Would you leave your house to daughter only and not between son and daughter?

marliepanda

Poor_Single_lady wrote: »

I don't understand really.

The son is very wealthy and the daughter isn't. i don't think it would be a mystery to him why he hasn't been left the house.

it doesn't mean the son is loved Less.

A persons will is their wishes. If they want to leave things a certain way it's up to them. I get that most people feel it should be 50/50 but I just feel if they want to give it where It is most needed then surely that's a better use of money.

The son is mortgage free with £250k in the bank so it is arguable that he may just put the money in the bank and not even use it.
On the other side of the fence The house would be life changing for the daughter and it would make a big difference to her everyday.
I think people are well justified in sending their money where it's most needed when they are no longer here.

Maybe the daughter would flog the house and spend it on whatever she’s spent it on all these years to have no security at her age...

badmemory

I think the very least any reasonable person would do is let the son know he is going to be disinherited. This would at least give him the heads up to change his own will. Not that I think being mortgage free & having £250k in the bank can be considered wealthy, well-off yes but not wealthy.

calleyw

badmemory wrote: »

Not that I think being mortgage free & having £250k in the bank can be considered wealthy, well-off yes but not wealthy.

Glad someone else thought that.

I suppose to some its a huge amount. But we don't know what he has sacrificed to get that.


Yours

Calley X

Marvel1

Poor_Single_lady wrote: »

I don't understand really.

The son is very wealthy and the daughter isn't. i don't think it would be a mystery to him why he hasn't been left the house.

it doesn't mean the son is loved Less.

A persons will is their wishes. If they want to leave things a certain way it's up to them. I get that most people feel it should be 50/50 but I just feel if they want to give it where It is most needed then surely that's a better use of money.

The son is mortgage free with £250k in the bank so it is arguable that he may just put the money in the bank and not even use it.
On the other side of the fence The house would be life changing for the daughter and it would make a big difference to her everyday.
I think people are well justified in sending their money where it's most needed when they are no longer here.

What about the reverse, give it all to the Son as he made smart choices, and 0 for the Daughter as made bad ones?

Poor_Single_lady

If the person making the will left all to 1 child -either one, then that is their decision.
It's not the children's money unless the will says so.
So yes. If the will left all to the son and that was the intention of the person leaving the money then that would be ok too.

I feel like you should only worry about your own money, you shouldn't expect inheritance even from your parents. You should expect nothing any accept anything you get gratefully.

When mine die I won't be thinking about "my" share of the house. But this thread makes me feel like I'm the only one.

badmemory

Well I just hope the son finds out BEFORE his sister cons him into paying for the funeral. I assume that the brother & sister already don't speak. If they do don't expect it to last. How long do you think it would be before he is asking himself seriously about his relationship firstly with his mother & then secondly his sister's relationship/power over their mother. If he isn't warned beforehand then it will be a disaster waiting to happen.

This is not about the money, after all if you need care in a home there may be very little left. But it is down to perception & what I would perceive from this would not be a good family relationship.

onomatopoeia99

Poor_Single_lady wrote: »

If the person making the will left all to 1 child -either one, then that is their decision.

Of course it is their decision, but the fact that they can does not mean they should.

If the will left the entire estate to Comic Relief (other charitable causes are available) and nothing to the children that would be fine IMO. The problem is where a parent favours one child over the other, because doing that is a complete parenting failure, at least I think it is.

Keep_pedalling

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Of course it is their decision, but the fact that they can does not mean they should.

If the will left the entire estate to Comic Relief (other charitable causes are available) and nothing to the children that would be fine IMO. The problem is where a parent favours one child over the other, because doing that is a complete parenting failure, at least I think it is.

What rot, there are many quite justifiable reasons to treat children differently financially, and in this case there are a couple. The son is reasonably well off and has no, and never intends to have, any children. The daughter is poor and has a child to support. An inheritance of any significant amount is likely to help more than one generation of your descendants, but that is not the case when the recipient is childless.

We have split ours 50/50, but that could change if their situations changed significantly. What I would consider a failure would be to leave them to find out only when you died.

Poor_Single_lady

But that is precisely what I don't understand. I don't see why the children should be given equal amounts.

The way I see it the children's only concern is what they themselves receive.

They don't need to concern themselves about what the other sibling got because that is between the deceased parents and the other sibling and it has nothing whatsoever to do with the anybodyelse.

Marvel1

Poor_Single_lady wrote: »

If the person making the will left all to 1 child -either one, then that is their decision.
It's not the children's money unless the will says so.
So yes. If the will left all to the son and that was the intention of the person leaving the money then that would be ok too.

I feel like you should only worry about your own money, you shouldn't expect inheritance even from your parents. You should expect nothing any accept anything you get gratefully.

When mine die I won't be thinking about "my" share of the house. But this thread makes me feel like I'm the only one.

Nope, I never had anything from my grandparents, it was to be shared, but I refused, I don't like being handed money from family, I earn my way.

I even told my parents to leave (if anything) to my brother and his kids.