as a loss 
when I’m feeling safe I realise I could be pretty much mortgage free if I sacrificed where I lived but ultimately I can’t see me being satisfied if if I lived in any of the places that would enable this.
I don’t have to consider my children as 2 have moved out and one lives with her dad and is happy but I would like facility to have them home if needed 

peb

Im darn sure you shouldn't be working at all!  Hold your ground and be careful.

Humdinger1

@efes_shareholder just wondering how you are? Love Humdinger xx 

efes_shareholder

Humdinger1 said:

@efes_shareholder just wondering how you are? Love Humdinger xx 

I'm fine thank you , just suffering a little bit of anxiety and starting to feel v concerned that keeping mums house is the right route , going to meet up with my sister on Tuesday and chat everything over.
no news on exchange or having to deposit the deposit - the longer it goes on , the more my anxiety carries on and I question things
Debt is all gone with exception of very which I use very sensibly basically for the 0% function , I've bought a ninja air fryer - on a bit of a whim but the oven here at NM flat is awful and takes forever and its much quicker and Im told cheaper to run so over time it will pay for itself
also took advantage of the ring doorbell offer on amazon but ordered both sorts with the view to returning one as I'm not sure which I will require

Feel much better physically , am pretty much back and up and running but avoid heavy lifting and hoovering etc , my scar is still tender but bearable and I'll go back in the office at the end of this month.

Kitten868

So it's 9 weeks since your offer was accepted but it's not that bad when you think about how long your mortgage provider dilly dallied over the offer. Sounds like it's going ok. Have they said they would leave the blinds now?

I don't see prices going down. Just slowing down in jumping up in price around my way. It does feel hard to believe that prices are as they are. Especially if you're only buying. Really hoping it's super soon for you.

I think you're doing so well with how you're healing and everything you're doing.

I think you're so used to doing way way too much in your day and you can't get used to doing anything less xxx

Humdinger1

Just wondering how you are @efes_shareholder

Buffythedebtslayer

From me too XX 

efes_shareholder

I'm fine , feeling a bit of a fraud posting where my debt is finally for now under control.

Due to meet my sister for an open chat about the future of the house , not going to lie , the current cost of living crisis concerns me , it concerns me ALOT
The longer the house goes on , the more concerned I get , I've requested another visit to refresh myself but I sense a reluctance , could just be me but all the little things niggle away at me.
the cost of fuel and the impeding interest rates concern me , the increase in food and energy , in fact the interest in everythig yet we have people still buying dogs for 5k and dressing their kids in designer wear............am I missing something?

I'm currently looking for a holiday , I feel its needed but I want a champagne trip for a lemonade budget - also feel a bit stranded as I dont know when move date will be.
I had a weekend at a soul event last weekend , it was lovely , the sun stayed onside - I didnt dance or exert myself , just sat outside listening to music and greeting friends. its made me want a a trip away but again I will not pay school holiday prices so will see how things pan out. In reality a cheap all inclusive week will not cost much more then what we pay to attend a soul week.

Kitten868

Glad you're 'fine'. You're definitely not a fraud and you're welcome to stay on here as long as it serves you.

I think that any concern about increases in prices will be felt more by renters than by home buyers. Not in a judgemental way but more that landlords aren't the kindest in these situations. Also I expect it's more that your buyers will be anxious you'll pull out at this late date. Houses don't look as appealing when you've started packing and there's boxes everywhere. But maybe that is just me. I keep double guessing what I can pack now and what I shouldn't.

I hope you do find a good deal for a holiday - you deserve it. And I really wouldn't worry about it coinciding with the moving date - you sign everything in advance and you don't have anywhere you're in a rush to get out of. You need a holiday after everything that's been going on and you know they bring you so much joy.

Are you back on full hours yet?