Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning

Honeysucklelou2

Hope you are feeling better now and the cough has subsided.

f0xh0les

Oh gosh poor DS and poor you too! Do you think that with all the 'blue Monday' stuff and all the self harm and suicide stories on the news that he is worried for his dad's mental health and fearing what might happen? Poor little chap.

It is still controlling behaviour though innit? dropping out of their lives and causing them worry.

Hugs to all the cat-family.

crazy_cat_lady

Morning all :coffee: :hello:
It's as I had predicted - my car isn't going anywhere today. I might get it off the drive but I won't get out of the street. I've cancelled tutoring, and seeing bestie and am battening down for the day and hoping for a big thaw.
I had an ok, but broken sleep. I was asleep before 10, then up just after midnight to let cats in (too cold for them to be out all night), and try and get ds off his phone and into bed. Then woken at 3am by ds phone ringing (he was in with me) - it was his dad :eek: I answered it and said that ds was asleep and it was the middle of the night, and ex didn't speak at all but I could see him (Facetime). Strange, and I can't help but wonder if he's still reading on here. I can't imagine why he thought 3am was a good time - but ds did wake up and I told him that his dad was obviously not angry with him as he was trying to get in touch, but we should wait until daytime to call him back if he wants to.

f0xh0les wrote: »

Oh gosh poor DS and poor you too! Do you think that with all the 'blue Monday' stuff and all the self harm and suicide stories on the news that he is worried for his dad's mental health and fearing what might happen? Poor little chap.
It is still controlling behaviour though innit? dropping out of their lives and causing them worry.
Hugs to all the cat-family.

DS is a kind, sensitive soul who takes after both of his parents in terms of anxiety and worry, but he's way more like me in terms of putting other people's feelings before his own. He is worried for his dad's health and wants his dad well, like he was in the summer, so that he can see him again. It's hard to explain to a 10 year old that dad has to want to do this for himself and as it stands, he hasn't reached that point yet. I really, honestly thought that at some point ex would learn how to adult. I've divorced him, am in the process of taking him to court, about to report him to child maintenance and still he's hiding from everything. I honestly don't know what will give him the kick he needs to get some professional help, but it's not my concern any more. I just need to make sure the kids are ok, and ds seems ok so far this morning.
Anyway, I was up for the cats at 6am but went back to bed until half past eight and then finally got up for the day. As always, I've written a list of things to do, which are mostly marking but also getting caught up on here, with some stuff around the house and spending time with kids and cats and doing some very important relaxing. I feel this is quite important after the busy and sick times of the past few weeks. The cough is definitely on its last legs HSL - thanks goodness for that. It has had me floored at one of the worst possible times.
Right then - time to get on with something.

crazy_cat_lady

Hello :hello:
Two days in a row? I must have broken the back of my marking, right? Or just completely avoided it and hoped it would go away :rotfl::rotfl: Seriously, I love exam marking - so much so that I have completed 2 of the three papers I'm marking, but this third paper is so hard I feel like it wants to kill me. I have done all sorts of reading and trying to make it all feel a bit better, but I am struggling a lot more than I would like to be. I should put a positive spin on it and say I love a challenge, but in reality I'm quite scared of getting it wrong because I want to do a good job. The comfort is that all examiners find this one tough to mark. I still have a long way to go with it but at least I have made a decent start now - breaking the marking into smaller chunks has been very helpful indeed. And I'm getting lots done, which is excellent as I actually had a day off from marking altogether yesterday :eek: - really shouldn't have done that, but we were snowed in and I just wanted to snuggle under fluffy blankets, which I did.
However, first I walked into town with ds (couldn't get the car out of the street) to cross some frogs off the list. Picked up the tickets and currency for the holiday :j, picked up a parcel and also bought some more cat litter. Also got a couple of bits at bee and emm as I don't go there often, but we needed some milk etc in the house and Mr S aren't delivering until tomorrow.
Got back, had lunch then I dozed on the sofa for an hour or two - fresh air must have worn me out :rotfl: Then I decided it was a relaxing crochet day and not a busy marking day.
Blimming cold during the night last night - I have my thermostat set at 12 degrees and the heating was on during the night. I felt v guilty about one of the cats being out but she had insisted on going out at 10pm and there was no sign of her at 11pm or 4am. I got told off once she got home at 6am though...
So braved taking the car out to do my tutoring today - the money rolls in but I'm still missing bestie. Apart from that I've spent the afternoon marking, procrastinating and also getting little jobs done. Mark 1, do 1 other job and repeat. It has made me more productive than I thought actually Hope the rest of the snow and ice will melt overnight so I can be less stressed commuting in the morning.

SpekySquarehead

Sounds like you had a nice weekend, with the best of both worlds.

When's the holiday? I bet you'll all be looking forward to it.

crazy_cat_lady

Hello :hello:
Quick check in from me as I have more marking than I can manage waiting for me :cool:
Just a mini whinge - my boiler has packed up. And I mean packed up - no lights, no power, nothing. The positive is that I have a friend whose hubby is a gas man, and he's squeezing me in tomorrow. The bad news is that he sounds like a terminal error with the central unit and the boiler will need to be replaced. Worse news is that is going to cost me £1600. At least I have plenty of blankets and so much debt now that another £1600 barely registers. It just makes me want to cry in the longer term. And there's been a mess up with my exam payments as well - for some reason I am not being paid into my bank account any more, but by cheque which is an unbelievable pain in the bum.
10 days until hols. Still need to check that sister and bestie are keeping an eye on the place and that the cat sitter is coming as planned. However, I have a tight deadline to meet first.

beanielou

Keep plodding.
As you say a pain in the bum about the cheque

wishingthemortgaheaway

Oh no, not good at all.
Keep going, you will come out the other side of this.

Honeysucklelou2

You have my sympathies about the boiler...mine has not been working and the service engineer says it's too old to be able to get parts to fix it :eek:. I've bought a couple of small oil filled radiators which have helped.

CCW007

Oh lovely, just what you didn't need now . I take it the blankets are crochet